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that I strongly urge you to read.  in No Country for Old Mores, in today's New York Times, there is so much good writing that I cannot hope to do it justice and remain within the bounds of fair use.

He writes about S. B. 1062, the noxious piece of Arizona legislation vetoed yesterday by conservative Republican Governor Jan Brewer.  '

He writes in the context of yet another state having it's gay marriage ban rejected as unconstitutional by a Federal judge, this time in Texas.

He writes in the context of even more evidence from polling data that increasing numbers of Americans are accepting of gay rights, including marriage equality, with the approval among young people skyrocketing, and causing many to leave the conservative religions of their youth precisely because of intolerant positions on social issues.

The implications for a Republican party that continues to flog positions such as the party's ongoing opposition to marriage equality are obvious.

The heart of the column is found here:  

Respecting the full humanity of another only broadens the humanity of the self.

No one asks that you affirm and approve the behaviors in another’s bedroom, only that you respect the boundaries thereof and keep your limiting measures and limited imaginations out of it.
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Sex, sexual and gender identity, and all proclivities of intimacy are personal and not to be dictated by committee or community. We must each follow the wanderings of our heart to find the place where we feel affirmed and fulfilled, both spiritually and physically. And as long as that is between consenting adults, that destination should be sufficient.

And, pushing fair use, there is Blow's brief concluding paragraph:  
We are greater than our base elements. We feel — love, sorrow, a need for connection, the pains of longing. And we aspire, in our greatest hours, to justice. S.B. 1062 and the Republican preoccupation that fuels it was simply not our greatest hour.
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  •  Tip Jar (112+ / 0-)

    "Don't ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive and go do it, because what the world needs is more people who have come alive." - Howard Thurman

    by teacherken on Thu Feb 27, 2014 at 01:51:25 AM PST

  •  Well said. n/t (10+ / 0-)

    "There must be something beyond slaughter and barbarism to support the existence of mankind and we must all help search for it."

    by camlbacker on Thu Feb 27, 2014 at 02:03:52 AM PST

  •  I have not recently felt I needed (23+ / 0-)

    to spend the time to share things like op eds.  I counted on others doing so, either in the APR or in diaries.

    This column was so good I wanted to ensure that people were aware of it.


    "Don't ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive and go do it, because what the world needs is more people who have come alive." - Howard Thurman

    by teacherken on Thu Feb 27, 2014 at 02:05:43 AM PST

  •  Isn't it odd..... (19+ / 0-)

    that the religious right is coming down on the side of Putin's Russia on the issue of LGBT discrimination?  Neither love freedom of expression.

    You shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you mad. Aldous Huxley

    by murrayewv on Thu Feb 27, 2014 at 02:26:14 AM PST

  •  Thanks (1+ / 0-)
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    nosotros no somos estúpidos

    by a2nite on Thu Feb 27, 2014 at 04:05:04 AM PST

  •  I have to say I love this part in particular (11+ / 0-)

    Respecting the full humanity of another only broadens the humanity of the self.

    Or as my adopted religion/philosophy would say, namaste

    Thank you for bringing this to my attention. You keep getting healthy.

    Der Weg ist das Ziel

    by duhban on Thu Feb 27, 2014 at 04:25:33 AM PST

    •  Sort of a variation of Nelson Mandela's (0+ / 0-)

      view that hating his jailers actually kept him in jail psychologically.

      •  it is (1+ / 0-)
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        Heart of the Rockies

        there's another Buddhist teaching along those lines as well

        Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.

        I also have seen a similar quote from I believe it's the Cherokee about how anger is like drinking poison and expecting your enemy to die.

        It was so odd for me at first and yet now well I not only could not see my life any other way I do not even want to try.

        Der Weg ist das Ziel

        by duhban on Thu Feb 27, 2014 at 03:07:51 PM PST

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  •  "Jim Queer" -- that could catch on fast (3+ / 0-)
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    Politics is like driving. To go backward put it in R. To go forward put it in D.
    Drop by The Grieving Room on Monday nights to talk about grief.

    by TrueBlueMajority on Thu Feb 27, 2014 at 05:21:34 AM PST

  •  Blow must have slept through HS biology (6+ / 0-)
    The capacity for procreation is, in fact, what defines a living thing...
    Um, no. No, it isn't. Else every human being unable to bear or sire a child for whatever reason--children, the elderly, the injured or infirm--is by his definition not alive. Which essentially contradicts his immediately previous paragraph.

    "Powerful" this column might be, but it surely isn't flawless.

    The greatest trick the GOP ever played was convincing the devil they had a soul to sell.

    by Uncle Cosmo on Thu Feb 27, 2014 at 06:23:55 AM PST

  •  All in a nice tweetable column (3+ / 0-)
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    annan, jayden, teacherken

    Thanks, ken. This type of diary is necessary because the issues Blow raises in this column are NOT everyone's main issues here.

    It's my issue, and I follow enough groups, people and tags that I have been bombarded with  the raw material that supports this column all week. But that's me. It's NOT necessarily the main issue for many of  the Kossacks I have come to consider my allies, and a diary from one of those allies like you spreads the word better than I usually can myself.

  •  I don't think the law was intended to "preserve (8+ / 0-)

    religious liberty". It was intended to aggravate a fault line in American society. Pick at a scab. Throw salt on a wound. gasoline on the fire.
    They keep looking at ways to create a fault line in which all Christians are on one side of the line.
    They fail at their larger goal, but they did succeed in aggravating.
    They hope to keep their base voters fired up, ready for Nov., meanwhile nothing's happening on the issues our voters care about, except for the good news that this bill was pushed aside.
    This was not a "religious freedom" bill, although even Al Jazeera had that on their morning headline.

    We should make a campaign issue out of the fact that the state legislatures are wasting millions of taxpayer dollars on crap like this that either is unconstitutional, and will have millions in taxpayer dollars spent in litigation, or simply will not do what it proposes, (preserve religious freedom).

    We shouldn't be satisfied with simply being happy this bill was shot down, we should be counter-attacking, hard, right now, and calling the competence of those proposing this legislation into question.

    You can't make this stuff up.

    by David54 on Thu Feb 27, 2014 at 07:09:04 AM PST

    •  They are looking for ways to make people (3+ / 0-)
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      feel like victims because that energizes them to vote in predictable ways--emotion swamping reason.

    •  In my view, it is violating one's oath of office (3+ / 0-)
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      and dereliction of duty to intentionally pass unconstitutional laws, to spend millions of dollars on lies and pandering and doing something that is patently unconstitutional/illegal.  This is not government.  This is show business.

    •  With any luck - it's done the same for our side (3+ / 0-)

      In fact, the move to create a new right to discriminate may have actually energized the pro-equality side far more than the anti-gay side, at least this time. The social media firestorm, the quick denunciations by corporate interests and the bad press all that engendered led to a pretty stunning reversal in near record time. I don't think I've ever seen GOP legislators actually admit they were wrong on an anti-gay vote within days of making the vote.

      We can only hope this move to create new anti-gay laws will only speed up the process of the rightwing alienating all but their more hard-core supports.

      Cruelty might be very human, and it might be very cultural, but it's not acceptable.- Jodie Foster

      by CPT Doom on Thu Feb 27, 2014 at 08:08:05 AM PST

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    •  Only (1+ / 0-)
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      They keep looking at ways to create a fault line in which all Christians are on one side of the line.
      if one perpetuates the fallacy that to be Christians one must be white, straight and evangelical... As a black man, the color of my skin marks me as "teh other" regardless of my religious inclinations or lack thereof. I could believe exactly the same things as the religious right with the same fervor (God forbid) and I still would not be deemed one of "them"...

      Fear doesn't just breed incomprehension. It also breeds a spiteful, resentful hate of anyone and everyone who is in any way different from you.

      by awesumtenor on Fri Feb 28, 2014 at 07:06:19 AM PST

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  •  Thank You (1+ / 0-)
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    Because this wasn't in my NYT newspaper today in Austin Tx.

  •  Charles M. Blow (2+ / 0-)
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    orlbucfan, teacherken

    has a brilliant and compassionate and sensitive mind.  The very first time I saw him I knew he was a shining star in the world of journalism and philosophy.  His thought processes and his way of composing the ideas he is communicating are something to see.  I follow him whenever possible.

    Thank you, teacherken.  Stay healthy and get stronger.

    Love & Peace

  •  "If you want others to be happy, practice.... (3+ / 0-)
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    merrywidow, jayden, teacherken

    compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion."  

     - H. H. the XIVth Dalai Lama  

    "When you do things from your soul, you feel a river moving in you, a joy...." - Rumi

    by LamontCranston on Thu Feb 27, 2014 at 07:46:42 AM PST

  •  And yet, there remains a possibility these freaks (1+ / 0-)
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    will take back the Senate.  Sigh.

    "Give to every other human being every right that you claim for yourself." - Robert G. Ingersoll

    by Apost8 on Thu Feb 27, 2014 at 08:04:02 AM PST

  •  Is it possible to be a liberal while NOT pro-gay? (0+ / 0-)

    Clearly AZ Gov.  J. Brewer did the right thing in not signing the anti gay legislation on her desk...

    And yet, there is  a gnawing sensation in my heart when I hear that gays cannot help who they are. It makes them sound like victims. Are we to support victimhood? Is that not to be complicit in weak-mindedness?

    I do know that my ephemeral body was born of the union of a man and a woman as was that of every gay person out there.

    I do know that my mind is all the power in the universe. Shall I then convince myself that our bodies, which are mortal, and impotent are more powerful than our eternal, all-powerful minds and vote for gay marriage, when my heart is not on board?

    I just wonder out loud whether we are serving the best interests of ALL in our swing toward Gay marriage. I certainly want gays protected from cruelty and indignity.

    But above all, I want everyone free of ego. Ego pits left against right. In order to be a 'good' liberal, I have to be pro-gay, when my heart tells me its not how God created us.

    Please be kind in your replies. I'm neither pro-gay, nor anti gay. I neither condemn nor do I condone. I believe in upholding what furthers God's Plan for the uplift of ALL mankind, and for that I have to trust my own heart, rather than let what is politically persuasive guide my own inner knowing.

    I have prayed all my life for the uplift of all mankind. I have made 35 trips to India in a determination to uncover the underlying cause of suffering, and have reached enlightenment. I'm not telling anyone how to live their life, however, nor am I willing to compromise on my own ideals.

    There must be a middle ground where we are not dishonoring of another person's rights, and yet true to our own inner knowing. If a gay couple came to my home, I would lovingly put them up in separate bedrooms, as I would with any couple who had not made a life time commitment. I believe marriage to be between one man and one woman, in a  'to death do us part' attitude. Why should I care? In my home this is where I come down. Out side of my home, I have no jurisdiction. Do what you honors your truth, however we are all one, and I am not willing to be complicit in that which I feel does not conform with the laws of Spirit, which are the same for all of us for we are all one.

    Can we achieve an enlightened society without being clear about what is and is not truly of spirit? Can we support both victimhood of the body and be in alignment with spirit? Can we get to the  Golden Age of love peace and joy for ALL mankind without clarity on what is God's Will for ALL His precious children?

    Thy kingdom come, thy will be done on earth as it is in heaven.

    •  And if the gay couple were legally married by the (0+ / 0-)

      laws of your state?

      Would you STILL treat them like a pair of irresponsible teenagers who must be kept from fornicating  because it offends YOUR morals?

      Make your attitude more widely known, and you can be DAMN sure that no same-sex couple will ever willingly darken your door. (Nor, probably, will anyone who has a gay member in their family, or among their friends, or just think it's nobody else's fucking business what two consenting adults do behind closed doors.)

      If it's
      Not your body,
      Then it's
      Not your choice
      And it's
      None of your damn business!

      by TheOtherMaven on Thu Feb 27, 2014 at 11:23:01 AM PST

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    •  One cannot (0+ / 0-)

      have his cake and eat it too. Your position is not nearly as nuanced or as 'enlightened' as you think. The moment we start looking to rationalize exclusion, we find ourselves assuming the role of that certain lawyer in Luke 10:

      Luk 10:25-37  And, behold, a certain lawyer stood up, and tempted him, saying, Master, what shall I do to inherit eternal life?  (26)  He said unto him, What is written in the law? how readest thou?  (27)  And he answering said, Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy strength, and with all thy mind; and thy neighbour as thyself.  (28)  And he said unto him, Thou hast answered right: this do, and thou shalt live.  (29)  But he, willing to justify himself, said unto Jesus, And who is my neighbour?  (30)  And Jesus answering said, A certain man went down from Jerusalem to Jericho, and fell among thieves, which stripped him of his raiment, and wounded him, and departed, leaving him half dead.  (31)  And by chance there came down a certain priest that way: and when he saw him, he passed by on the other side.  (32)  And likewise a Levite, when he was at the place, came and looked on him, and passed by on the other side.  (33)  But a certain Samaritan, as he journeyed, came where he was: and when he saw him, he had compassion on him,  (34)  And went to him, and bound up his wounds, pouring in oil and wine, and set him on his own beast, and brought him to an inn, and took care of him.  (35)  And on the morrow when he departed, he took out two pence, and gave them to the host, and said unto him, Take care of him; and whatsoever thou spendest more, when I come again, I will repay thee.  (36)  Which now of these three, thinkest thou, was neighbour unto him that fell among the thieves?  (37)  And he said, He that shewed mercy on him. Then said Jesus unto him, Go, and do thou likewise.
      The moment we ponder the question "who is my neighbor", we are also pondering  the implicit "and who is not". Rather than answer the lawyer's question, Jesus tells the parable and the flips the question... from "who is my neighbor" which makes that designation a  passive product of chance to  "who acted as a neighbor to the man who was waylaid by thieves" which makes it a purposeful product of choice. While it is wholly your prerogative to disapprove of a gay couple's sleeping together in your house, it is, naive to think that disapproval only exists while you are at home...

      Fear doesn't just breed incomprehension. It also breeds a spiteful, resentful hate of anyone and everyone who is in any way different from you.

      by awesumtenor on Fri Feb 28, 2014 at 07:36:41 AM PST

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      •  I think there is a different approach to parable (0+ / 0-)

        there are two parts with parallel structure

        Lawyer asks question

        Jesus, being a good Jew and a good teacher, asks lawyer what he things

        Lawyer answers

        Jesus affirms the answer

        First set is on eternal life.

        Lawyer is not satisfied, asks who his neighbor is - that is start of 2nd set of 4 questions, in which after the question about the neighbor Jesus tells the parable

        To me the real point is that if we are honest we already know the answer to the question.  The lawyer being a lawyer is trying to wriggle out of the responsibility he already knows

        just a thought

        "Don't ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive and go do it, because what the world needs is more people who have come alive." - Howard Thurman

        by teacherken on Sat Mar 01, 2014 at 06:20:57 AM PST

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        •  The gospel of Luke (1+ / 0-)
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          Has these kinds of encounters repeatedly... From his dinner at the house of Simon the Pharisee in Luke 7 to Martha's angry insistence that Jesus make her sister help her serve the guests in their home in Luke 8 to the encounter with the lawyer in Luke 10... In all of them Jesus is engaging someone convinced of his own rectitude and in each when they are weighed in Jesus' balance they are found wanting...from Simon's failure or refusal to meet the basic obligations of hospitality to Martha's insisting that her sister return to the place that society expected of her as a woman and as Martha's younger sister to this certain lawyer. The encounter with the lawyer and the subsequent parable are an object lesson in Jesus' teaching in the Sermon on the Mount where He says:

          Mat 5:43    You have heard that it was said, "You shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy." 44    But I say to you, Love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who despitefully use you and persecute you, 45    so that you may become sons of your Father in Heaven. For He makes His sun to rise on the evil and on the good, and sends rain on the just and on the unjust? 46    For if you love those who love you, what reward do you have? Do not even the tax-collectors do the same? 47    And if you greet your brothers only, what do you do more than others? Do not even the tax-collectors do so?
          The lawyer was, to use another metaphor of Christ's, attempting to put new wine in old wine skins; he was trying to make Jesus' new teaching fit the old paradigm he was not yet ready to let go...

          Fear doesn't just breed incomprehension. It also breeds a spiteful, resentful hate of anyone and everyone who is in any way different from you.

          by awesumtenor on Sun Mar 02, 2014 at 05:46:23 PM PST

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  •  The loud fringe elements of GOP (0+ / 0-)

    Are exposing the quiet thoughts and aspirations of noxious GOP majority who clap and cheer in private, for their loud mouthed water carriers.
    Again how is it that these fools win elections and are not punished for these kind of obnoxious pieces of legislation?
    Why is it that the generic polls have the GOP ahead of the Dems?
    I dont get it.

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