After reading the diary of jpmassar on the Navy who excused and promoted an officer who was molesting his children, I felt compelled to write this. Although this story is heinous, I'm afraid it is becoming all too common. The War on Women that allows rape victims to be further victimized by attacking them, and treating them as if they had something to gain by their accusation, or as if they had some other motive for reporting rape, or that they were in some way asking for it to happen, has spilled over to the children. As someone who has been raped, and has also survived a family who thought that type of behavior was ok, and to be expected because, you know, boys will be boys, I can tell you that I was afraid to report my situation because I was afraid of being done the same in a court of law. Therefore, my rapist went free to continue to roofie the next girl who came along. I don't know if anyone here has been drugged that way before, but I can tell you that you have no control. I knew what was happening to me, I was screaming and fighting inside, but it wouldn't come out. My body was not my own, for that brief time, it was his.
I say this because after what happened to me, I still didn't report it. Not because I enjoyed it as my rapist later spread through our community, but because I had seen first hand what happens to women who report a rape. In recent cases throughout the US, girls who have reported it have been scrutinized to the point of suicide, simply because their rapist was a football star, or had important parents. Then there is this story. The one where a rapist is forgiven to the point he can continue his deed, even though he was convicted.
This year a story came on the local news channel 4 in Oklahoma City, that was short and sweet, and clearly didn't get the outrage it should have invoked. Most of my neighbors hadn't even heard the story, until I Facebooked it, and made a big deal out of it. It certainly wasn't the first page news it should have been. Even then, it left many of us here in OK feeling as if we were powerless to do anything about it.
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