I'm Not Sure Why I Hate Obama-haters

Can someone help me articulate these vague feelings?

Maybe it's the lemming thing.  Maybe it is the extrapolating to ridiculousness thing.  Maybe it's the fact they forgive their guy's (or gal's) blunders but not his.  

Maybe because, by their logic, I'm a racist.

My great-grandmother (Grammy we called her) didn't like black people.  Come to think of it, she didn't much care for non-English/non-Germanic people.  As an adult, I knew that and never once said a thing about it to her.  I hugged her and kissed her and told her I loved her.  I didn't agree with her, but that didn't lead me to ostracize her.  It didn't change my love for her a bit.  By the same logic used to label Obama as "anti-gay", I would be labeled as racist.  In fact more so, because I was way closer to Grammy than Obama ever was or will be to McClurkin.

One time as a child my father heard me say, "Eeny meeny miny moe, catch a nigger by the toe", and spanked me for it.  I was maybe 4 years old.  I had no idea what a "nigger" was.  We lived in a small Midwestern town of 1800 white people.  That was just the way I learned the rhyme.  So at one point in his life, my father was deeply against that sort of stuff.

During my teen years we moved to the deep South.  Over the 20 years ensuing, he changed.  He spent too much time around good 'ole boys and ended up assimilating.  As a young adult I heard him several times use the racial slur he beat me for as a child.  

So like McClurkin, he started out one way and changed at some point to a point of view I find horrible and disgusting. I fussed at him about it, but never stopped loving him and never drove him away.  By dKossian logic, that makes me racist.

I'm really not worried about how this community views my racist behind.  I don't care.  What I'm worried about is how I am going to tell my family?

Barack Obama is a good man who will be a friend to the gay community.  If you let one association with one misguided soul affect you so, you won't support any Dem candidate, cause they all have rubbed elbows with scum.