Okay, so I was one of those boys growing up who was repeatedly reminded that I was not "a real boy" and as I got older "not a real man." And it is that insult that I think we have an acknowledgment that gender is more than genitalia. The people who hurl that invective would never admit that, but I don't see how it is not true.
In my insecure days, I tried to do things that proved I was in fact a real man. I am gonna catch flak for this, but I quickly proved to myself that not only having male genitalia but -- ahem -- rather well endowed male genitalia was not, in itself, enough to prove to the "real men" of the world that I was one of them. There was just something about me that said I wasn't a real man.
So, what I want is a discussion on this point. Is a "real man" a gender? Is its antithesis, which is equally a male archtype, a sissy, a gender as well? Also are there other male genders? Or have I read too much into this?
So, let's discuss this in the comments. Give me your thoughts on males and gender.