Everybody lies about sex.

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Sunday June 12, 2011 · 7:00 AM PDT

2011/06/12 · 07:00

Even if it's "just a lie of omission". Does your mother know about your high-school sweetheart? What would your father say if he knew what you know about your (current and/or first) husband? Familial relationships are, IMHO the hardest to speak openly about when one is speaking about their sex life. I'm still in the closet with most of my family, although I suspect that one of my sisters knows or suspects. She recognized a handcuff key on my key ring and just gave me "the look". But my family is very private about sex, no one in my family asks or tells. In fact, when I was told by one sister that another (unmarried) sister was pregnant, I was so shocked, I said, "How did that happen. Oh, wait, I know the answer to that one." We pretty much ignore each other's sex lives,so I'm willing to keep pushing the Thanksgiving turkey and gravy, never feeling the "need" to come out. Mostly because no one would care, and besides, my coming out is complicated, with someone I'm contemplating a relationship with; it can take a couple of hours.

But, really, who hasn't either lied about sex or lied by omission about sex? Or "rounded down" the number of sex partner they've had, or not counted same-gender, in-between-gender, trans-gender partners, because "they don't really count"? More rant below. (Is there a name for that orange squiggly thing?)

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10 votes Show Results

I have never lied about sex.

I told my parents about the first time I masturbated

My parents knew the morning after I had sex for the first time.

My parents knew the day I got married that I wasn't a virgin

My parents knew the day I got married that I wasn't marrying my first sex-partner

My fiance knew when we got married that I wasn't their first sex partner

My fiance knew when we got married that I they weren't my 20+ sex partner

My fiance knew when we were married that I'd had same-sex sex partners

My spouse knows about every time I masturbate.

My spouse knows about every time I masturbate while they're sleeping next to me

My spouse knows about everyone I've ever fantasized about while we were having sex, including blood relatives

My spouse knows about everyone I fantasize about when we're having sex, including the same-gender ones

My employers know about my open relationship, and how my spouse and I

My co-workers know about my open relationship, and how my spouse and I

I have lied to some/all of the above people about something listed above

Some of the above, but I did lie about it the first time I was asked, because I was shocked that someone would ask about my private life.

10 votes Vote Now!

I have never lied about sex.

I told my parents about the first time I masturbated

0 votes

My parents knew the morning after I had sex for the first time.

0 votes

My parents knew the day I got married that I wasn't a virgin

2 votes

My parents knew the day I got married that I wasn't marrying my first sex-partner

0 votes

My fiance knew when we got married that I wasn't their first sex partner

1 vote

My fiance knew when we got married that I they weren't my 20+ sex partner

0 votes

My fiance knew when we were married that I'd had same-sex sex partners

0 votes

My spouse knows about every time I masturbate.

1 vote

My spouse knows about every time I masturbate while they're sleeping next to me

0 votes

My spouse knows about everyone I've ever fantasized about while we were having sex, including blood relatives

0 votes

My spouse knows about everyone I fantasize about when we're having sex, including the same-gender ones

0 votes

My employers know about my open relationship, and how my spouse and I

0 votes

My co-workers know about my open relationship, and how my spouse and I

0 votes

I have lied to some/all of the above people about something listed above

3 votes

Some of the above, but I did lie about it the first time I was asked, because I was shocked that someone would ask about my private life.

3 votes

Monogamy and the Weiners

BobSmith415

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Wednesday June 08, 2011 · 5:52 AM PDT

2011/06/08 · 05:52

I am surprised at the judgmental attitudes expressed on this site toward Anthony Weiner, not because he has hurt himself politically, but because he (didn't actually) cheat on his wife. Do any of us know if the Weiners are committed to monogamy? Really? Has either party confirmed monogamy to the press?

Because I haven't seen it, and I don't know. And a Jewish guy marrying a Muslim woman; they had to have had a few discussions before she brought him home to meet Daddy. I'm sorry, but the total condemnation around here because he "cheated", which he didn't, is just getting annoying.

I know nothing about the relationship between Congressman Weiner and his wife, so I won't assume anything about it. For all I know, they could be BDSM bisexual exhibitionists.AND I DON'T GIVE A DARN!

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27 votes Show Results

The Weiners are monogamous.

27 votes Vote Now!

The Weiners are monogamous.

Yes

1 vote

I don't know

0 votes

I don't know and don't care

24 votes

It's important to me because all of my Congress-critters should be chaste

0 votes

It's not important to me, because some of my Congress-critters should be chased

1 vote

After the rapture; live report

BobSmith415

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Saturday May 21, 2011 · 5:58 PM PDT

2011/05/21 · 17:58

So, I was driving home, when I heard on my car radio:

Wait, What? But you promised!

All the "righteous" Christians would be taken "up" and we'd have the earth to ourselves, except for the Muslims, Hindus, Jaines and maybe Mormons. " But, here in the US, they're not a huge percentage of the population, and the Rapture would open up tens of thousands, if not millions of jobs for rational people! Figure a two point drop in the unemployment level. Plus the Texas school board would be totally decimated; kids in Texas would have textbooks that didn't have Adam and Eve riding dinosaurs to church.

Okay, it would have cost us a few bucks to replace a bunch of Senators and Congressmen in special elections, but we could have DOMA repealed, ENDA and a bunch of other stuff. Not to mention, there would be no one left to hold the budget hostage.

The Rapture didn't happen? Shit.

Want to disappear? Now's your chance!

BobSmith415

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Saturday May 21, 2011 · 10:43 AM PDT

2011/05/21 · 10:43

Outstanding wants or warrants? Want a divorce, but can't afford a lawyer? Owe your bookie a bundle? Well, today is your lucky day.

Yes, it's Rapture Day! You'll need two complete outfits; shirt, coat, pants, underwear, shoes and socks. If you can, take out cash from your bank account, but leave like a hundred bucks or so in it. If you have a bag/briefcase, whatever that people are used to seeing you carry, be prepared to lose it.

Get to within walking distance of a train station, ditch your car, and leave your clothes, arranged as if you'd been wearing them and "raptured". Take your cash, but leave a fiver, walk to the station and buy a ticket to anywhere.

For $105.00, and a train ticket, you get to start life over. In any big city, you can buy fake IDs enough to get you a new driver's license, whatever job skills you had before you still have, and unless you're a "tracked" professional (MD, lawyer, shrink, or other "licensed" pro) you get to start over, no harm no foul.

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16 votes Show Results

Nice idea,

16 votes Vote Now!

Nice idea,

but my wife has all of our assets

1 vote

but my bookie has connections

1 vote

but I can always get to Pakistan

0 votes

but I don't need to go

4 votes

I'll log in with a new dKos name soon!

10 votes

Let's try this: cis/trans/whatever

BobSmith415

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Sunday April 24, 2011 · 4:02 AM PDT

2011/04/24 · 04:02

Full disclaimer: I am a cis-gendered male, bisexual. Pre-, Post- whatever transsexual doesn't bother me. That means that I have this. And I like this and this. (One of these days I'm going to figure out how to post pictures...)

Now that we've gotten that out of the way, let's get to the important stuff below the little orange squiggle-thingie...

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19 votes Show Results

I would have a sexual relationship with a

19 votes Vote Now!

I would have a sexual relationship with a

hetero female

3 votes

homo-female

1 vote

hetero male

2 votes

homo-male

0 votes

bi-female

0 votes

bi-male

2 votes

MTF

0 votes

FTM

0 votes

only one of the above

3 votes

any of the above

3 votes

all of the above at the same time

1 vote

call me!

4 votes

Facebook bans anti-porn, anti-sex-trafficking Ukranians

BobSmith415

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Saturday March 26, 2011 · 12:11 PM PDT

2011/03/26 · 12:11

Please note: Some links are NSFW.

I know, I know, but I'm with Violet Blue when she says

Some readers might find it at odds for me to be posting positive about FEMEN because they do state that they are anti-porn and anti-sex work — but, this is one time I think reading the subtleties and looking at the cultural issues are important.

I'm a computer geek. I fix computers and network them for a living. I do have a Facebook account that I created at Netroots Nation, but I haven't gone into it since. So, I'm not actually qualified to criticize a service I don't use, but, again back to Violet.

While no one is surprised to hear news that anyone or anything remotely human sexuality related has been banned from Facebook, it still sucks to find out that it’s still happening. A while back I posted a salute to Womens’ Rights Ukranian civil disobedience group FEMEN, which was well-received by many readers, and despite their no-porn stance, many of us became admirers. The salute post includes an interview and video, and they discuss their activist work to raise awareness around human rights issues, sex work, and sex trafficking in the Ukraine.

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23 votes Show Results

Sexuality and nudity on the Internet should be

23 votes Vote Now!

Sexuality and nudity on the Internet should be

on the new .xxx only

2 votes

only discussed in sexually oriented sites

0 votes

only viewed on sexually oriented sites

3 votes

segregated from other sites

1 vote

never mentioned on dKos

0 votes

never mentioned on any non-restricted site

0 votes

removed from the Internet entirely

4 votes

that's NOT funny!

13 votes

Bisexuality/biphobia diary stolen from Zach.

BobSmith415

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Tuesday December 28, 2010 · 5:28 AM PST

2010/12/28 · 05:28

I didn't write this diary, Zach posted it as a comment. It started from the cartoon below over at Joe's place.

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100 votes Show Results

I consider myself

100 votes Vote Now!

I consider myself

Kinsey 0 (exclusively heterosexual)

17 votes

Kinsey 1

8 votes

Kinsey 2

15 votes

Kinsey 3 (bisexual with males and females equally)

9 votes

Kinsey 4

9 votes

Kinsey 5

12 votes

Kinsey 6 (exclusively homosexual)

14 votes

Bisexual and open to the transgendered/intersesexed

9 votes

Bisexual and not open to the transgendered/intersexed

0 votes

monosexual but open to people who present as the gender I date

1 vote

monosexual and everything has to be "factory original"

2 votes

other

4 votes

Food and sex; make it about food!

BobSmith415

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Thursday August 26, 2010 · 5:17 PM PDT

2010/08/26 · 17:17

Earlier today Valdearg had a diary

...trying to foster a culture that promotes sexual freedom and doesn't stigmatize the many various kinds of perfectly healthy sexual behavior, such as masturbation, pre-marital sex, homosexual sex, and even the less practiced, but just as acceptable (and fun!) behaviors, such as threesomes, group sex, exhibitionism, and voyeurism

And of almost 170 comments, most didn't address his central point, most were side tracks into kids, family structure, and who is/isn't a "liberal". And a lot of comments seemed to endorse the conservative assumption that "liberal" and "libertine" are the same; enough! Somewhere around comment #140, I remembered a suggestion I have made, often to great effect during workshops. Make it about food.

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