You know the old saying - about people who get ulcers and people who give them? Well, if you were doubting, I am one of those who give ulcers.
Philly Gal once compared me to her father who would have a volcanic eruption about something, settle the matter to his satisfaction, and then walk away whistling while the rest of the family was left a traumatized shaking mess. I think that's a bit harsh, but not unfair.
But I'm not walking away whistling. I do care. Alot. Too much probably. About less important shit sometimes. But sometimes about important shit.
I want to talk about that a little on the flip.
Relax. This is a friendly no battles diary.
About the "thing" - I'm not calling it "pie" anymore. It's the "thing" now for me. We got to work hard on this. But we have to be fair and honest.
The hard work comes from us I agree. But there IS some work for the rest of you as well. See, we may not agree on everything we need to talk about. You have to try to be fair too.
I wrote a throwaway diary about a tangential issue related to the "thing." Not important, not viewed as such by me. But I did note that, in my opinion, a lot of folks were not fair. They interpreted the diary as weaseling, or changing the subject. Some felt empowered to tell me what I could or could not write about.
Well, we can disagree about the issue, but let's not disagree about this - you don't get to tell me what to write about. And I don't get to tell you what to write about.
Another thing, let's go for honesty and fairness in our discussions. We're going to have to admit and deal with some hard truths. We're going to be taking a lot of medicine here. So if we're right on a minor thing, is it so hard to agree? Now if you think we're wrong, then of course you stand by what you believe. Am I accusing folks of disngenuousness? Not deliberate, but when an argument is laid out and not addressed it tends to FEEL like disingenuousness. It makes it harder for me at least. And remember we have to deal with the real admissions, the real problems that we need to deal with - the major things we're doing wrong. That's not easy. And it is harder when I think I am not being dealt with squarely. So at least give our arguments a passing consideration and rebut it if you can. Don't ignore it.
And, penultimatley, it's not fair, but it's me, I might blow up. I'll try not to. But if I am wrong I swear I'll say so. I have and I will. If we disagree, and can't reach a resolution, then we agree to disagree and move on. And when I calm down, let's not carry grudges. I promise I don't and I won't. Now, if I don't trust you, then I don't trust you and we won't get anywhere. But we don't all have to. Work with other folks on the "thing."
Finally, laughs are a good thing. Let's not forget to laugh.