Okay, I lit a fire. I let it burn. And, I’ve had a good cry over this. Yes, I AM emotional. And thank you to those who have been defending me throughout this thread at the risk of your own reputations. I truly appreciate it.
Someone asked me if I had experienced rape. Why that matters escapes me, but no, I have been lucky. I have not been raped…..yet. But I have been hit. I have been economically trapped. I have been verbally and emotionally abused since I was a girl.
I’m a 60 year-old widow. I never used to consider myself a feminist. I was too busy working…I worked HARD. I have been a construction carpenter and built homes and commercial buildings in Kansas, Colorado and Texas. I have run maintenance departments for hospitals. I worked my way up and became an Occupational Safety and Security Director at the corporate level. All male dominated professions.
And every man in my life in one way or another has let me down. Every. Single. One. Father, brothers, husbands, bosses, men who at one time I considered friends. All of them.
Am I bitter? Hell yes! Am I angry? How can I NOT be angry? And it isn’t just for me. I am angry for my granddaughters. They are only little girls….4 and almost 2. And their lives are not going to be any better than mine. They may even have it worse than I have had.
Women around the world, not just in the US or Canada, are going backwards….and who is dragging us there? I leave that question open for you to answer.
Some in this thread want to HR me…or get me banned. I guess that is how they handle things they don’t like to be confronted with. Things that make them uncomfortable to think about they want censored. So much for free speech? Free for me but not for thee, eh?
I will not apologise for the way I feel. And NO not ALL men are bastards…but those who are not are way too few. And men DO run this world. And those who claim they do not have any power don’t know what not having power really is. It’s called “male privilege”….
Are their healthcare choices being legislated? Are THEY being told to sit down, shut up and be nice? Are they earning less money than women? Are they being beaten and/or killed by the hundreds of thousands by those who claim to love them?
Are they considered “evil” or “unclean” by their respective religions? Are elected officials and big mouthed shock jocks making moral pronouncements about their behavior?
I have pointed this out in several places and no one has seemed to notice it…so I am going to highlight this… All around the world, if a woman is raped, she is likely to be dismissed as lying by the male dominated justice system at best, and at worst, killed by their men for “allowing” themselves to be raped. Are men treated in this same way?
Are they being shot in the face for daring to want an education? Are they being kidnapped en-mass by religious fundamentalists, sold into ”marriage” and forced to convert their religion? Are they being held in basement dungeons and tortured for decades in the US and elsewhere as sex slaves?
Maybe a few. But the number is miniscule compared to the suffering of women in this world.
At one time women were revered and held as true equals to men. We brought life into this world and were respected for it. Women were leaders and healers, teachers and hunters, farmers and crafts persons. And then somehow things got way out of balance. Men became afraid of women’s power. Why I have no idea. But it is clear that they did. A great deal of effort was put into re-writing history, the Bible and other religious texts that held women as equal. Those women who had intelligence and talent and were outspoken, those who were old and had experience, those who were too pretty and considered too sexual…well 300 years of genocide took care of them.
Some archeologists tend to think that women were the drivers/inventors of agriculture, language, and the tools of civilization. And yet today we have less of a say in our lives and the lives of our children than did our Paleolithic sisters.
What the hell happened? How did things get so out of balance…? What are men so afraid of that when confronted about the misogyny in this world that they rush to silence women like me when we become angry about being treated like a tool of war? Why are they so defensive if they have nothing to be ashamed of?
I have been accused of promoting hate. I don’t hate men. I AM angry at them as a whole, because while many claim to want things to change… All I see are our societies going backwards for women.
I have been accused of sexism…That makes some really uncomfortable… a taste of what women suffer with DAILY is pretty bitter, isn’t it?
We are objectified and we are marginalized. If we complain we are “overly emotional”. If we stand up for ourselves we are “ball busters” or “bitches”. But men doing the same are considered “macho” or “aggressive” or “a straight shooter” or….well, you get the idea…IOIYAM…..
I am sure I will get blasted for this update too. For some nothing short of my declaring defeat and deleting this diary in the face of THEIR outrage will do….I say to them….don’t hold your breath.