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|Legal Adventures and Emma Sulkowicz
My father believes that we no longer live in a man's world. In his eyes, a politically correct worldview in which women dominate and are always given the benefit of the doubt has taken control. One ...
Not given to wine, no striker, not greedy of filthy lucre; but patient, not a brawler, not covetous-1 Timothy 3:...
|Tales of a Rejected Juror
Unexpectedly, my last name and juror number are called in the very first pool, within an hour of arrival in the early morning. I follow a circuitous, winding, frequently halting course from room to ...
|Podcast Quackery and False Masculinity
One of the benefits of owning an iPod is the ability to peruse iTunes and its extensive collection of free podcasts. I'm a relative newcomer to the podcast genre, though I do see their appeal. If I ...
|Time for the End Game
My life, at times, resembles a state of schizophrenia. In the work I do, the two do not meet. In a very real sense, I have to switch back and forth between two languages. In my faith journey, I am ...
|Film review: Kurt Cobain: Montage of Heck
Teenagers of my generation grew up idolizing Kurt Cobain. It would have been hard not to, for he and his group Nirvana were huge successes. Nirvana were massively popular in a way that only Radiohead,
|UK Election 2015: Turnout, Women Candidates, and Scottish Nationalism
Yesterday's election in the UK was a shocker. A race that almost everyone expected to be nail-bitingly close was anything but. Exit polling by the BBC released shortly after the voting ceased proved ...
|Sports and Risk-Taking Abilities
The Academy Award winning 1953 film From Here to Eternity tells the story of Private Robert E. Lee Prewitt. Earlier in life, before joining the army, he was a successful boxer, but he hung up his ...
|Prayers and Light for Baltimore (and Beyond)
I wrote what follows specifically to my Quaker Meeting, but also to any who would hear my message. It is a brief open letter.
|An Open Letter to Activists
Enclosed is an open letter to activists and true believers alike. Continue the good work you are doing, but recognize that being a standard-bearer comes with its share of grief. If you see your role ...
|Grief: A Story of Losing a Friend
Today, a close friend of mine would have turned 34. He died two years ago from a severe, and rare form of brain cancer. He developed a large tumor behind the optic nerve of the right eye, which as ...
|Leaving Room for Novices and Good Intentions
Much of my life these days has me stationed inside of hospitals and doctor's offices. Part of treating a recent medical problem has involved lengthy phone consultations with a doctor. Much to her ...
|How Far We Really Want to Go
I won't pretend to say that I understand the African-American experience as regards law enforcement, or any of it, really. But what I will say, as a white man, is likely to offend some. I've never ...
|When There is No There There in a House of Worship
This past Easter Sunday I decided to skip Quaker Meeting and attend a high church Episcopal service instead. My religious past was low church Protestant, as is true for most of the American South. I ...
|Cynthia Lennon: How We View Our Heroes
Cynthia Powell, better known by her married name of Cynthia Lennon, passed away yesterday from a swift bout of cancer. She was seventy-five years old. Powell was Beatle and rock 'n roll legend John ...
I'll tell you a story that happened to me relatively recently. On a very extended road trip to a conference, a woman riding along with me self-identified, during conversation, as queer. I made the ...
|The Fallacy of Celebrity Opinion
Once again, I pause to ask why we care what celebrities think. Even though some of them possess a kind of nominally activist sensibility that is minimally informed by fact, more celebrities speak in ...
|The Evolving Face of Teacher/Student Sex
In a disturbing and relatively recent turn of events, several female high school and sometimes even female middle school teachers have been arrested and charged with inappropriate sexual behavior. ...
|The Hate that Hate Produced
Approximately once a year, I end up in the middle of a heated conversation online. Though it changes no one's mind, I try to use it as an example of how not to be goaded into losing my temper. I'm ...
|What Makes a Strong Woman?
A little over ten years ago, I presided over my recently deceased grandmother’s funeral visitation. This is what most of us are called to do a few times in the course of one lifetime. Wearing a ...
|Shaking Hands with the Devil for Health's Sake
I write about my disability regularly because I don't want it to remain invisible. Within the disability movement itself, there are distinctions based on means of perception none of us can control. ...
|The Travails of a Modern Day Writer
I minored in creative writing when I was in college. If you looked at my transcript, it would say English , but I was given the freedom to take multiple writing workshops. I wasn't asked to enroll ...
|The Poster Child of Gender Dissonance
Because I'm feeling a little emotionally vulnerable due to medication withdrawal, I'll risk a topic I usually consign to the proverbial recesses of my mind. My bisexuality is only one aspect of my ...
|Winning Friends and Ignoring the Rest
Earlier last week I wrote about a Quaker resource center in DC , William Penn House, under threat of closure. Since then, it has been established that the real culprit here is a local government ...
|Quaker Center in DC Under Threat of Closure
The William Penn House has been a crucial hub of Quaker activity in Washington, DC, since 1966. It is a combination of watering hole and resource center where many of our local activities are ...
|Happy Birthday, Abraham Lincoln
Today is Abraham Lincoln's 206th birthday. Those of my grandparent's generation celebrated this holiday with unflinching loyalty. Now, the day goes by scarcely noticed. Wall calendars neglect to ...
|Marriage Equality Comes to Dixie
For those who do not live in blue enclaves as I do, it's easy to forget that once every American lived in very homophobic times. Among people of my generation, the forty and below set, being LGBT is ...
The crowning achievement in my life has yet to be realized, but I can point emphatically to my absolute worst moment. I was in the midst of a manic episode severe enough that I believed in obscure ...
|The Oversimplification of Islam and Terror
I first learned about Islam some years before 11 September 2001. During my senior year of high school, a religion class was offered as an elective, and I took it. Prior to the events three years ...
|Chloe Angyal and the Roots of Rape Culture
Before I begin, I want to state that I’m a Chloe Angyal fan. A feminist, a columnist, an activist, a lover of romantic comedies, and a former dancer, Angyal has been blessed with many talents. ...
|The March for Life and the Limits of Religious Choice
I was on the subway yesterday on my way to an appointment. As I approached the platform, about to board the train, I noticed that at least four cars, maybe more, were completely full. Their contents ...
|A Seat at the Table for the Mentally Ill
I lost the ability to sleep naturally, to the best of my reckoning, about eight years ago. To keep away insomnia, I take a very strong sedative that doubles as an antidepressant. Last night I didn't ...
|Beyond the Queer Eye
Today I celebrate an otherwise invisible anniversary. It has been ten years since I became a professed feminist, though I suspect I was one a long time before I quite deliberately pinned a label to ...
|Don Siegleman: The Wrong Cause for the Wrong Reason
I know this post will likely not be received with much support or much enthusiasm. It will probably draw lots of criticism, but I cannot be silent any longer. The legality of Don Siegelman's ...
|Selma and the Legacy of George Wallace
The recently released film Selma includes a scene between President Lyndon Johnson and Alabama governor George Wallace. Wallace's son has penned a passionate defense, believing that the film ...
|Tales of a Former Football Player
Now that another college football season has concluded, I'd like to finally share my own story. It is by turns commonplace and unique, indebted as much to tradition as it is to the next big thing. ...
|What Do Women Want?
The great question that has never been answered, and which I have not yet been able to answer, despite my thirty years of research into the feminine soul, is 'What does a woman want?' Sigmund Freud ...
|Transparency and the Quaker Meeting
I was gently eldered (disciplined) earlier in the week for the content of some of my writings, here and in other venues. As I was told, many Friends see Meeting for Worship as a safe, confidential ...
|Good Christian People
In a gathering of Quakers, a man only a few years older than me discussed his dilemma. He was a college professor and professed Christian, but confided to the group that he deliberately used ...
|Book Review: Nick Drake, Remembered for a While
The just-released don't-call-it-a-biography will please both the casual fan and obsessive completist of Nick Drake's music. For starts, it is in large part the work of Nick's sister, Gabrielle, who ...
|Suffer Unto Us
But Jesus called them unto him, and said, "Suffer little children to come unto me, and forbid them not: for of such is the kingdom of God." The majesty and eloquence of the King James Bible does ...
|The Mind of the South
Now that I have relocated nearly 750 miles northeast from the South, I have moved from a solidly Republican region to a solidly Democratic one. I'm happy where I live, but I am more refugee than ...
|Street Harassment as a Class Issue
A brand new grocery store has been recently built a block from my apartment. To clear my head in between work assignments, I visit several times a week. Unwittingly, I've attracted the attention of ...
|Ferguson and the Legacy of Bombingham
The last year or so I have watched incidents of racially-based police brutality and violence and have not added my own voice and my own perspective. The reason for this is simple. I'm weary of ...
|You Can't White Knuckle Relationship Success
In most of my writing, I make a point to leave partners and significant others out of them. This is partially an act of benevolence, but mostly a need to keep at least a few secrets to myself. Even ...
|New Thanksgiving Experience
I saw the two of them seated together, next to each other. One of them was an old acquaintance of mine, a woman I’d nearly dated years before, though we retained our friendship. In medical school, ...
I originally wrote this post as an open letter to my Meeting, Friends Meeting of Washington, DC. In it, I reflect upon the romantic notion of a perfect Thanksgiving and the way it often turns out ...
|What Makes a Male Feminist?
Around a week ago, the writer Alexis Scargill wrote a column entitled “ Kindness and Generosity: Insidious Male Entitlement and the Mask of Male Feminism ." Scargill's post set its sights squarely ...
|Political Failure is Not the End of the World
Ever since the Midterm elections ended, badly, liberals have been looking everywhere for answers. They feel betrayed by the Democratic Party and disappointed by President Obama. Every election cycle ...
|Sexual Assault Cuts Both Ways
In Blount Country, Alabama, a young female teacher has been accused of performing sex acts and exchanging sexually graphic texts and pictures with three of her male students. What transpired over ...
|Wars Fought in Peacetime
On this Veteran's Day, I usually write about being a pacifist Quaker on a day devoted to eulogizing soldiers and those involved in active combat. I have, however, little more to add to the discourse.
|Encouraging Voluntary Conversion, Not Winning Souls
During a recent support group for people with anxiety disorders, I mentioned that I was a Quaker. The moderator was extremely familiar with Friends terminology, even knowing our Testimonies (...
|The Feminist Points Game
I freely admit that I borrowed the format of this column from another source. In this case, it is a prior column entitled "The Quaker Points Game" , written by Richard House. It was originally ...
|Sylvia Plath, Unconventional Gay Icon
Gay icons, as regularly defined, are frequently campy, eccentric women in the entertainment industry. The first that comes to mind is Cher and, more recently, Lady Gaga. But they are far from the ...
|Transgender Lives, Transgender Rhetoric
I am proud of my house of worship in many ways, but its progressive stance towards LGBTs is a major reason why. Organized religion has unnecessarily and gratuitously wounded many queer attenders to ...
|Legalizing Marijuana in Washington, DC
In ten days, disillusioned Americans will be privy to a low-turnout election, one that will showcase massive voter apathy. The ballot in the District of Columbia will elect a new mayor, retain and ...
|George (Fox) and Me
Well before I read the story of George Fox 's trials and tribulations as a young man, I did my own wanderings. Fox, for the uninitiated, was the founder of the Religious Society of Friends, commonly ...
|The Case for Pornography
I bring this topic up with some reluctance. Speaking with such frankness makes me inclined to pick my words carefully, cautiously. I have to thread a needle delicately, to make my arguments air-...
|Sports Fans and Anti-Fans
I write on the cusp of game day, the sacred Saturdays where college football is played. In Alabama, football consumes the energies of a small state (Population: 4.5 million) without its own ...
|Pacifism, Not Passivism
"Do not suppose that I have come to bring peace to the earth. I did not come to bring peace, but a sword. For I have come to set a man against his father, and a daughter against her mother, and a ...
|The Changing Face of Child-Rearing
Mom got married at 19 and wanted kids immediately. She’d been the youngest of four and wanted about that many herself. My father was amenable to both of her desires, but wanted the two of them to ...
|Love and Disability
I manage to fall in love, or at least develop a strong infatuation with many of my therapists or medical practitioners. Male or female, it really makes no difference. During an especially heavy ...
What follows has been weighing on my heart. I have a bit of a personal quandary that is testing my Quaker faith and my belief in pacifism. I would greatly appreciate your advice and feedback, should ...
What follows has been weighing on my heart. I have a bit of a personal quandary that is testing my Quaker faith and my belief in pacifism. I would greatly appreciate your advice and feedback, should ...
During my recent trip, there were many unforeseen sights and sounds. A house of prostitution set up shop in the rooms around my own. Personally, I consider prostitution a victimless crime. Like the ...
|Back-patting Activism, Bandwagon Jumping, and Feminist Thought
I know I’m late arriving to the action, but I wanted to reference the recent Emma Watson speech regarding women’s rights. Watson’s rhetoric, overly simplistic and incomplete as it is, ...
|Square Pegs: A Review
Decades before Sex in the City , Sarah Jessica Parker won a degree of renown for her leading role in the CBS television sitcom Square Pegs . A time capsule of the early Eighties, or at least some ...
What is divinity if it can come Things to be cherished like the thought of heaven? Divinity must live within herself: Passions of rain, or moods in falling snow; Grievings in loneliness, or ...
|Good News for People Who Like Bad News
I was 13 years old. The combined forces of high estrogen and high testosterone had turned my classmates into strange creatures, alien even to ourselves. We had no idea what to expect next from day ...
|Bisexuality and the Real Truth
"Do you have any problems with dating a bisexual?" This is question three, following the ever-popular "Do you want children?" when on a first date with a woman. There's no need to beat around the ...
|Reforming government controlled Health Care
When the Affordable Care Act was being considered many progressives clamored for a single payer system or, as they put it, Medicare for all. Medicaid was expanded, at least for the governors of ...
|The Fappening and a Right to Privacy
The so-named Fappening that occurred earlier in the week showed the prodigious, but highly unethical skills of internet hackers. A variety of private nude pictures and videos belonging to female ...
|Pen and Brush: Supporting Women and the Arts
I recently talked with Janice Sands, Executive Director of Pen and Brush, a NYC non-profit that supports the work of women artists. I spoke at length to her about the mission of Pen and Brush and ...
|Tolerance Means Escaping Ourselves
If it were my decision to make, I’d make my frame a little less broad, a little less prominent. In group pictures, I stick out prominently as the largest person in the frame. In a recent ...
|Film Review: The Amish, Shunned
A recently released PBS documentary is entitled The Amish: Shunned . Over the course of its nearly two hour long running time, the lives of five or so who have chosen to leave the church are ...
|Runnin' Away, to Get Away
The public school system where I grew up has changed considerably. Now it is home to a substantial minority population of African-Americans and Latinos. When I was there, the demographics were ...
|A Plea for Mental Illness Research
Quakers were one of the first groups to clamor for decent treatment for the insane. We demanded that insane asylums were clean and the care of doctors dignified, not condescending or punitive. We ...
|Ferguson's Festering Is Nothing New
Ferguson, Missouri, reminds me more of the past than the present. Those of us erstwhile liberals want activists and ordinary people alike to turn out in great numbers for parades and demonstrations. ...
|Looking for a Sign
One of the largest reasons I was first attracted to the Religious Society of Friends was the life and ministry of George Fox. I’ve told people before that if I ever strike it rich, I want to have ...
|At The End of Life
I'm greatly indebted to the Friends Meeting where I became a Quaker. One of the long term members, who has never been anything but polite and cordial to me, is in the last stages of her life. She's ...
|A Few Words Before College Football Season
I really enjoy this time of year and wanted to share a story about my own football career. It's rather modest, but I think there's a few worthwhile bits you might like.
A few hundred years ago, many legitimate critiques could be made of religion. It was often punitive, restrictive, bloodthirsty, hypocritical, and two-faced. Heretics were tortured or burned at the ...
|When Someone Attacks Your Religious Beliefs
I want to thank readers of my blog for being tolerant and accepting of my posts about organized religion. It is a pleasure to write not only among fellow Quakers but also among fellow believers. You ...
|What Makes a Gay Icon
The original gay icon, at least the one recorded for posterity, was Judy Garland. Girlish and sweet, but vulnerable, she captured the affections of many gay men. Accordingly, the Stonewall Riots ...
|Greed, Avarice, and the Inevitable Doctor's Bill
I spent yesterday in futile pursuit of a psychiatrist. After filling out an hour's worth of paperwork, I met with a rushed, rude doctor who acted like the only reason he was even talking to me is ...
|The Religion of Love
When I first started writing, I took a very narrow focus because I was finding my own voice. For a while, I wrote almost exclusively about politics. As part of a collective, the same fifty of us ...
|Two Faces of Poverty
The civic duty of every citizen, I have decided, is to kill three hours a year re-certifying or signing off on some new regulation or another. This is how I spent my Monday morning. The service ...
|Who are the Next Generation of Prophets?
What follows is my own story. I include it to heighten awareness of what often goes unsaid and unspoken. The problem is as old as the human race itself, but like war, it continues. Everyone with an ...
|Trigger Warnings: You'll Know Them When You See Them
I experienced substantial trauma early in life. Piecing together the few memories I have of those times has produced a skeletal narrative, one that has frequently frustrated me. From time to time, ...
|When Parents Retire
My parents planned out their retirement methodically, much like Josef Stalin, with their own five-year plan. The did it the way the television commercials say you’re supposed to go about it. Mom ...
|A Queer Controversy in Worship
Before I write another word, I need to qualify my remarks. What follows is not an attempt to retaliate or to prove my superiority. I'll use my exact words from a listserve post that appears to have ...
|Hobby Lobby and Quakers
Most of the time when I hear or read about something offensive a Christian group has done, I almost never have to worry that Quakers have somehow been to blame. That is until now. Right on the heels ...
|Saturday Bible Study: Pearls Before Swine
This is a response to a vocal ministry I gave this past week. I would very much like to know your thoughts and life experiences. I'm sure there are some very rich, very enlightening stories that ...
|Queer Activism: What I Left Out
On Monday, I wrote a post I entitled " Queer Activism: When We Are Our Own Worst Enemy" Since then, I recognize that I may need to hash out a few points in greater detail.
|Queer Activism: When We Are Our Own Worst Enemy
Two years ago, I attended a three-day long conference for queer Quakers. The name of the festivities was a typically awkward acronym, one that made sure to use L, G, B, T, I, and Q in sequential ...
|Movie Review: Pretty Baby
The 1978 film, Pretty Bab y, was a controversial study of sex work and underaged sexual conduct set during the early 20th Century. These days, it has become something of a late Seventies curiosity, ...
|Weddings, Not Nearly As Objectionable As You Might Be Led to Believe
Being that we are now several days into June, with July almost upon us, wedding season has arrived with great abandon. Three invitations have arrived in my mailbox thus far, some elaborate, some ...
|Camp, Conferences, and Evasive Behavior
Now that the start of summer has been formally reached, it’s the time for the young to experience a particularly cherished rite of passage. By this I mean camp. The theories long-propagated by ...
|A Prayer for Persistence and Reform
Mr. Camp, it is my professional opinion that you have bipolar disorder. Many people who have been informed of bad news like this take it differently than I did. They describe their immediate ...
|The Fear that Hate Produced
In recent months and years, feminists and women's rights activists have been making extra effort to show the direct impact of rape culture. In particular, they've used first person narratives to ...
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