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I've been reading some disturbing news lately.  Actually, I'm drawn to it.  In a morbid sort of way, I want to verify if my nightmare is a solitary one or if this is (or has been) a social trend.  I'm leaning towards the social trend.

My 2 yr. old granddaughter is living with addicts and drug dealers.  Her parents have admitted to drugging her.  Neither DCF nor cops will do anything.  This has been going on for well over a year.  For a grandparent, it's overwhelmingly draining.  There are so many emotions to overcome, and new ones keep popping up all the time.  The expected ones (guilt, disbelief, hearbreak) are really tough.  The unexpected ones are UNBELIEVABLE.  They arrive in the form of shock, disappointment, rage, frustration and despair.  They are the result of confronting, head on, aggressive denial and verbal abuse from DCF and law enforcement.  In spite of what I know to be true, complete strangers insist that I'm delusional.  There is nothing to see here.  Move on.  And if you DON'T move on, you can be arrested for harrassment.  Got that?  Stop calling.  Stop reporting.  MOVE ON.      

So I wondered why nobody would do their jobs.  How many drug arrests are made per week?  Why not my grandchild's parents?  DCF takes kids from their homes all the time.  Why not her?  What's so special about this case?  Is it special at all?

Then I started reading about Deanna DeJesus. Since both she and her husband had sexually abused the children in the past, the question is why they were living with them at all.  
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/...

Scott and Amber Landry.
Drugged one child to death with oxycodone.  When DCF decided to take the remaining two, oxycodone was found in the younger one's urine as well.
http://heraldtribune.com/...

Christopher Davis.
According to the mom and dad, the 3 yr. old shot himself in the head with a semiautomatic pistol.  At 3 a.m.  The family lives in a drug area, and nobody in the paper reports what dad's "job" was.  Can a 3 yr. old really shoot themselves in the head?  Chris was released on his own "recognisance" (SP?)
www.fox4now.com/news/local/188238471.html

Once you're on the Ft. Myers/Naples WFTX-TV page, search for the story about the 7 yr. old shooting the 5 yr. old.  And a 5 mo. old's death...cops are "investigating" the parents cause they think it might be "suspicious".  

And then there's the infamous Casey Anthony.  "Zanny" the nanny.  NOT A PERSON.

Oh, my, I forgot the 5 mo. old Hallandale Beach child, missing for 18 mos.  His remains have been found behind his parent's previously rented house.  Just look at the photo.  If these folks arent junkies, then looks truly are deceiving.
http://www.orlandosentinel.com/...

Now, I was under the impression that abusing, neglecting, drugging and otherwise commiting bodily harm on a child was a felony in the third degree.  That's what Det. Kim Northfield of the Sarasota Sheriffs Office told me.  

More of these atrocities pop up in the news everyday.  The locals know what's up.  DRUGS.  What's the problem, Sheriff?  

Please help me put the sheriff's feet to the fire.  Please sign and share.
www.signon.org/sign/sarasota-sheriffs-office  

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  •  Can you go get your grandkids? (1+ / 0-)
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    mythatsme

    Yes, things like this happen.  Parents suffering from addiction can abuse and neglet their kids in ways that are astounding.

    Sadly, there is no way to use the law to enforce good parenting.

    Can you go and get your granddaughter?  Explain to the parents you are taking your granddaughter to the zoo (or whatever) for a couple of hours.  Then don't return.

    If your kids are deeply into narcotic addiction to the point of negleting or abusing their own child, it is possible those parents will welcome the interruption of their child-rasing responsibilities, and maybe do nothing more than continue to enjoy their drugs.  If they complain or press charges, you can explain to child protective services that the parents are addicts and are negleting the child.

    Alternatively, take the granddaughter to a pediatrician.  Explain that the granddaughter is being raised by abusive drug addicts, and you want a wellness check-up done.  Most states require physicians to report child abuse to state authorities.

    Best of luck.  What a rotten and painful situation.  If you are willing to take on caring for your granddaugther, you fully deserve all the giggles, hugs, sticky kisses, crayoned I Love Yous that she will bestow on you.  And more.

    "The fool doth think he is wise: the wise man knows himself to be a fool" - W. Shakespeare

    by Hugh Jim Bissell on Tue Jan 29, 2013 at 07:40:11 AM PST

    •  I have not seen my granddaughter in over a year. (1+ / 0-)
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      Our entire family has been forbidden to visit her.  Addicts are mean.  Casey Anthony would rather have drugged her daughter to death and left her in her carseat for days than allow her parents, or anyone else, to care for her.  The fact that you will not help them use drugs means you are deserving of the most cruel punishment.  Using another human being as a tool is not their concern.  Shockingly, DCF and cops abuse us as reporters.  I have been accused of being controlling, insane, manipulative.  It is an unimaginable nightmare.

      The petition is my grandchild's last hope.  I have called for numerous well baby checks.  You name the agency, I have contacted them.  From DCF to law enforcement to FBI, DEA.  I even contacted the pediatrician they were supposed to have taken her to.  I know, that this situation exists is unthinkable.  It's hard to believe.  That's why I need to publicize it.  IT IS HAPPENING.  EVERY DAY.  EXPOSE THE PUBLIC SERVANTS WHO REFUSE TO DO THEIR SWORN DUTY.

      Thanks so much, Hugh.  Please sign and share.  I will continue to  blog.  

      •  Try a bribe? (1+ / 0-)
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        Yes, for an addict, the first, second, and third concern is always the drugs; all other considerations are reduced to insignificance.

        This behavior is shocking, but also gives you some ammunition.  Have you tired offering the parents money, in exchange for face time with your grand-daughter (say, $1000 for a one-week stay at your house, or some other deal)?

        Sadly, sometimes arrest and prison time is the only hope, and some parents and loved ones are reduced to hoping the addict in their lives gets arrested.  

        I can understand if the addicts are calling you names, but if the police and state agencies are calling you manipulative and insane, you should re-examine how you are approaching those agencies.

        "The fool doth think he is wise: the wise man knows himself to be a fool" - W. Shakespeare

        by Hugh Jim Bissell on Tue Jan 29, 2013 at 09:12:32 AM PST

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        •  We've tried the $$$ offer (1+ / 0-)
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          and will continue.  So far, it hasn't worked.  
          As far as cops and DCF are concerned, I'm already on their shit list because I've reported. I've been nice.  A friend (who recently retired from the upper ranks of the sheriffs office) said its common behavior to demean victims.  Rick Scott has said that crime in FL is at a 40 yr low.....sure, because they are reluctant to arrest, not because there is no crime.  Those of us who live here know better.    

          •  You have done what you can (1+ / 0-)
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            So, you have made compalints to the police and local child protective services.  And you have asked the parents to see your granddaugther.

            You have done all that you reasonably can do.  The situation is beyond your control.  Now you have to accept that the situation is out of your hands.  And thinking that your granddaugther is imperiled makes the acceptance part of it very difficult.

            Can I also suggest a self-help group such as Al-Anon or Nar-Anon?  These organization are devoted to the problems of parents, spouses, and children who have a drug addict in their lives.  The organizations act to educate about addiction and strategies for those who have to deal with addicts.   Many people find such groups very helpful and swear by them.  Check the phone book or the internet for organizations near you.

            "The fool doth think he is wise: the wise man knows himself to be a fool" - W. Shakespeare

            by Hugh Jim Bissell on Tue Jan 29, 2013 at 10:52:54 AM PST

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            •  Please sign the petition (0+ / 0-)

              If you dont want to do that, fine.  Someone has to care, and caring means we take action.  I'm an activist; I cannot accept this as long as I live.  The system works for some people, and for those whom it does not I cannot remain silent.  

              I can only do 2 things.  1)  keep fighting  2) roll over and die.  My conscience allows nothing less.

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