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A billion years ago our home planet was unrecognizable. On land there was virtually nothing but barren rock, scoured by howling wind and pelting rain. The air was a poisonous yellow-orange haze of nitrogen and carbon compounds with only the barest presence of free oxygen. But the technicolor oceans bloomed with swarms of single-celled critters and oxidizing elements. It was the golden age of the Proterozoic Eon, a world ruled by microscopic creatures of dazzling diversity.

           

One billion years ago, iron oxides, microbes, and a reflected noxious sky, color the coastal water red & blue. In these quiet tidal pools, among the bulbous stromatlites, colonies of differentiated cells smaller than a grain of sand, the ancestors of all metazoans, may already be stirring. This image was provided by graphic artist Karen Wehrstein on super-short notice, exclusively for this post (Enlarge)

Some zipped around like tiny jet aircraft, powered through the viscous media by rows of cilia or a single whip-like flagella. Others lazily poured themselves into one advancing pseudopodia after another, moving and engulfing their prey like the blob. A few found safety in numbers and grouped in bulky mats, preserved to this day as stromatolites. And here and there, perhaps a handful had organized into groups of burgeoning specialized cells--the first metazoans. But there's an even more exciting change in the works and it will become all the rage: We're talking 'bout sex!

The precise details of the origin of sex remain a mystery. Since it probably happened in subtle molecular steps starting a billion or more years ago, stretching across countless generations of microbes and the earliest multi-cellular conglomerates, it may turn out that no detailed discernible record is preserved into our own time. If so, we may never know exactly what events transpired. One guess based on what we can observe now is that some microbes or colonies of microbes evolved a more organized system of swapping out sequences of genetic material, perhaps aided by either domesticated or pathogenic viral elements, and over time, the genetic components and related structures that facilitated this process were slowly crafted through the ages by selection. Eventually, cells became specialized at performing functions we'd now identify as a male or female role. We see evidence of this possibility today: Yeast can reproduce asexually, but some species also have two different versions which differ in a few proteins that act kind of like mating groups. This difference might resemble the ancient genetic forerunners which led, eventually, to the first wee-wees and nu-nus.

How ever it happened, sex was a significant change (And who wouldn't argue a delightful one?) in the reproductive process, and evolution seems to have taken off like a rocket--no pun intended--as sexual reproduction became commonplace. Are the two connected? That question is a real hot potato.

One line of thought is that prior to sex, variability was limited, because the entire parent genome was replicated intact. Using that method, the only way a useful gene could become widespread in a population was for all the competing lineage's to die off. The offspring were thus almost identical to the parent. Mutations, both good and bad, were preserved. After sex arose, genes could flow horizontally through the entire population and become fixed or removed quickly based on the value they conferred. A related idea is that forming one entirely new, healthy individual by recombining two existing ones, was a source of constant variety for selection to work on. But it should be emphasized that there is a lot of debate among evolutionary biologists regarding the adaptive value of sexual reproduction.

           

This diagram illustrates how sex might create novel genotypes more rapidly. Two advantageous alleles A and B occur at random. The two alleles are recombined rapidly in (a), a sexual population, but in (b), an asexual population, the two alleles must independently arise. (Illustration courtesy of the Wikipedia)

Fast forward a billion years and sexual species make up a huge portion of the familiar biological world that we call home. True, much of the modern environmental infrastructure developed and still rests on a foundation of asexual bacteria and archaea, and of course without microbes there would be no beer--egad! But the crops we harvest, the meat we consume, the plants we use for decoration, the trees-tops our primate ancestors evolved in; almost all of it is composed of sexually reproducing species. But sex created something else. Before sexual reproduction, all creatures were, for lack of a better term, mothers, and all descendants were daughters. But afterward, a new element came into the picture: Dads.

Moms may have had a three-billion year headstart on fathers, but fathers have certainly made up for lost time. On earth today, they may be found clothed in chitin, scales, feathers, or fur. They can be deadly to outsiders while doting to their children. Males of every species are spread across the world and throughout the animal kingdom, from tending eggs in the Antarctic to presiding over clans in the rainforest.

In our socially complex human species, a biological father and a Dad play two very different roles in child rearing. In the modern family, a Dad can be anyone who steps up and helps raise us; a stepfather, an uncle: anyone who acts as a provider, a mentor, a role model, or protector. I was adopted at birth, I don't know who my biological parents were. But from my first, infant memory, there has never been any doubt about who my Mom and Dad are.

My Dad grew up in the 1930s without a father. He was one of four kids raised by a single mother on a school teacher's depression era salary. When he was just getting old enough to enjoy some independence in an economy that was perking up, a world war engulfed most of the planet. After WW2, he served his country and went on to help create the precursors that led to home computers. He also put up a roof over my head, food on my plate, and spending money in my pocket; all while putting up with more headaches and mischief from me than anyone should ever have to endure. Through it all he was gentle and modest, he raised me with love and instilled in me a fondness for books, only two wonderful gifts out of so many he provided. He is my hero, my champion. I bet we have some sons and daughters here today that feel the same way about the father figure in their lives, so please, tell us about them if you wish.

One day is hardly enough to recognize a billion years of evolution or commemorate a lifetime of love. But for what it's worth, from all the sons and daughters in the Daily Kos community to you: Happy Fathers Day!

Originally posted to Daily Kos on Sun Jun 18, 2006 at 03:42 AM PDT.

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  •  At (39+ / 0-)

    the risk of sounding like my father--Kids, don't make me pull this thread over and come back there, because I will! :::Gives the look:::

    So how is your Father's Day going?

    Read UTI, your free thought forum

    by DarkSyde on Sun Jun 18, 2006 at 03:43:26 AM PDT

  •  did you really just do that? (10+ / 0-)

    get to "father's day"?

    you are beautiful, DS.

  •  Does adoption occur in other species? (5+ / 0-)

    I'm quite curious.  

    I suppose the most likely scenario where something like that would happen is in the case of orphans, and probably most likely in pack species.

    Legalize Qualo. Those in Chicago - listen to Boers & Bernstein on 670 AM 2-6 M-F. Libertarian Democrat Represent!

    by Larry Horse on Sun Jun 18, 2006 at 03:46:24 AM PDT

  •  cambrian explosion book (4+ / 0-)

    Good article. A similar book which explains the cambrian explosion (from 3 to 38 phyla in just 5 million years) is Andrew Parker's "In the Blink of an Eye".
     
     The author argues that the development of light-sensitive organs, followed by eyes, was the major impetus to an event that was unique in the history of evolution. Very interesting read.

    •  I remember (6+ / 0-)

      reading "The Burgess Shale" and then going to the Smithsonian and actually seeing pieces of it and all those incredible creatures- extremely exciting. Now here I am in Utah house sitting for the summer and time rises up around me everywhere, layers and layers of it, ancient sand dunes, ripples hardened into rock. There are the traces and movements of water all around me here in this arid desert. My head explodes. I love our planet.

  •  Artist's tip jar (27+ / 0-)

    My father wasn't the greatest... he sexually abused me for many years, our last interaction was the cheque he wrote me to settle the lawsuit I launched against him, and when he died I was just relieved.  But I do remember positives... I inherited his precision of mind, his creativity, his love for doing a good job of whatever he was creating.  He could never have imagined that I'd do computer artwork, but I think he would have been proud of me.  Happy Day, all you dads out there.

    We are the Canadian Borg. Resistance would be impolite. Please wait to be assimilated. Pour l'assimilation en francais, veuillez appuyer le "2".

    by Karen Wehrstein on Sun Jun 18, 2006 at 04:03:20 AM PDT

    •  thanks (1+ / 0-)
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      bloomer 101

      for surviving, but of course i don't have to tell you that.

    •  That's (3+ / 0-)

      awful Karen. It's amazing how a good parent, or a terrible one, can affect someone's life forever.

      Read UTI, your free thought forum

      by DarkSyde on Sun Jun 18, 2006 at 04:10:58 AM PDT

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      •  What's amazing to me is how different parents are (6+ / 0-)

        in the human species-- how incredibly diverse families are, in part depending on the skills, inclinations, talents, etc. of the parents.  A baby is born-- then what?  Depending on the parents, depending on the degree of care, on the financial resources, on the political and social circumstances, on the family make-up and the others in the family, that baby could have any sort of experience, ranging from blissfully uneventful to agonizingly traumatic to fabulously sunny.

        Is there the same sort of variation in parenting, in the "animal kingdom" or in "nature"?  

        •  What an interesting question (1+ / 0-)
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          But at a first guess I don't think there is -- because parenting in the animal kingdom is ruled by instinct, not culture or intellect.  By escaping the bonds of instinct, we set up for more variety, including the unhealthy varieties.

          But to really find out, we'd have to look at parenting practicing among our closest relatives, chimps and bonobos and other big apes.  Anyone know, is there child abuse among these?

          We are the Canadian Borg. Resistance would be impolite. Please wait to be assimilated. Pour l'assimilation en francais, veuillez appuyer le "2".

          by Karen Wehrstein on Sun Jun 18, 2006 at 06:18:27 AM PDT

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          •  Instinct isn't all of it (5+ / 0-)

            by any means, at least not for the apes.

            When orphaned apes raised in zoos have children, they are terrible parents.  They need to learn parenting from others.  Nowadays, they put the baby apes with mother apes.

            Whenever we take away the liberties of those whom we hate we are opening the way to loss of liberty for those we love. -- Wendell Willkie

            by plf515 on Sun Jun 18, 2006 at 06:22:46 AM PDT

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          •  It says (0+ / 0-)

            something good about where we are as a culture that he had to write you that check. I'm really glad for you that he did. And for him, too.

          •  Chimps (4+ / 0-)

            generally make kick-ass loving parents, they put in a huge amount of time into parenting, they have a high K-factor. But compared to humans they have hair trigger tempers and tremendous strength. If a chimp flips out with rage they have the capacity to rip kill the limbs of an NFL linebacker with their bare hands. I believe some been known to fly into blind rages and kill infants indiscriminately. For the most part, youngins know to stay the fuck out of the way when that happens.

            Read UTI, your free thought forum

            by DarkSyde on Sun Jun 18, 2006 at 06:50:15 AM PDT

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          •  There are certainly variations (3+ / 0-)

            ..in parental behavior. Some mothers are much more succesful at raising young chimps than others. I think a few have been neglectful. There was one mother-daughter pair that killed other females' infants, but I don't recall that they abused their own.

            Conversely, I think there was at least one instance of an infertile female adopting an orphaned young chimp, protecting and feeding it for at least some period of time.

            This is all out of my hazy memories of reading several of Jane Goodall's books.

        •  'Driveway Moments' (0+ / 0-)

          NPR did a recent podcast revisiting these two boys that grew up in a DC grouphome, crack addict moms, tons of siblings, no money, etc.  It was very compelling, and so heartbreaking to hear their thirteen year old voices dreaming of being a doctor or a policeman compared to where they ended up, 12-16 (I don't remember) years later.  

  •  Science question (1+ / 0-)
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    DarkSyde

    (I was the worst science student ever.)

    Where did Earth's water come from -- how did it develop?  There was a time/condition with no water as such here, right?  Did it arise from life (biological processes)?  Or does biology depend on water existing first?

    Needless to say, a  sophisticated technical answer would probably not further my understanding. I've been wondering about this off and on for some time. The beginning of this diary brought the question forward again in my mind.

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    by We hold these truths on Sun Jun 18, 2006 at 04:39:23 AM PDT

    •  Comet I'll bet (0+ / 0-)

      Slamming into da ERF!!

      They're mostly water, but I have no clue if that's even close to right.

    •  I'm wrong (1+ / 0-)
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      The water was here the whole time...

      Boo...

      http://jersey.uoregon.edu/...

    •  Liquid (7+ / 0-)

      water was probably present intermittently from before the proto earth and Orpheus collided to form the moon. Thereafter, it likely also came and went for 500 million years, at least, as large impacts jack the temperature and pressure up and down. The earliest sedimentary rocks date to ~4 billion years ago, so that's evidence for at least some liquid water on the surface at that time (Some of those samples also show biochemical signatures suggesting that simple replicating molecules already existed). How much water there was, how it was distributed--oceans Vs smaller pools with much of it as vapor--is a subject of debate. How much of it was present from the get go Vs how much arrived later from icy comets is also an interesting question.

      Read UTI, your free thought forum

      by DarkSyde on Sun Jun 18, 2006 at 05:01:11 AM PDT

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      •  Do you not find it astonishing that (3+ / 0-)

        there are still some of those earliest rocks, considering the convulsions and constant turmoil this planet went -- and goes -- through?

        I just get all awestruck thinking of those rocks, those billions-of-year-old rocks, still the same in a universe of near-constant change.

        One day I want to touch one, just to make contact with that continuity.  Sure, my molecules and atoms are that old, but those're rocks.  The same ones.

        I remember once I was in Austria and was visiting a castle that was raised in about 1100.  I remember running my hands along those stones, thinking of the stonecutters -- people very much like me -- working on them, 900 years before.  

        The very old rocks had no human artisan, but there is still something magical about an object that old.

      •  Don't forget (0+ / 0-)

        that sun can influence the emergence of water...

      •  Water (0+ / 0-)

        I remember reading some time ago - I forget the venue - that much of the water on earth accumulated from its collision with gazillions of tiny icy microcomets - think snowball sized and smaller.  If i remember correctly, the process is ongoing.

    •  This is fun. (0+ / 0-)

      But, ya know, it seems we don't have an answer to this. I'm going to keep at it.

      ----

      Only $6 per citizen per year to publicly fund each and every election for House, Senate and White House.

      by We hold these truths on Sun Jun 18, 2006 at 09:41:37 AM PDT

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      •  Yes it's fun! Here's a little more info (3+ / 0-)

        According to the authors of the book chapter listed below, Earth likely formed "through accretion of water-bearing planetesimals. An H2O-rich proto-atmosphere should have formed during accretion by degassing from planetesimals and/or gravitational attraction of solar-nebula gas, and it may be a direct ancestor of Earth’s present atmosphere-hydrosphere."

        Some of that water would have been incorporated into minerals, and recycled through crustal and volcanic processes, and comets, being similar to the planetesimals, may have added some more later, but this abstract suggests that most of the water was present from the very beginning, and that all of the planets would have originally had water.

        The key things with regard to the origin of life is that Earth was big enough to be able to keep hold of a serious atmosphere, including water vapor, and that the combination of a moderate distance from the sun and just the right amount of greenhouse effect allows water to exist as solid, liquid, and gas on Earth's surface.

        The more I learn, the more wondrous and amazing it all seems.

        Reference:
        Abe and others, 2000. Water in the Early Earth, in Origin of the earth and moon, edited by R.M. Canup and K. Righter and 69 collaborating authors. Tucson: University of Arizona Press., p.413-433.

  •  Happy Father's Day. (9+ / 0-)

    Gee, DarkSyde, your Dad and mine grew up under such similar circumstances.  

    My father lost his father to the influenza epidemic of 1918, grew up on a farm with a single mother, but managed to make his way through the Great Depression into college.  Tough times we can only imagine.  

    At one point, he used to tell us, he joined the Wisconsin National Guard just to get a new set of clothes.  Then got the call up for WWII, spent a few years in the Pacific.  Finished up his Master's under the GI Bill.  He spent most of his adult life as a college librarian.  Who knows how many students he helped along the way.  

    Yeah, he wasn't perfect, but as I'm now the age he was when I was born, I'm pretty amazed that he did as well as he did, especially without having had a father to have given him a model to follow.  

    We never went hungry, never had to worry about a roof over our heads, or not being able to afford to go to the doctor.  Unfortunately, the same can't be said about so many of our nation's children.  

    He was a liberal--a full-fledged liberal who would be appalled at the state of our nation. In a way, it's merciful that he didn't live to see his country, for which he served in uniform twice, fall into the hands of these crooks and liars who think it's just dandy to snoop into someone's library records.  

    And as I get older, and I look in the mirror and see the genetic threads, I think, gosh, he was a handsome fellow!

    Tom  

    •  Dads (1+ / 0-)
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      Ahianne

      My father, too, lost his father just before the Great Depression. At the time, the Radlein Trucking Company was a successful (and growing) small Chicago business; it went under shortly thereafter (mother, alas, was not able to keep it going), and dad got to spend the Depression as part of a large family in the wilds of Des Plaines.

      He fought in WWII, signed back up to go through OCS and join the nascent Air Force, put in his twenty, and retired to go to work for... the Air Force, as a Civil Service employee. Which meant that, unlike my brother and sister, I got to grow up in one place.

      He's still going strong, although his vision is failing. He spends his days writing angry letters to the Editors of the Tampa Tribune and St. Pete Times excoriating the criminal Bush administration.

  •  As a son and a Dad ... (3+ / 0-)
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    RunawayRose, DarkSyde, bloomer 101

    It is a nice day to reflect back on what you received, and to get feedback from your kids as to what you somehow, some way managed to give.

    Thanks for the reminder.

    We shall not cease from exploration And the end of all our exploring Will be to arrive where we started And know the place for the first time. T.S. Eliot

    by gbussey on Sun Jun 18, 2006 at 04:40:48 AM PDT

  •  Origin of life (1+ / 0-)
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    DarkSyde

    Given the thread, thought I'd mention that I am reading Stuart Kaufman's At Home in the Universe which gives an interesting theory that life may not be unlikely, but practically inevitable, given a wide range of starting conditions.

    I can't say I understand it all, but it is interesting.  

    Has anyone else read it?

    Whenever we take away the liberties of those whom we hate we are opening the way to loss of liberty for those we love. -- Wendell Willkie

    by plf515 on Sun Jun 18, 2006 at 04:52:09 AM PDT

  •  what a delightful (4+ / 0-)

    and unusual way to bring up father's day!

    All extremists are irrational and should be exposed

    by SeanF on Sun Jun 18, 2006 at 04:57:03 AM PDT

  •  I'd like to say... (1+ / 0-)
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    RunawayRose

    ...Happy Father's Day to my father and brother back in Iowa :)

    Wonderful post, DS.  Very, very classy.

  •  The older I get, the more I value (6+ / 0-)

    my father.  We've never been exactly close, but he was there through a whole lot of shit that my upbringing entailed.  

    He went off to war twice and came back both times, he took care to make sure that we had whatever we needed, always.

    He taught me how to laugh at myself, how to be responsible, and really, how to be a man (in the best sense of that word).

    Given that he had absolutely no model of what a parent should be, I think he did a damned fine job, and I shall call him today and tell him so.

    Thanks, DS, for this.  It might have taken a few billion years to generate a dad, but it was worth the wait.

  •  does this have (0+ / 0-)

    anything to do with what went on at Yearly Kos?

  •  Best Father's Day tribute (4+ / 0-)

    I've read today!

  •  when did the golf gene show up? (4+ / 0-)

    And Dad, we'll miss you again this year. But I'll have the old Billy Baroo out of your bag with me today, so if you can see your way to steer it just a little, that might help.

    All my love.
  •  The Magnificent Alex (10+ / 0-)

    God I wish my Dad was still here. He somehow knew all the new facts before the newspapers did; his political judgment was better than anyone's I've ever met and his view was long.

    He was brave - he stood up to Joe McCarthy. He asked the good questions, and he had the real answers. He was brilliant, and always trailed by students. And he was beautiful; tall, impressive with a great Albanian face I have echoes of. My hero.

  •  My father was born into a loveless marriage (9+ / 0-)

    arranged through religious dictates and weighted down by illness (his father's), early widowhood (his mother's), and extreme poverty.  My father's father died when my dad was 9, in the mid 1930s, and he grew up, as he and his sister told us, without a winter coat and without money for the movies or books.  His mother took in sewing and was always working, doing either piecework for factories or repairing others' clothes.  He remembers how her entire hope lay in her two children, and in their future.  He remembers he and his sister being incredibly selfish, longing to get out of the house, out of the neighborhood, fighting for their own selfishness and for the luxury of not thinking, for an hour or a day, about how they needed, wanted, and didn't have.  And certainly, the luxury of not thinking about how their mother's unhappy and difficult life was making any sort of life possible for them, as children and as teens. Even so, my father worked for money to help his mother from the time he was 10 years old, all through public school, and all through college, where he washed dishes in fraternity houses to pay for his room and his books.  (He got a scholarship for his tuition.)  He became successful in his career, and gave his three children everything they ever could need or want, and more.  But his most precious gift to me was the example of his incredible determination and integrity in the face of the odds.  As I get older, and as I am now a mother, I realize how precious are the gifts my father gave me through his example:  hard work, being true to oneself, being faithful in one's marriage, caring for one's blood and flesh-and-bone, and integrity-- doing the right thing, no matter how much it may seem painful to do so.

    Happy Father's Day to all fathers here and everywhere!  One of the things I LOVE about dKos is reading posts by the so many dads who are feminists, who are laid back, who are smart, who are committed progressive democrats.  I love the posts by the dads who adore their daughters.  I know my father adored me, and I also know how little I have repaid him during his lifetime. I have made him proud, yes; but I shudder to think of how many gray hairs I gave him during my teens and twenties.  I just thank God that my son has a grandpa to grow with, and that I have my father still with me in my life.  Thank you Dad!!!!!!!!!

  •  Brent Budowsky Gets It Right: (0+ / 0-)

    http://www.huffingtonpost.com/...

    Give this a read and see how Hastert and Bush and Frist = Kremlin and Politburo.

  •  Love that Bob (2+ / 0-)
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    Thanks for the Opportunity, DS. Really.
    My dad, Bob, whom I called Daddy, was an amazing guy.  He was an architect raised in Colorado during the Depression, and during WWII served in the South Pacific.  After the service he went to college in California, where he met my mom and where I came on the scene.  He died too young, at 60, an age I am fast approaching, and I am ever grateful for his loving kindness, understanding, creativity, and fun nature.  Daddy taught me a love of good books and design.  His joie de vivre was palpable. He loved travel, nature and beauty, and he loved us.  We will always miss him.  Happy Father's Day, Daddy.

  •  My understanding is that... (2+ / 0-)
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    God's plan included no microbes...they were something of a mistake. After all, it is well known that

    In heaven there is no beer,
    that's why we drink it here.

  •  the role of Dad is one of the role models (8+ / 0-)

    I was fortunate to grow up with a biological father who loved music, who was willing to sacrifice things that mattered to him so that his children would be able to explore their talents.  

    But there are others who "fathered"me at various points in my life.  I think of John Davison, my first advisor and lifelong friend from Haverford College who died a few years ago, who taught me so much by his patience, his willing to find things to affirm in me and in every student - no matter how untalented - who passed through his care.

    I also think of a Greek Monk, Pater Aimilianos, Gerondas of Simonas Petras on Mount Athos, the Orthodox Monastic republic in Norther Greece, who for some reason decided to take me on as a spiritual child when i was at a very fragmented and disoriented stage of my adult life, and who gently persuaded me that my leanings towards monasticism were less important than how my life had prepared me to be the husband I attempt to be to Leaves on the Current, and who - never having met her - knew because he could read my heart of her very tender soul.  I remember clearly the words he said to me on my 2nd trip in 1983, as they were translated by Sister Avgustina when I followed him to the convent of Ormilia in the Chalkidiki -  "You could be a good monk, but your entire life has prepared you to be be married.   You have a sensitive soul, but J---- has a more sensitive soul.   Defer to her."  We married two and half years later, after having been together for more than a decade.

    And while I have no biological children of my own, I have found that as a teacher and a coach I often function in part in loco parentis not because the students I encounter lack biological fathers, but for some part of their life I am better able to reach them, to challenge them.  That is an awesome responsibility, and at that moment their needs and abilities become more important than what I might desire for myself -- it is perhaps as close as i come to being a biological parent.

    Thanks for provoking these thoughts.  I had decided not to reflect on father's day, since I did do a diary on my mom back in May, and since I am not a parent.   But this was useful.   And your work was very thoughtful as always.   I'm glad you are here, honored by your friendship. Your Dad -- and Mom - should be very proud of you.

    Those who can, do. Those who can do more, TEACH!

    by teacherken on Sun Jun 18, 2006 at 05:48:07 AM PDT

    •  Good point about teachers (4+ / 0-)

      as dads.  I have no kids of my own, but I get to use the kids of others.  I work at a small college, and there's a great deal of interactions with students outside the classroom.  I cherish it.

      Graduation is always so melancholy for me.  I'm happy as can be for them -- they've worked so hard and dreamed so long of that day -- but it means I'll see much less of them, and that's sad.

  •  I'd rather be a creationist (4+ / 0-)

    Sorry, Darksyde, but this stuff is way too hard to understand.  On the other hand, variations on "And God said 'Abracadabra'" have the virtues of both simplicity and entertainment value.

  •  A wonderful tribute to dads. Thanks, DS. (2+ / 0-)
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    Ray Radlein, ZAPatty

    ...but, um...  "wee-wees and nu-nus" ?

    ;P

    Never, never brave me, nor my fury tempt:
      Downy wings, but wroth they beat;
    Tempest even in reason's seat.

    by GreyHawk on Sun Jun 18, 2006 at 05:52:36 AM PDT

  •  My Dad (8+ / 0-)

    died 36 years ago in a work-related accident. He was only in his mid-40's. He worked very hard to raise nine of us - we were aged 3 to 22 when he died. He really respected education and he told me a thousand times, "A working man should never support a conservative."

    A true survivor, my mother is now 80 and she still drives her car, takes four little trips a year, makes things for 21 grandchildren and golfs three times a week in the summer.

    I just put a shot of Bailey's in my coffee. Here's to you, Dad.

    Canada - where a pack of smokes is ten bucks and a heart transplant is free.

    by dpc on Sun Jun 18, 2006 at 05:54:56 AM PDT

  •  Wow.. Nice Segue (2+ / 0-)
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    from single cell life forms a billion years ago to you and your father-- very nicely done.

    and kudos to your parents for raising a fine son.

    "Think of Iraq as a military base with a very large oil reserve underneath.... You can't ask for better than that." Fadel Gheit

    by Superpole on Sun Jun 18, 2006 at 06:01:59 AM PDT

  •  My dad was a wonderful human being. (7+ / 0-)

    His picture was in the dictionary next to "gentle and kind." A great-great-grandson of County Sligo (on one side, classic Scots-Irish Appalachian on the other) he never got the economic rewards in life that he deserved for a lifetime of faithful service to our region.

    Plus, he was into great American music, like the Carter Family...

    I would like to go into his politics, but not today.

  •  I lost my dad 19 years ago (8+ / 0-)

    but literally no day goes by without my thinking of him.  He was born in 1910 in a dinky little town in the Midwest.  When he was 12 his parents divorced, and he went with his dad, who was a builder.  Dad spent most of his teenage years in Chicago, which makes the movie "The Sting" especially dear to me: it's set in the time and place where he lived.  

    He survived the Depression by hustling pool, and got up a dance band which played all over central Illinois during the late 1930s.  He married at 16 (his nightschool teacher!) and again at 18 ("on a dare", or so I heard); both marriages quickly ended, and he resolved never to marry again.  At age 29 he met a brainy, feisty 20-year-old secretary who blasted that resolution to smithereens.

    They'd been married 12 years when they had me.  He was determined that I should suffer none of the hardships and insecurities that marked his life, and he succeeded masterfully.  He worked in a factory, and Mom quit her job to stay home with me; we lived in a working-class neighborhood in a small city.  Back then it was possible for a single-earner family to live comfortably and even save for retirement, and this is what my parents did.  

    I was Daddy's Girl, helping him to work on the car and do yard work and minor home repairs, and he taught me to play basketball down at the schoolyard.  As I grew up and the 1960s became turbulent, he and I had our differences; but I never doubted he would be there for me when I needed him.  He didn't especially like the man I married, but I never knew this until my mother told me years later.

    He was 69 when I gave him the greatest gift he could imagine: his grandson, my Firstborn.  The two of them were very close, and very alike -- some likenesses didn't even manifest in Firstborn until long after Dad was gone, but the two are as alike in personality as identical twins.  Dad lived to see his grandson play Little League and basketball; I'm so happy he had that.

    Firstborn was 7 when Dad died of a sudden illness.  It was a shock to lose him so suddenly, but from Dad's point of view I'm sure it was better than a long, slow decline.  To this day I draw on his strength when I need strength, and look back to his integrity when I need courage.  I'm so sorry he never lived to see me married to my present husband (whom he knew and liked in the 1960s), or to see his second grandson, or to know what a fine man Firstborn has become.  And all these years later I still think of him every day.  I'll close with the lines I wrote on the back of my business card and tucked into his pocket at his funeral:

    Dearest Dad
    Because you believed in me more than I believed in myself
    you expected things of me that I didn't think I could do.
    Because I couldn't bear to let you down
    I learned to try them anyway.
    Because your dreams for me were bigger than brighter than my own
    My shining reality is a priceless gift from you
    and all my successes are and ever shall be
    tributes to you.

    Happy Father's Day to fathers, sons, and daughters everywhere.

    Our troops won the war. Bush lost the peace.

    by snazzzybird on Sun Jun 18, 2006 at 06:10:56 AM PDT

  •  OT....TU status (3+ / 0-)
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    Can someone check what's up this morning with TU status?  Suddenly my TU status is gone and I know I haven't been troll rated. LOL.

    BTW...DarkSyde, Thx so much for your science diaries!

  •  Happy Father's Day (0+ / 0-)

    to everyone who is a Dad!

    Thanks DarkSyde.. I enjoyed it!

    •  I never wanted to be a father (14+ / 0-)
       My father drank and beat my mother and us kids.  I recently found out that he raped my sister for years....His parents were both deaf mutes (or deaf & dumb, as he called them) so he could talk on his hand, and hit with them too.  My sister escaped when she was fourteen and my mom left him for good when I was eleven.  He married and fathered other children and beat them and their mothers. Toward the end of his life he looked me up because I was doing pretty well. I felt sorry for him and puut him to work but he stole from me. When he died no one in the family would make the arangements for his cremation so I did it.  
        I was so afraid that I would be the kind of father he was I got a vasectomy when I was 28.  I met a woman  who had her own problems and was pregnant with someone else's child.  I went to Lamaze classes with her but they wouldn't let me in the room when the kid was born.  We broke up a lot and she got in all sorts of trouble but I decided the kid was my responsiblity.  Finally when he was 11 I couldn't take it anymore and moved to the coast. The kid came and spent the first summer with me and every summer until he was 14 when you gave me custody so I could put him in school down here.  He made varsity basketball in his senior year and at the last game of the year they invited all the parents out onto the floor and each player had a rose to give their mother. I was the only single man standing there with a rose and we laughed. I had always refered to myself as his 'dad' but that evening he asked me to just say I was his 'father' you bet I cried.  He's 27 now and owns part of a business in Portland and  he is strong and smart and I'm proud to call him my son.  So, I guess you can't always get what you want, sometimes you get what you need. I'm convinced that if I hadn't had him to take care of I wouldn't be the person I am today so when he calls to wish me happy fathers day I will tell him I couldn't have done it without him.
      All you fathers don't forget to thank your children because no matter how much you did for them they did a lot for you too.

      Everybody eats, nobody hits.

      by upperleftedge on Sun Jun 18, 2006 at 06:59:23 AM PDT

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  •  'Details of the origin of sex remain a mystery' (1+ / 0-)
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    But scientists generally agree that it starts with a good pick-up line.

  •  Sex was created... (0+ / 0-)

    because it's FUN!!

    Man, are you a nerd!

    Dad must be proud though.

    Most people are idiots... But don't tell them. It'll spoil all the fun for those of us who aren't.

    by d3n4l1 on Sun Jun 18, 2006 at 06:30:37 AM PDT

  •  Meanwhile, We Spend Billions Looking For ....... (0+ / 0-)

    Extra-Terestrial Life Forms ;/

    We literally spend billions of dollars so that our scientists can send a robot to Mars, take photos of some red dirt,and watch everyone go "OOOOOHHH" (applause).It's obsurd to be hunting for alien bull shit when we have a planet that's dying by our own hands.Why aren't we investing in alternative fuel ? Why aren't we pouring billions into Global Warming Research ? No,we gotta take photos of some shit on another planet!It's makes me angry to say the least.

    We were created for planet Earth.NOT The SOLAR System.We are expected to till the ground of EARTH! Not Mars and the Moon.God gave us dominion over the EARTH.Not Outter Space!

    •  We (6+ / 0-)

      spend more on beer and junkfood than we spend on space exploration. NASA's entire budget, including manned and unmanned space ex, climate research, whatever hidden defense projects are wrapped into it, and the whole nine yards, would last about two months in Iraq.

      Read UTI, your free thought forum

      by DarkSyde on Sun Jun 18, 2006 at 06:41:27 AM PDT

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      •  Thank you DS (0+ / 0-)

        Indeed.  One of our hallmarks as a species is our capacity - even need - to explore.  From the subatomic to the cosmic, one of our noblest pursuits is the act of asking "who are we" and "where are we" and our tiny but relentless attempts to answer those questions.

    •  individually brilliant (0+ / 0-)

       We're occasionally individually brilliant, but collectively no smarter than the cyanobacteria that converted this planets atmosphere to oxygen in the first place.

       Don't worry! Mother Nature has a cure for our lack of self control as a species. A much smaller population of humans will survive even if that worst case chance where atmospheric oxygen drops from 19% to 12% due to ocean chemistry changes comes to pass.

      I have to laugh when people here talk about peak oil and say "life will end on earth". I have to spend a few minutes corraling them, but it does come back to an objective truth; 'life ending on earth' translates into 'my lifestyle will change in ways I don't like'.

      "Religious bondage shackles and debilitates the mind and unfits it for every noble enterprise" - U.S. Constitution author and fourth President James Madison

      by Iowa Boy on Sun Jun 18, 2006 at 06:43:41 AM PDT

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      •  The comfort provided by the geological time scale (0+ / 0-)

        In a few million years, everything will be just fine.

        Hyperintelligence as a species survival strategy is a very young experiment, as these things go.  I'm not sure that the experiment is going to prove successful in the end...

        •  evolution (0+ / 0-)

          You've got that one right - and I think if you go check you'll find that Cro-Magnon humans actually had a few percentage points on us in brain capacity. Could be the backward slide started 400 generations ago and global warming will be an evolutionary input that'll dumb us down till we're not the global threat we are today.

          "Religious bondage shackles and debilitates the mind and unfits it for every noble enterprise" - U.S. Constitution author and fourth President James Madison

          by Iowa Boy on Sun Jun 18, 2006 at 03:22:20 PM PDT

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    •  I disagree (2+ / 0-)
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      We learn all sorts of things from all sorts of research, and the place to cut the budget is not NASA but the areas that really waste our money:

      Iraq
      Dep't of Homeland Security
      All of the various apsects of the War on Drugs

      etc.

      Whenever we take away the liberties of those whom we hate we are opening the way to loss of liberty for those we love. -- Wendell Willkie

      by plf515 on Sun Jun 18, 2006 at 06:55:47 AM PDT

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    •  What an obtuse comment. (2+ / 0-)
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      ZAPatty, palachia

      Especially to post on one of DarkSyde's threads.

    •  What caused (1+ / 0-)
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      Ahianne

      us to start tilling the earth? It certainly took a while to get to that point... I'm not sure it had anything to do with God "expecting" it. I guess if God wanted us to invent plows and explore the solar system around us, he would have made us curious, tool making hominids in a fascinating, beautiful solar system....
      The idea that we have "dominion" over the earth seems to me to have contributed to the problems you bring up.

    •  look at the photos that came back from the Hubble (1+ / 0-)
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      and tell me again how money going to the space program is a waste. tell folks like ds and myself that live in brevard county, fla, whose very existence depends upon the space program at the cape. donate all that cash you spend feeding your face with doritos and mountain dew to nasa and lose weight and be heathier for doing so. get a grip, one day you WILL find a thousand reasons to support nasa even if you have none now.

      impeach-it does the body good impeachment-it isn't just for blow jobs anymore impeachment-i can say no more i expect no less

      by playtonjr on Sun Jun 18, 2006 at 10:23:58 AM PDT

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  •  My father died in 2002 (0+ / 0-)

    My father died in 2002. It didn't really hit me that he was gone until two years later. I was driving down I-80 and I saw a train with some cars from the Elgin, Joliet, and Eastern railroad in it. He'd worked for EJ&E after returning from the occupation of Germany but we could never find any mention of this small line(which is part of US Steel) in any of the history books. I had the area code and prefix for my hometown dialed before it hit me that I wasn't going to be able to tell him about it ...

    My ex wife's drug problem had been put away in 1987 but it flared again in 2001. She kicked me out six weeks before my father died, her justification being that we'd have to take care of my mother after he died because his pension was going to end(!) She had lots of other paranoid delusions about stuff I was supposedly trying to do to her which the police and courts immediately took quite seriously. Recordings of threatening calls made to me and my mother? Not interesting to the judge ... women are always victims in this state.

    I love my kids dearly but if I'd known how perverse and stacked against fathers 'the system' is I'd have remained childless. I talk with young fellows I meet who are planning on getting married - take out a quarter, flip it, tell 'em they've got a 50/50 chance of ending up a slave if they have children, then I give 'em the quarter and tell them that is their disposable income after child support. The talk with women in their late twenties and early thirties is a bit different but I see the sadness in their eyes.

     Maybe you should edit the story and add a couple of paragraphs about radical feminism and the irrelevance of fathers in the 21st century United States?

    "Religious bondage shackles and debilitates the mind and unfits it for every noble enterprise" - U.S. Constitution author and fourth President James Madison

    by Iowa Boy on Sun Jun 18, 2006 at 06:38:15 AM PDT

    •  ....okay (1+ / 0-)
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      RunawayRose

      Sorry things turned out the way they did for you, but it strikes that you're trumpeting standard MRA stuff in response. I can't get on board for that. Women are just as much slaves to their children as men.

      Radical feminism by the way has nothing to do with the system you described. Perhaps feminism, but 'radical feminism' is a particular kind of feminism

      Qui faciant leges ubi sola pecunia regnat? -- Petronius

      by Karl the Idiot on Sun Jun 18, 2006 at 06:46:08 AM PDT

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      •  feminism v. radical feminism (0+ / 0-)

         As I understand it, feminism says that women should get paid as much as men do for the same job. I'm Gen-X so this seems obvious to me. Radical feminism says "Men are unnecessary" - also fine by me if some women choose to lead their lives this way ... but not fine when this philosophy intrudes into my life.

         I can't really identify the philosophy behind the actions of the Nebraska Coalition on Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault, but from what I've seen of them they're one of the most irresponsible lobbying groups in the state. They recently brought forward a rewritten family act ... and ... you guessed it ... fathers are completely unnecessary ... except when its time to pay the bills.

        "Religious bondage shackles and debilitates the mind and unfits it for every noble enterprise" - U.S. Constitution author and fourth President James Madison

        by Iowa Boy on Sun Jun 18, 2006 at 03:17:02 PM PDT

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  •  title problem (2+ / 0-)
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    I know I'm wasting space here, but what is it you want the title to say? 'Campeador' is a 3rd declension noun (champion) in the nomitive, while 'diem' is also a 3rd declension noun, but in the accusative. Seems we're missing a verb. My Latin's not that great, so perhaps I'm making an error....

    Qui faciant leges ubi sola pecunia regnat? -- Petronius

    by Karl the Idiot on Sun Jun 18, 2006 at 06:40:59 AM PDT

    •  naw (0+ / 0-)

      you're probably right, I was just looking for a title that wasn't terribly obvious but still appropriate.

      Read UTI, your free thought forum

      by DarkSyde on Sun Jun 18, 2006 at 06:42:27 AM PDT

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      •  well,.. (0+ / 0-)

        If you just want it to say "Champion, seize the day," then add in your 'carpe' (which is the 2nd person singular imperative of the verb carpere (seize, harry, pursue, despoil....) wherever.

        If you want it to be 'King for a Day,' then it'd be

        'Rex die' (die is the ablative of dies, day, here indicating length of time: a day)

        But that looks weird in English....

        Again, my Latin's shabby. I'll leave well enough alone now.

        Qui faciant leges ubi sola pecunia regnat? -- Petronius

        by Karl the Idiot on Sun Jun 18, 2006 at 06:53:10 AM PDT

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  •  Beautiful piece (5+ / 0-)

    Thanks so much, Dark Syde! And thank you as well to all the lovely reminiscences in the comments about Dads.

    I wept a tear, remembering my own Dad, who died over 20 years ago, and was a dynamic and fantastic human being who fought for what he believed in...even when he knew it was a losing battle.

    We need more like him.

  •  Poor Science :-/ (1+ / 0-)
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    Thanks for the nice tribute to Dads, but ...

    SNARK begins ->

    As we all know the science you present shows a sequence of events that is much too complex to have actually occured.

    Even in billions of years this is too unlikely to happen. And, of course, we are told by the literally true Bible that the world is only 6,000 years old. This fact only makes your evolutionary theory that much more unlikely.

    Dad's should be celebrated because God made them first and women came as an afterthought.

    -> SNARK ends.

    All kidding aside, thanks for the tribute.

    •  I know it was a snark (0+ / 0-)

      but the actual origin of life is still a mystery.

      One possible solution is traced by Stuart Kaufman in his book At Home in the Universe.

      (I'm just trying to find someone who has read this and can help me figure it out!  :-)

      Whenever we take away the liberties of those whom we hate we are opening the way to loss of liberty for those we love. -- Wendell Willkie

      by plf515 on Sun Jun 18, 2006 at 06:57:33 AM PDT

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      •  I had to teach this to non-science majors (4+ / 0-)
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        RunawayRose, Ahianne, plf515, Daisy Mayhem

        in college (a fairly odd course titled "Intelligent Life in the Universe, which was basically an intro to all of the biophysical sciences).  This was one of the most time-consuming classes to prepare that I ever faced, since I was a geologist not a biochemist, but it was also one of the most fascinating, because of how much I learned.

        I always started the origin of life lecture with the classic S. Harris cartoon ("and then a miracle occurs")
        (http://www.sciencecartoonsplus.com/gallery.htm) to emphasize that we're still struggling to understand abiotic evolution.  It was something of a shock for the students to hear from a science professor that there are things that scientists just don't know yet!

        The high point of teaching that course was when a young man from a very conservative Christian background came to talk to me during office hours.  The things he was hearing in class conflicted with what he had learned growing up, and it was very disturbing to him.  He was very courageous; rather than avoid the issue, he decided to learn more and work through it.  We spent several hours talking, with him asking me difficult questions and me answering as honestly as I could.  It was a mind-opening conversation for both of us.  I don't know what resolution he ultimately came to, but that discussion was one of the most valuable experiences I had as a teacher.

        Thanks for the post, DarkSyde.  It's beautiful,

  •  DarkSyde shows his SoftSyde... (6+ / 0-)

    ...and brings tears to my eyes.

    I was 13 when I lost my dad.  My children were 11 and 22 when they lost theirs.

    Hey, dads out there - be real men.  Get those annual checkups, don't wait see a doctor when you have symptoms, and try to live a healthy life.  Your kids need you.

    Thanks, DarkSyde for another amazing read.

  •  Much Competition... (3+ / 0-)
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    RunawayRose, ZAPatty, Alabama Bill

    but that might be one of the top entries for "Best of DarkSyde". Well done. I didn't see that coming.  

    Good Government. Traffic Lights Aren't All That Weird. Vote Democratic!

    by HL Mungo on Sun Jun 18, 2006 at 07:09:43 AM PDT

  •  This is the first Father's Day (7+ / 0-)

    ..without my father. I gave up calling him a couple of years ago because he was getting too deaf and confused to talk on the phone, but several of my siblings always visited him on the day. I'm missing him a lot.

    •  After Mama's death, we removed the phone (3+ / 0-)
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      He could hear it ring, but he couldn't hear the voice at the other end, so it was just an irritation to him.

      I was so sorry I couldn't talk to him on the phone.  For several years before Mama's death, I was able to give her almost daily calls; we'd tell each other jokes and stayed in close touch.  Daddy was so lonesome after Mama died, and I couldn't call him and talk to him!

      Our brother and sister who lived in town were able to visit more often.  I saw him almost every Sunday, took him Communion and sang to him.  I found he still loved to go for rides in the car, so I took him for several rides during the last year of his life.  The Sunday before he died, he asked if I was going to give him a ride.  I wanted to, but never got the chance.

      I miss him, but not as much as he missed Mama.  At least they are together again.

      Sig: A rose by any other name would probably be "deadly thorn-bearing assault vegetation".

      by RunawayRose on Sun Jun 18, 2006 at 02:20:46 PM PDT

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  •  I love this diary... (5+ / 0-)

    ...what a great way to start Father's Day!  I especially like it that I'm reminded that I'm a descendant of something magical, especially those...

    domesticated or pathogenic viral elements

    ...it helps explain a lot of things, including servile role in this matriarchal southern household of mine :-)

    Happy Father's Day all you Dads!  I'm going to call my father soon, who taught me the wonders of science, of service to others (he was a country doctor) and fun.   He lost his father when he was just a boy--and so I feel especially privileged to have him now.

    "Give me liberty or give me death" (-5.13; -7.54)

    by Alabama Bill on Sun Jun 18, 2006 at 07:11:54 AM PDT

  •  No 'recommend button' for front page diaries (3+ / 0-)
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    I hit it anyway. Love your stuff, darksyde. 'Nuff said.

    Shut up brain, or I'll stab you with a Q-tip. -8.88 -5.08

    by SecondComing on Sun Jun 18, 2006 at 07:13:47 AM PDT

  •  My Dad (7+ / 0-)

    was a really good guy.  It came as quite a shock to me when I realized that not all the men at work or in politics were as reasonable, fair, and altruistic as he was.  However, his parenting helped me to be unafraid of exploiters and domineering types, to believe that many men are good, and also to believe that I have unique gifts to contribute.  Thanks for helping me remember all that!  

    "The point is, every good candidate should have a positive agenda. But you also have to fight back." Al Franken, The Truth with Jokes, p. 104

    by Rona on Sun Jun 18, 2006 at 07:21:00 AM PDT

  •  Touching and beautifully written (1+ / 0-)
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    Another great DarkSyde diary that brought tears to my eyes.  I love the way you show how the age-old cosmic dance has led us to the reality of today's world.  Thanks -- I'll be thinking of this when I call my dad today.

    It's never too late to become what you might have been. -- George Eliot

    by ZAPatty on Sun Jun 18, 2006 at 07:35:35 AM PDT

  •  Father's Day has been a touchy subject... (8+ / 0-)

    ...for me for so many years.  I am a biological parent, the donor of a Y chromosome.  And I played the role of Dad for a whole lot of years (my daughter will be 37 in August).  But somehow, this day will be like them all:  as melancholy as Mother's Day.  They both remind me that having a sex-change cannot not cure everything, that nothing will ever fill that particular void.  

    I've always wished for a day called Parent's Day instead, a day on which these feelings wouldn't be so pervasive.

    Happy Parent's Day, to those of you who need one,

    Robyn

    Teacher's Lounge opens each Saturday, sometime between 10am and 11am EST

    by rserven on Sun Jun 18, 2006 at 08:22:45 AM PDT

  •  Dad's Perks (1+ / 0-)
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    "When he was just getting old enough to enjoy some independence in an economy that was perking up, a world war [WW2] engulfed most of the planet."

    I'm twigging to a tiny detail in your neat story. But it does seem more direcly relevant to your dad's life than the evolution of his Y chromosomes.

    We always hear that the Great Depression was ended by WW2. That's the basis for the American conventional wisdom that "war is good for the economy". Do you have any references for your assertion that the Depression was ending before the war, that the war hijacked the recovering global economy?

    Your dad's peaceful 1940s economic recovery was therefore stolen by WW2. If we can understand how, we might rescue his grandkids' 2000s recovery from the warmongers now running amok across the planet. That sounds like the best possible gift for dads.

    "When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro." - HST

    by DocGonzo on Sun Jun 18, 2006 at 08:41:30 AM PDT

    •  I think (0+ / 0-)

      the economy was probably already starting to perk up a year or two before US entry into the war. But my dad was only 12 or 13 years-old then. He doesn't really have an opinion on the cause and end of the depression as far as I know. I was just saying that the normally 'fun teenage' years were a pretty serious time for his peer group/generation.

      Read UTI, your free thought forum

      by DarkSyde on Sun Jun 18, 2006 at 09:04:23 AM PDT

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      •  More Confirmation (0+ / 0-)

        A perking 1938-9 global economy would have lifted Germany into position to spend it all on a war, invading Czechoslovokia and Poland. That makes America's 2003 Iraq invasion parallel Germany in yet another way, even more fundamental than many others. I'll be looking deeper into that model - thanks for the impetus.

        "When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro." - HST

        by DocGonzo on Sun Jun 18, 2006 at 10:50:02 AM PDT

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  •  DarkSyde (2+ / 0-)
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    You seem to have forgotten that God created everything just as it is today - 6234 years ago starting at 11:30 in the morning.  I'm not sure whether it was Greenwich Mean Time or some other time zone.  I suspect it was Jerusalem Time.  I am certain it wasn't Daylight Savings Time since that is the work of the Devil.

  •  Thanks Darksyde (6+ / 0-)

    My father lost his own father when he was 17, just prior to joining the Marines in WWII. I am lucky to be here because he was one of a few who survived the battle on Tarawa. And the GI bill allowed my father to be the first person in his family to have a college education.

    He worked for the USFS as a Wildlife Biologist. It was hanging out with him as a kid that I learned all the names of plants and animals, and my love for the Arizona Desert. He left USFS before they stopped being protectors of the wildlands and the brokers to corporations.

    At 83, my Dad is a very special person, he works two days a week building houses for Habitat for Humanity in his little town. He is on the planning committee where he taught himself to use a computer and type in his mid 70's so that he could file his zoning requests.

    I learned about science and evolution on his knee, the wonder of nature and basis of scientific principles.  It was natural to then go on to become a Nurse and then later in life an engineer. When I recieved my BSSE 4 years ago, Dad was there quite proudly watching.

    Thanks Dad, you are the best!

  •  symbiosis (0+ / 0-)

    and of course without microbes there would be no beer--egad!

    And beer definitely encourages sex....hmmm....maybe there is something to this intelligent design thing ;)

    Be ye ever so high, the law is above you

    by nota bene on Sun Jun 18, 2006 at 09:06:33 AM PDT

  •  Great tone, really original! (0+ / 0-)

    I meant tone, not tome, but tome works too! Thanks

  •  Science (0+ / 0-)

    We need to show how the Origins of the Universe have revealed as utter nonsense what is known as Christianity, and its time to embrace sexuality and encourage it between all people, not just "married" people.

    Marriage is an insititution of oppression, and until we get rid of the this whole institution, we won't be truly free to develop.

  •  I could read DarkSyde all day. (2+ / 0-)
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    Mariva's Guide: Stuff for the mind, for passing time, for sharing, for yourself, for fun.

    by mariva on Sun Jun 18, 2006 at 02:02:41 PM PDT

  •  awww... (0+ / 0-)

    now I'm getting a little misty.

    My favorite sexual oddity is the "penis duels" of flatworms...PBS-Shape Of Life

  •  First the bad news (1+ / 0-)
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    I hung up on him today.  In anger.  He brought up Ann Coulter and I told him her comments were indefensible.  He started to defend them... "Well, I think those women do enjoy..."  I told him "I'm done with this conversation" and hung up.  I have never done that to him in my life, but that nauseates me.

    Now the good.  The reason it nauseates me so much is because he made me a progressive, a compassionate iberal and a sensitive human being.  He was a HUmphrey Democrat, one who believed that government had a role in looking out for the least among us.  Somebody who always tried to see the side of the voiceless, sympathize with the weak and fight for those who can't.

    Now he is a Buchannan Republican who thinks GWB is keeping us safe and wants to make sure "THEM" don't get us by bomb by immigration or by enforced lesbianism.

    I prefer to remember the father of my youth.  In the twilight of his life he may be frightened, he may long for times gone past.  But he planted a seed in me and I intend to fan the flames of his youthful idealism.  Happy Father's Day, Dad.  I still love you.

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