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  •  I Now You Don't Think This (6+ / 0-)

    but if you said this to my mom:

    Women were essentially "registered" with their new "owner" when they got married much like transferring the title of a car or house.
    My mom would be standing over you punching you in the face. Then curb kicking you!

    Again I know you were using it as an example.  

    My mom is a rockstar. About my best friend.

    When opportunity calls pick up the phone and give it directions to your house.

    by webranding on Tue Feb 12, 2013 at 01:19:03 PM PST

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    •  Violent denial does not change (8+ / 0-)

      ... the ancient basis of societal traditions.  As strong as your mothers feelings, and your feelings for her, may be, that is essentially the basis of women changing their names upon marriage:  their being transferred from one man to another.  Its presumption defines women as second-class citizens.

      GOP Agenda: Repeal 20th Century.

      by NormAl1792 on Tue Feb 12, 2013 at 01:24:46 PM PST

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    •  What we do today when women (6+ / 0-)

      change their names when they marry is to keep with that old misogynistic tradition.   And that's the history of where that "custom" of name changing comes from.  

      In the old days (that I remember so well) women formerly lost their names completely when they were formerly referred to as

      Mrs. (insert husbands name here)

      I distinctly remember mail coming to my mom and grandmothers addressed as such.  It was as offensive to me then as it is now.  Thankfully, that practice has become extinct.

      It's actually more difficult for women to keep their name when they get married - at least it is here.

      Standing up for her rights - your mom sounds like a rock star!

      And while I'm kind of ranting away, I'm sick and tired of telemarketers and folks who don't know me asking for "Mrs" (my last name).    They're pretty shocked when I tell them that my mother passed away years ago, but that is a reflection on their poor judgement thinking that every woman is somehow attached to a man.  Don't even get me started being asked if I'm "the woman of the house".

      There already is class warfare in America. Unfortunately, the rich are winning.

      by Puddytat on Tue Feb 12, 2013 at 01:51:16 PM PST

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      •  I Don't Know What My Only Niece Is Named (2+ / 0-)
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        Mudd (his wife) or Young (my family).

        Honestly never thought to ask.

        Maybe a few of my other comment have not been clear. I could care less. What they want to do as parents are there own thing and I could care less. I mean I care, but I care about what they care about.

        When opportunity calls pick up the phone and give it directions to your house.

        by webranding on Tue Feb 12, 2013 at 01:58:52 PM PST

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      •  Bah! I was happy to get rid of my maiden name (4+ / 0-)
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        I was happy to divorce from my family.

        No one on the east coast has ever heard of it, no one can pronounce it, and my extended family owns the ND Republican party lock, stock, and barrel.

        I didn't even keep it as my middle name, since I like my first and middle names.  It's gone, good riddance.

        Now I have two first names, since my married name is also a woman's first name, and I'm okay with that.

        I think as long as women - and men - have the choice of which name to take or keep - then it's okay.  

        The Cake is a lie. In Pie there is Truth. ~ Fordmandalay

        by catwho on Tue Feb 12, 2013 at 03:58:59 PM PST

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