I was at the 2004 Valentine's Day Marry-In at SF City Hall with my different-sex partner, trying to get a proper marriage license. We would have succeeded, but there were so many gay couples there, City Hall ran out.
I'd be as thrilled to get a discrimination-based marriage license as I would be eating a delicious meal in a segregated restaurant.
How do so many recently married heterosexuals take such joy in grabbing privileges that are being denied to - who - their inferiors? We couldn't stomach it. We'd rather be heterosexual domestic partners. We've been waiting years for this day.
If that puts us in a tiny class with just Brad and Angelina - who say they've been waiting too - then so be it. But change would happen faster if heterosexuals didn't think about it as someone else's problem. I wish more people remembered all the white faces marching with Dr. King.
The denial is understandable, but in fact discrimination has been sullying - just a little - every marriage in California for the last few years, dragging down every heterosexual who's so eager for the privilege of marriage they looked the other way. Now it's a right.
Now maybe we can openly admit that freedom and fairness are everybody's problem.