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I feel like I've lost a brother.

The tragic loss of Robin Williams has hit us all quite hard. When my roommate broke the news to me, I shouted out my disbelief with a loud, "No!" Classic case of denial, as if my disbelief would make it not so.

It might seem incomprehensible to most people that such an amazing talent would resort to such a desperate act, but I would beg you all to take a biblical approach when tempted to judge the man and his final act.

Judge not, lest ye be judged.

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No one knows the depths of pain that another person deals with. No one. The life experiences and battles fought, do damage that cannot be seen by others.

For too long we have looked at disorders of the mind as something to be hidden, denied and locked away with the family skeletons in the closet. With this devastating loss of humanity, one of our greatest talents and brightest stars, this issue cannot be denied any longer.

Depression is real. It's debilitating and as we now see, it's a potential killer of mankind, mere mortals as well as famous stars.

I struggle with it myself, and what's more disturbing to me is that I was struggling with the very feelings that Williams had at the very same time. He chose his way out, yet I chose to stay and fight. I can't blame him. I won't blame him. Honestly, if I'd had the means, I might have taken the same trip.

If you're one of the many who believe that Depression is just an excuse for being lazy or spoiled, or if you think that Mr. Williams was selfish for taking his own life, I would ask you to research the effects of long term depression, a disorder that is sneaky and that robs a person of their self worth and will to live.

If the disorder is not genuine, if it's just a made up illness, if it's all in the mind, as some would have us believe, then why did it take down a man so beloved by all? Why couldn't Williams, who so clearly had millions of fans and thousands of friends, reach out for help? I'll tell you why.

There is physical pain that goes along with depression. A gut wrenching ache that permeates your soul and darkens your vision. It's said that comedy is borne of pain and tragedy. If so, we can only measure how hopeless Mr. Williams might have felt by the brilliance of his work. It's clear to me, that his was a tortured mind.

The point of all of this is a simple one. No one can know what it's like to walk in your shoes, to swim in your pool of emotions and feelings. If you feel hopeless, worthless, unloved, unwanted or that the world would be better off without you, I would ask that you say that to someone. I would ask that you relay the pain you're feeling, that you believe just the smallest bit in life and allow someone into your world to help.

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  •  Tip Jar (6+ / 0-)

    You take the blue pill, the story ends, you wake up in your bed and believe whatever you want to believe. You take the red pill, you stay in Wonderland, and I show you how deep the rabbit hole goes. -Morpheus/The Matrix

    by Kaos on Tue Aug 12, 2014 at 07:48:47 AM PDT

  •  It is simultaneously possible... (3+ / 0-)
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    Kaos, Front Toward Enemy, JeffW

    ...to experience deep sympathy for someone, and for someone's depressed condition, and to experience disappointment in that person's decision to end their pain by distributing it to others.

    Nobody who's never experienced clinical depression can understand what it is like. No one who's never walked in to find their loved one's corpse can understand what that's like either.

    The best you can take away from something like this is positive memories of the departed and a reminder to tend your own mental and spiritual garden carefully.

    Almost everything you do will seem insignificant, but it is most important that you do it.

    by The Termite on Tue Aug 12, 2014 at 07:59:35 AM PDT

  •  the way Doug Stanhope once put it... (1+ / 0-)
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    JeffW

    He said that suicide is like walking out of a movie before it's over.  If you do it when you're young it's worse because you probably didn't give it enough of a chance, but if you sat through a lot of it and decided it's not likely to get better, people can't blame you overmuch if you walk out early.

    It's not a good thing to do in a lot of ways.  It's selfish, for one, but, we all have a right to be selfish now and then.  Robin Williams was a hugely generous man in most ways, so it's hard to begrudge him a selfish act, even though we're all a little pissed that he didn't stay around and give us more, and left a lot of loved ones behind. Some say it's "cowardly," but I don't think that's particularly true... it takes some bravery to make a decision that big.  And it's not like he didn't fight it for a long time.  You can't say a guy who fought it for, what, over thirty years just "gave up."

    But, nobody has all bad days.  He cheated himself of some good ones.  There's a lot of good books he won't be around to read, and a lot of good movies he won't get to see, and a lot of making-people-happy he won't get to experience.  So, even though he gave things a good long chance before he did it, it's still tragic, and it's still crushingly sad.

    But, I won't judge him for it.   I'll still wish he'd found some other way to avoid it, though.   Sometimes it's best to tough it out 'til the end credits, even when the movie's not very good, just so you can laugh at how bad it was later.  And who'd anybody rather make fun of a movie with than Robin Williams?

    Sad thing.  

    "Glenn Beck ends up looking like a fat, stupid child. His face should be wearing a chef's hat on the side of a box of eclairs. " - Doug Stanhope

    by Front Toward Enemy on Tue Aug 12, 2014 at 09:39:50 AM PDT

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