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Some of you may have read my diary of a few days ago "I nearly lost my husband last week".  I would link to it if I knew how, but I don't.  This is my follow-up.

The doctor called a family meeting this morning so we could all discuss how to continue my husband's care, or not, as it turns out.

S. went on life support on Wednesday, the 26th.  I have made the three hour round trip drive through a lot of road construction (stimulus money at work) daily and also called several times a day to check on his condition.  He never improved.  There were small victories here and there (taking him off the blood pressure meds, cutting the amount of oxygen, etc...) but they never lasted for very long.  So we come to this morning's meeting.

The docs say his digestive system has shut down.  Whatever remained in his intestines backed up into his stomach.  There is no delicate way to put it, they suctioned a lot of liquid feces out of his stomach this morning.  He's been on the maximum amount of oxygen that they could give him, and yet he never got better.  The only humane choice left is to withdraw the life support.  I asked them to hold off until the two daughters from his first marriage can come from Chicago to say their last good-byes.  Then we must all do so.

I thank my friends in the DK community for their love and support, I really appreciate it.  I'm trying to type through tears, so bear with me.  I will still be around the community, it is one of the things that makes me feel better.

I'll sign off for now, thanks again for your support.

Update:  Thank you from the bottom of my heart fgr all of the love and caring.  Any right wing idiot who refers to DK as a hate site needs their head examined.

Update 2:  I just want to share an e-mail that I got this morning from somebody named jeff childress:
I'm sorry for your pain. Hard to believe I am a republican? I am and I feel you pain tonight. I am a single father and I worry about my care as I grow older, but for you to present your family's trials in life on DKOS is disgusting! Your post is a telling tribute to what is wrong with the USA. Try to deal with your tragedy before you tread on their life by trying to puff your chest out on DKOS......Not sure they would want that.... Grow up ........Soon
Thanks jeff, for the kick in the gut, just when I needed it!

Originally posted to minerva1157 on Fri Sep 04, 2009 at 04:21 PM PDT.

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