This is a rant diary about gay marriage being held up to a standard of perfection that is unrealistic and cannot be achieved in the heterosexual population yet. When a prominent gay marriage fails there's a lot of finger pointing as in I told you so it couldn't and wouldn't work. This is especially true when there are children involved and there are voluminous concerns that the children are now screwed up because of a broken gay marriage, as if kids don't get screwed up in the divorce proceedings of a heterosexual marriage. Gay people can't and shouldn't be held up to an unrealistic standard of success. Gay people are human just like the rest of the population. We make as many mistakes as everyone else. We are as deeply flawed as everyone else and we probably get involved in infidelity at the same rate as everyone else. So why is it that every gay marriage in existence has to be an exemplary paragon of perfection. It can't be. It is a human relationship and humans are imperfect people prone to failure, be there gay or hetero.
Exactly the same thing is true of transgender relationships. We're all at the core human, none of us can stand the scrutiny of being held up to a higher standard because of our sexual orientation. It is only when we have finally come to accept that that we will have taken the first big step of ending discrimination based on a person's sexual orientation. Until that happens discrimination will continue and the tabloids will continue to have a field day over the messy divorces of gay and transgender people, who are going to fight for their kids, who are going to fight for their property and their survival, just like everybody else. Nobody really wants to admit it so I just did. I did it because I'm a long time lurker and first time diarist. I did it because I haven't seen this kind of a diary before and I was afraid I never would, so I wrote it and it's out there now. People can read it or they can ignore it. It's their choice. My choice was to write it, because gay and transgender marriage is here to stay for today, tomorrow and forever! We've got to learn to talk about it in exactly the same way that we talk about hetero marriages. Until we do we can't be equal. So maybe this diary is a start or at least it's my start.
