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I bet you didn't know that due to the Republicans' government shutdown:

"Internments at National Cemeteries will be conducted on a reduced schedule"
according to the VA's Veterans Field Guide to the Government Shutdown.

The Republicans will move heaven and earth to make sure my living veteran grandpa can get into the WWII Veterans Memorial but won't budge an inch to make sure my dead veteran grandpa can be buried on time in one of our National Cemeteries?

Ugly, hmm?

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Some of you know already, but many of you don’t, that my sister Laura died suddenly and unexpectedly Friday, August 17th.  It was a devastating blow to receive a phone call from the Whitman County coroner asking if she was my sister and to tell me she had died.  I heard myself uttering the same words upon the pronouncement as when the nurse told me my husband Russell had died…..”Noooooo….!”

It was a small blessing that she died in her sleep, quickly, painlessly from a ‘cardiac event’.  The coroner explained that Laura’s different medical conditions such as the diabetes, high blood pressure, etc.,over time took their toll on her heart.

I need to let you know what is in my heart about my sister, think of it as my tribute to her…….

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It was towards the end of my second year of grieving my husband when I first came upon a quote from C.S. Lewis’ 'A Grief Observed'.  I was shocked to find a writer who so evocatively described my pain even as he wrote about his……

The act of living is different all through.  Her absence is like the sky, spread over everything.
The only things I knew previously about C.S. Lewis were that he was a very devout Christian, he’d written the Narnia Series (which I didn’t know much about because it wasn’t part of my childhood) and he’d married a Jewish woman in later life, about which I knew a little because I’d seen the Anthony Hopkins/Debra Winger movie The Shadow Lands.  I hadn’t given much thought to him other than that because I figured his devotion to his religion would rule out anything much of interest to me.

Just goes to show how wrong assumptions can be.  And how the pain of grief is Universal.

After coming across that one poignant quote I craved to read more from this erudite writer and purchased 'A Grief Observed' to explore further into his grief expressions, hoping to find solace in more of his descriptions of my profound pain.  And find them I did.  

Tonight’s diary is an exploration of C.S. Lewis’ writings as he journaled his grief over his wife’s death, later published as 'A Grief Observed'.
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In our 2012 Women's History month I'm experiencing more women's history and history-in-the-making than I can ever remember in the month of March.  And it's women that are making this history (spurred on in large part by Republican men and especially Rush Limbaugh).  And watching women respond to this sorry misogynistic-war-on-women with wit and brilliance is one of the few bright spots I've found.

I'm happy to bring you this list of remarkable women, and the actions they took that caused me to find them remarkable, as a tribute to all women everywhere and the men that support them.  Read on....

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2011 marks the 30th anniversary my mother's death.  This anniversary might have gone unnoticed by me except for two life changing events.  But I'm getting ahead of myself.

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Mon Aug 29, 2011 at 05:02 PM PDT

...and then my friend died....

by FlamingoGrrl

At first I thought this diary was going to be about how this is the 30th anniversary of my mom's death at 59, one month shy of her 60th birthday and me just one month into my 29th year.  I planned to write about the impact that had on me, both the good and the bad; how mom kept tight control of her family and made herself into the cog of the wagon wheel on which the rest of us were spokes; how I watched that wheel slowly disintegrate over 6 years while breast cancer ate her away.  And I especially wanted to write about how it felt to finally realize now that it's been 30 years since mom died that my youngest sister, who hasn't talked to my middle sister since mom died, is NEVER GOING TO.  I wanted to write about the unique grief of letting go of the hope that SOME day those sisters would reunite, and simultaneously grieving the first anniversary of my husband's death.

....and then my friend died.............

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A special welcome to anyone who is new to The Grieving Room.  We meet every Monday evening.  Whether your loss is recent or many years ago, whether you have lost a person or a pet, or even if the person you are "mourning" is still alive ("pre-grief" can be a very lonely and confusing time) you can come to this diary and process your grieving in whatever way works for you.  Share whatever you need to share.  We can't solve each other's problems, but we can be a sounding board and a place of connection.

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A special welcome to anyone who is new to The Grieving Room.  We meet every Monday evening.  Whether your loss is recent or many years ago, whether you have lost a person or a pet, or even if the person you are "mourning" is still alive ("pre-grief" can be a very lonely and confusing time) you can come to this diary and process your grieving in whatever way works for you.  Share whatever you need to share.  We can't solve each other's problems, but we can be a sounding board and a place of connection.

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Mon Dec 13, 2010 at 05:55 PM PST

The Grieving Room:  Echoes

by FlamingoGrrl

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A special welcome to anyone who is new to The Grieving Room.  We meet every Monday evening.  Whether your loss is recent or many years ago, whether you have lost a person or a pet, or even if the person you are "mourning" is still alive ("pre-grief" can be a very lonely and confusing time) you can come to this diary and process your grieving in whatever way works for you.  Share whatever you need to share.  We can't solve each other's problems, but we can be a sounding board and a place of connection.

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