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JdimytaiDamour https://www.dailykos.com/news/JdimytaiDamour News Community Action Copyright 2005 - Steal what you want Tue, 28 Jan 2020 00:55:51 +0000 Tue, 28 Jan 2020 00:55:51 +0000 Daily Kos rss@dailykos.com (Daily Kos) Daily Kos rss@dailykos.com (Daily Kos) Remembering the Martyr of Black Friday (Why I Will Not Shop Today) https://www.dailykos.com/story/2013/11/29/1259088/-Remembering-the-Martyr-of-Black-Friday-Why-I-Will-Not-Shop-Today Black Friday has never been the same since 2008. That year, it turned from something mildly annoying to something approaching evil. I know, I know. You're already calling me a Debbie Downer. I know, I know, I'm probably too late to stop you from shopping the Big Boxes today. But if I could, I would. Yes, I'm a junkie for consumer electronics. Yes, I love to buy as much as the next guy. Yes, I know and understand that retail sales will help drive economic recovery. Blah, blah, blah... But there is something about Black Friday that reveals the dark underbelly of our consumerist economy. There is something about the pushing, shoving crowds, eager to save a few bucks, that causes the skin to grow cold. There is something about the gleeful TV reporters, interviewing the early shoppers like they are some kind of modern-day heroes, that makes me sick. You see, I can't help but remember the Martyr of Black Friday. Do you remember him? He was a Haitian immigrant named Jdimitai Damour. who worked at a Wal-Mart in New York State. And on Black Friday, 2008, he was trampled to death by hoards of shoppers who apparently did not see, or did not care, that a man's life was at stake. What makes his death even more surreal is that he was apparently not a small man. He was a big guy. But there is something about the push of a hoard that can overwhelm anyone. This story has captured me so much that I wrote a song about it last year. You can hear it <a href="http://wheneftalks2.blogspot.com/2011/11/new-song-martyr-of-black-friday.html">here</a> The best recounting of his death I ever read was from the LA Times, and reporter Erika Hayasaki. A good portion of that story is below, with a little editing for space.... <blockquote>   CRUSHED IN THE RUSH FOR BARGAINS     by Erika Hayasaki     "He took his last breath on a gray floor, between a row of soda machines and a device that disperses change for cans and plastics.     Trampled by a mob of bargain-hungry Black Friday shoppers, Jdimytai Damour, 34, died by asphyxiation, leaving people across the world asking: Why, and how?     Audio-enhanced chatter captured on a cellphone video posted on YouTube, along with interviews with witnesses, offers a hint. The video shows a police officer crouching by a 6-foot-5, 270-pound man lying at the entrance of a Long Island Wal-Mart. A paramedic pumps the man's chest so forcefully his limp legs and feet joggle. Shoppers peer in from behind glass doors, as others stand a few feet away, hands in pockets.     "They need to shock him," a voice says. The paramedic stops pumping.     The man's shirt has been pulled to his neck, revealing his large belly. A woman in the crowd mutters "pregnant." Another cracks a joke.     The women begin to laugh.     The trouble began well before the sun rose.     Just after 1 a.m., Jennifer Jones, 25, and niece Alicia Sgro, 14, parked themselves behind the 200 or so early shoppers, in front of the Valley Stream store, 20 miles east of Manhattan. Jones wanted the 32-inch plasma flat-screen TV on sale for $388. Sgro hoped to pick up DVDs, like "Cloverfield," on sale for $2 to $9.     Dressed in heavy coats and a blanket, they brought Pop-Tarts, muffins and Chex Mix for the wait. The couple in front of them wanted the $25 microwave. The guy behind wanted the $5 blender.     By the time Nakea Augustine showed up at 3:15 a.m. on Nov. 25, the line had grown to 1,000, snaking down to a National Wholesale Liquidators store, stopping near a fire hydrant....     By 3:30 a.m., the crowd had grown to 2,000, and Jones and her niece decided to fold their chairs, standing to mark their territory. In the 30-degree darkness, their bodies felt hot-glued to everyone else. The line began to heave and sway, like a tugboat dragging its vessels through a heavy current...     Shortly before 5 a.m. an announcement went over store intercom: "Doors are about to open in the next five minutes." As opening got closer, people started counting down: "Five, four, three, two, one!"     Augustine saw a worker inside begin to open the door, slowly. Suddenly, everyone started pushing from all directions. They knocked the door off its hinges. A worker tried to use it as a shield, but the glass shattered.     The crowd ran right into the soda machines. Pop Pop and others darted to the side where Damour had been, and held the machines in place as the crowd surged forward.     He didn't see Damour anymore...     Augustine tried to keep her balance as she was pushed forward. She saw people fall and knew she had to keep moving or she'd fall too. One woman had cuts from the glass across her face. Augustine saw Damour sprawled out. She managed not to step on him.     Durell George, 26, who works in Internet sales, heard people screaming and tried to jump out of their way. A woman in brown pants and a long coat fell but others pulled her to the customer service section. George went to see if she was OK.     Augustine kept going, down the jam-packed aisles, still moving with the crowd, still heading to the deals. People guarded the televisions so no one else could grab them. Augustine raced for the toy section and snatched up a bike, a dollhouse, 10 Hannah Montana dolls for $5 apiece.     Two hours later, Augustine checked out, just as the store announced it was closing. She got in line, and spent $495 on 36 items. She did not know what became of the man who had fallen to the ground.     Pop Pop had continued to staff the door, but word eventually spread through the employees that Damour was dead. Paramedics took his body away and police declared the area a crime scene. Pop Pop joined other workers in a prayer.     Later, Pop Pop thought of his daughter. She works at the same Wal-Mart, but was off on Black Friday. It could have been her, he thought, or him...     Nearly a week after Damour's death, candles burned next to photos of him, atop an altar near the spot where he died. People left comments in a condolence book:     "So sorry that people did this to a young and honest hardworking gentleman."     "You damn animals, there was no reason to rush in like a herd of cattle and kill an innocent young man."     "Jdimytai is an angel and he's not doing maintenance anymore."     On Monday, a coroner ruled Damour died from suffocation. On Wednesday, his family filed a wrongful-death lawsuit against Wal-Mart.     By Thursday evening, life at the store had mostly returned to normal. Bored-looking greeters stood hunched at the front doors. Workers rounded up stray grocery carts. Employees clocked out. Overnight staff clocked in.     Pop Pop came outside for a cigarette break, standing steps from where it all happened.     "To me, that boy got killed over $100, for a TV," he said. "When you see somebody on the ground, you just don't step on them and keep going. . . . That's somebody's life."     Damour's altar stood mostly ignored for nearly two hours that night. Customers rushed by without stopping, or even looking. They were too busy getting to the deals." </blockquote> Let's be clear: no bargain, no sale, no "one-day-only" deal is worth a human life. Not then. Not now. Not ever. In fact, it's an event like this that truly shows the final horror of Black Friday, and what it means for us. My friend and colleague, Rev. David Weber, well described it last year in a short post on Facebook. He said: <blockquote>"Americans stopped for awhile yesterday to give thanks for what they have, then rose this morning, early, and left the house, praying 'But it's not enough.' "</blockquote> Exactly. Frederick Buechner once said that if you really want to know what you value in this world, watch where your feet take you. As each year passes, I see the wisdom in this. The feet are a great barometer for,  and window to, the soul. The places we end up spending our time, the people we spend it with, the things we do, they show us, more than our words who we are and what we value. Yes, we SAY we value giving thanks. Yes, we SAY that we are grateful for the simple things --shelter, clothing, food, friends, family. Yes, we SAY that the "best things in life are free." But is that how we live? On Black Friday, as we watch the local news reports of the pushing, shoving crowds at our local stores, is there any evidence that we really believe this? No. Our feet tell us otherwise. They tell us we are still far too afraid and far too empty of all that really matters. We fill ourselves up with the latest gadgets. We convince ourselves that money is so tight that the few bucks we save today will somehow make some lasting difference in our family's lives. (Hint: it won't) Jim Wallis pointed all this out in a great blog several years ago. He writes:     <blockquote>The relentless pressure of advertising tells us that â€œthere is never enough,â€ and that you should â€œworryâ€ constantly about what you eat and drink, what you wear, whether your future is secure, and more. But Jesus says the exact opposite. They say, â€œWorry all the time!â€ But Christ says, â€œDonâ€™t worry!â€     The pressure we feel doesnâ€™t just come from the ads we get in our inboxes or see on television. All of us have family and friends who are going to be doing a lot of shopping. If a friend goes out and spends money on us, we feel guilty if we donâ€™t reciprocate at roughly the same level. Whatâ€™s worse is if someone gets us a gift and we donâ€™t get them anything at all. The problem is not giving gifts.  Giving gifts becomes a problem when the exchange of stuff replaces building relationships. </blockquote> Wallis notes the final insanity: All of this happens allegedly in the service of "holy days." The idea that the Christian holiday of Christmas --celebrating the birth of a poor peasant child into the world-- is appropriately marked by an orgy of consumer spending is INSANE. It's sick. It's a twisting and bastardizing everything that holiday used to mean. (And still does...) Christmas is about: PEACE HOPE JOY LOVE No amount of mall shopping can buy any of these things. That is why so many people are increasingly opting out of consumerist giving at Christmastime. At <a href="http://www.northaven.org">Northaven</a> , for example, we'll begin our "Alternative Gift Market" next week. It's a very simple idea: members pick out one of a dozen agencies in Dallas and beyond that works with the poor, the homeless, lgbt rights, women, children, etc... Then, they give a donation that we forward on to those agencies (100 percent of it. We pay for any overhead internally...). The member then gets a card to give to their loved one that says: "A gift has been given in your honor to (Christ's Foundry) or (Reconciling Ministries)" or about a dozen other agencies that are familiar to our members. That way, people give gifts of real meaning; and gifts that actually help others! There's no pushing. There's no shoving. And, more than any other kind of external gift, the people who get these gifts can know and understand that they are cared and loved....because the whole process is simply a "paying forward" of the gifts we've been given. The beauty is, you don't have to do this through our little "Alternative Gift Market." You can do it through hundreds of agencies and groups near and dear to your heart, or the hearts of those you love. Wallis suggest what we most need in our society is to move from "greed is good" and to "enough is enough." I think he's right. If Thanksgiving means anything, it should remind us of the thousands of blessings we take for granted each and every day. Our lives are dripping with blessings. If you have forgotten this, start with the big ones: food, clothing, shelter. Do this today: Open up the crawl space, and take a look at the furnace in your house. I mean this literally. Use your feet to take you there (remember: they teach us what we value) go and LOOK at it. Then, go check the outside temperature. And give thanks for the heater. Give thanks for every day it works. Yes, it sounds silly. But sometimes we have to start there to really remember and realize the extent of the blessings all around us. And the more content we become with who we are, with what we have, with all of our gifts (large and small), the less we'll have the need for "MORE." At the Jim Finley Retreat last year, he cited a prayer that is attributed to the Buddha (although apparently he probably didn't say it.) It's a prayer of Thanksgiving that breaks down thankfulness to its more basic component: <blockquote>"Let us all be thankful for this day, for we have learned a great deal; if we have not learned a great deal, then at least we learned a little; if we did not learn a little, then at least we did not become sick; if we did become sick, then at least we did not die. So, let us all be thankful."</blockquote> All gratitude begins with gratitude for the gift of being alive right now, and for the gift of things like food, clothing, shelter, friends. And! The more we give thanks for the "big" blessings, the more we'll be able to see and recognize all the small ones in our lives too. Every great religious tradition speaks of this kind of "mindfulness" or "paying attention." Jesus did it when he called us to "consider the lilies of the field," and the "birds of the air." The more we meditate on simple things like this, the less we'll worry about tomorrow. And the more content we will become with who we are. The more that "hope, peace, love and joy" and spread into our hearts, and keep us from mistaking the love of family or friends with the love of a new XBox 360. Honor the holidays. Honor your loved ones. Honor Jdimitai Damour. Make difference choices this holiday season. You can celebrate the real reason for the season. And nobody has to die. rss@dailykos.com (ericfolkerth) Black Friday BlackFriday Consumerism JdimytaiDamour Protests Walmart _1259088 Fri, 29 Nov 2013 18:04:47 +0000 Remembering Jdimytai Damour, The Martyr of Black Friday https://www.dailykos.com/story/2013/11/29/1259067/-Remembering-Jdimytai-Damour-The-Martyr-of-Black-Friday A song for Jdimytai Damour, the Haitian immigrant, killed by a hoard of Black Friday shoppers at a New York Walmart in 2008. I am gratified to see all the protests against Walmart, nationwide today. I know that workers and their supporters are not only supporting themselves, but also remembering and honoring his life. <object height="81" width="100%"><param name="movie" value="https://player.soundcloud.com/player.swf?url=https%3A//api.soundcloud.com/tracks/121893847&color=ff6600&auto_play=false&show_artwork=true&show_playcount=true&show_comments=true" /> <param name="allowscriptaccess" value="always" /> <embed allowscriptaccess="always" src="https://player.soundcloud.com/player.swf?url=https%3A//api.soundcloud.com/tracks/121893847&color=ff6600&auto_play=false&show_artwork=true&show_playcount=true&show_comments=true" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" width="100%" height="81" /></object><a href="https://soundcloud.com/eric-folkerth/the-martyr-of-black-friday">The Martyr Of Black Friday</a> by <a href="https://soundcloud.com/eric-folkerth">Eric Folkerth</a> <a href="http://wheneftalks2.blogspot.com/2010/11/martyr-of-black-friday-why-i-wont-shop.html">Here's a blog</a> I wrote about Black Friday and the death of Jdimytai. rss@dailykos.com (ericfolkerth) Black Friday BlackFriday Death JdimytaiDamour TrampledtoDeath Walmart _1259067 Fri, 29 Nov 2013 16:01:14 +0000 2008 Walmart Massacre: See What Our Greed for Money has Done! https://www.dailykos.com/story/2012/11/12/1159564/-2008-Walmart-Massacre (Originally drafted in 2008)      I never was on time for Mom's Thanksgiving dinner.   I'll spare you the guilt reducing stories of how that dinner was never on time either.  The truth is I was usually late.  Drivng there each year,  I was presented the same distraction:  "Alice's Restaurant."   That's right- at 3:00 Chicago time, Arlo Guthie's 18 minute 34 second lyric dissertation  on Thanksgiving,  garbage removal, crime scene photography and the draft hit the air with a predictability I held sacred.   My parents had a copy of the album stowed away in their warm living room, but once I’d been in it for five minutes, there really was no point in getting out of the car until it was over!  I’d sit at the curb, wearing down the car’s battery, anticipating every line.   It held no surprises-I knew the song well – but, after a late holiday morning’s chaos spent hunting for an iron, pulling cat hair off my ‘good’ sweater, burning something in the kitchen, and breaking speed limits to get there, Arlo gave me a reason to sit still for a moment and ‘shift my consciousness,’ so to speak, before commencing with the celebration.   Mom occasionally caught me, staring out through curtains.  She’d send out one, or two, or all of my siblings to see what was what, but they’d end up joining me in the car until Arlo wrapped it up with the chorus- twice, of course.        Living in a different city, I still hear this song, which has become a widely held tradition- far beyond the curb of the street by Mom's house.   It comes on at noon here, and is rarely an imposition on anyone's dinner expectations. Occasionally I forget and miss it.  When I do, I feel like something is lacking in my Thanksgiving.    In those former days, after Mom’s holiday feast, dessert, a round of turkey sandwiches and the washing of the dishes, I’d drive home while finding Christmas jingles and sales ads flooding the airwaves.  That sudden shift towards generating a merry “Christmas Shopping Spirit,” often seemed contrary to my already satisfied mood.   So at home, in the peaceful stillness, rather than studying the sales flyers and setting the clock radio for 4:00 am, I’d dig through my cassette tapes for more Guthrie music.  It became an unlikely tradition of mine to stay up late and listen to him sing his father Woody’s, “1913 Massacre.” Read on... rss@dailykos.com (Andiandi) 1913Massacre AlicesRestaurant Black Friday BlackFriday BuyNothingDay DoorBuster guthrie JdimytaiDamour satisfied Walmart _1159564 Mon, 12 Nov 2012 17:23:39 +0000 How Much Is A Worker's Life Worth? $7,000 https://www.dailykos.com/story/2009/5/27/736067/-How-Much-Is-A-Worker-s-Life-Worth-7-000 <img align="right" alt="Walmart Guilty" src="http://i226.photobucket.com/albums/dd173/ChangeToWin_photos/walmart-guilty.png" /> <a href="http://www.changetowin.org/connect/2009/05/walmart_responsible_death.html">(Crossposted at the Change to Win blog, CtW Connect)</a> Remember back in November of last year when we told you the tragic story of Jdimytai Damour, a 34-year-old temporary worker at a Long Island Walmart who was crushed to death by a mob of shoppers storming the store for Black Friday deals? Well, OSHA has completed its investigation of the incident, and they've found that Walmart's negligence was responsible. But you won't believe how shockingly toothless America's workplace safety laws have become. Learn the details -- and how you can help turn things around -- after the jump. rss@dailykos.com (ChangeToWin) Change to Win ChangetoWin JdimytaiDamour Labor OSHA Safety Unions Walmart Workers _736067 Wed, 27 May 2009 22:29:03 +0000 Looking Back at Wal-Mart, and Looking Forward to Something Else https://www.dailykos.com/story/2009/1/27/689519/-Looking-Back-at-Wal-Mart-and-Looking-Forward-to-Something-Else As a community we've had a lot of discussion here at Daily Kos, most of it around a month ago, surrounding the tragic death of Djimytai Damour at a New York Wal-Mart on Black Friday. We discussed what it meant to live in a society in which human beings would <a href="http://www.dailykos.com/storyonly/2008/11/29/152657/00">trample one another</a> underfoot for a deal on a TV. We remarked upon Wal-Mart's <a href="http://www.dailykos.com/storyonly/2008/11/29/12144/704">bizarre conception</a> of its relationship with temporary workers. We stood aghast at the company's tendency to view every event, even a tragedy such as this, through the <a href="http://www.dailykos.com/storyonly/2008/12/3/211620/571">lens of profit</a>. We argued about whether it was <a href="http://www.dailykos.com/storyonly/2008/12/3/161925/893">Wal-Mart's fault</a>, and we discussed what the store might have <a href="http://www.dailykos.com/storyonly/2008/12/4/153333/084">done different</a>. My friends at <a href="http://www.wakeupwalmart.com/">Wake-Up Wal-Mart</a>, with whom I'm proud to work, raised money here for <a href="http://www.dailykos.com/storyonly/2008/12/19/131924/52">Damour's family</a>. rss@dailykos.com (satyr9us) corporateresponsibility Daily Kos DailyKos JdimytaiDamour LeanaLockley Tragedy Wal-Mart Walmart _689519 Tue, 27 Jan 2009 17:24:33 +0000 How Wal-Mart Could Have Prevented the Death https://www.dailykos.com/story/2008/12/4/669367/-How-Wal-Mart-Could-Have-Prevented-the-Death I'm outraged about the death of a Wal-Mart employee on Black Friday.  And I've fumed about it -- offline -- to my friends at <a href="http://WakeUpWalmart.com">Wake Up Walmart</a>.  But for the sake of this diary and out of respect for the deceased, 34 year-old Jdimytai Damour, I'm just going to offer some constructive ideas for how this tragic death could have been prevented. rss@dailykos.com (JDalton) Black Friday BlackFriday JdimytaiDamour Wal-Mart _669367 Thu, 04 Dec 2008 20:44:38 +0000 Trampling victim's family sues; Wal-Mart's response? "Look how much money we made!!" https://www.dailykos.com/story/2008/12/3/669090/-Trampling-victim-s-family-sues-Wal-Mart-s-response-Look-how-much-money-we-made OK, this is hardly a shocking development, but I'm glad to see that it's <a href="http://www.cnn.com/2008/CRIME/12/03/walmart.lawsuits/index.html?eref=rss_latest">going forward quickly</a>, instead of waiting until the media eye has wandered off to other matters: <blockquote> NEW YORK (CNN) -- The family of a man trampled to death in a New York Wal-Mart on Friday filed a lawsuit Wednesday, claiming the store failed to control the crowd pushing to gain entry on one of the busiest shopping days of the year. </blockquote> rss@dailykos.com (Brainwrap) Corporate Greed CorporateGreed JdimytaiDamour TramplingVictims Wal-Mart _669090 Thu, 04 Dec 2008 02:24:05 +0000 Should Walmart Be Found Liable For Trampled Man's Death? https://www.dailykos.com/story/2008/12/3/668964/-Should-Walmart-Be-Found-Liable-For-Trampled-Man-s-Death The family of Jdimytai Damour, the man who was knocked to the ground and trampled to death at Walmart has filed a lawsuit against the retailer.  The lawsuit alleges that Walmart was negligent in providing for the public safety in staging, conducting and advertising the sales event.   rss@dailykos.com (sweetliberty) CauseofAction JdimytaiDamour Walmart wrongfuldeath _668964 Wed, 03 Dec 2008 22:45:13 +0000 Killed Wal-Mart worker a temp, not an "associate" https://www.dailykos.com/story/2008/11/28/667441/-Killed-Wal-Mart-worker-a-temp-not-an-associate I hope the issue I'm addressing on this isn't seen simply as a duplication on the recommended thread. Jdimytai Damour, the 34-year-old Queens resident who died from a heart attack during the stampede at the Green Acres Mall Wal-Mart in Nassau County, was not a Wal-Mart "Associate" but a seasonal maintenance employee contracted by Wal-Mart through a temp agency. This is going to raise an assortment of issues, but what I'd like to start with is the official statement from Bentonville: We take seriously the safety of our customers and associates. Damour was neither, so although I'm sure they didn't mean to, the suits pretty much said he's fair game, collateral damage, whatever. rss@dailykos.com (textus) Black Friday BlackFriday JdimytaiDamour tempagencies TemporaryEmployees temps Wal-Mart _667441 Sat, 29 Nov 2008 06:55:47 +0000