How VERY, VERY many articles do we have to see from mainstream media about “Men Aren’t Doing Well?” They often blame the success of women for making men feel inadequate and un-wanted. Too many women are getting advanced degrees, too many women own their own house, blah, blah, blah.
Where are the headlines about men killing their intimate partners — almost 3 women per 100,000 per day in America? That’s not MY number, it comes from this: data.worldbank.org/…
So, they don’t do as well in school = a crisis for our society, but men murdering women is something normal that we’re used to. It’s not an emergency or anything. Don’t be so hysterical ladies! If we keep repeating these statistics, along with the number of women who are date-raped, raped by strange men, molested by their family members or clergy or coaches, we’re just man haters! We might make them feel badly! We might hurt their feelings with that shrill talk of toxic masculinity.
Pay attention to the narrative. It’s all about MEN. They voted for Trump and it’s OUR fault because we didn’t try hard enough to get their vote. How far SHOULD we have gone to get their vote? Should we have stopped talking about how they make more money than us?; they are too likely to murder us? Should we stop talking about how these crazily over-qualified women are just too hard for them to vote for but rapists, felons and grifters are more likable? THEY don’t have an annoying laugh or wear pantsuits! Now men are suffering but maybe WE should have run a MAN for president to help them feel more comfortable? It’s no accident that Joe Biden was elected but not Hillary Clinton or Kamala Harris. I loved Joe, but did we really think he was more qualified than Elizabeth Warren?
But, but, not ALL men….. Yeah, but WAY too many men!
Now you just sound like one of those SHRILL feminists! You need to ask men nicely for your rights, not make them feel accused! Don’t show ANGER because you fear for your life, your daughters’ lives, your girlfriends’ lives! That makes men feel defensive! This is the equivalent of the old-time argument I heard as a child, “I’m not against equal rights (for blacks) but they shouldn’t be MILITANT about it!
When are white men militant and shrill? LOL!, Trick question! They CAN’T be shrill or militant! That’s just leadership! Kamala is a “HOE” because she had an affair! Trump isn’t a hoe! He dates and marries them! See the difference?
Yes, I have a son. He is a doctor. He doesn’t need to have some woman play small to make him feel manly. He didn’t fall behind in school because he knew he was expected to shut up and pay attention to his (even female) teachers and do the homework. He was raised to think EVERYONE, is equal, period, full stop. “Boys will be boys?” Not in my house! Boys will be compassionate and decent is more like it.
We live in a society that glamorizes male violence to such a degree that we don’t even talk about it anymore. It’s not new or newsworthy. It’s just normal.
I don’t accept this. I don’t care if men aren’t doing well in school, dating, buying houses, if they are lonely; I don’t care until they stop killing 2.9 women per day in America. I don’t want to take joy in the fact that working class men will get screwed harder by Trump & co. than all those educated women will be, but it’s very difficult to not feel that they needed this cosmic two-by-four upside the head. For those who did NOT vote for the orange stain, I feel nothing but compassion, but let’s NOT go the martyr route this time. Let’s not hand-wring about how we could have reached these Trump voting men as if it’s our fault. After all, PAIN is an excellent educator for those who can get the lesson.
Finally, let’s question the default narratives of our mainstream media that keep wanting to center the issues of white male voters as the “normal” concerns while the rest of us wait to be seen.
