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Last week could have been among the best of my life.  

Tonight instead of celebrating, I'm sitting wondering how it all went so wrong!

Giving a gift meant to show loving care.....but instead misinterpreted as dictating lifestyle whose values aren't shared.

A celebration of a great event, but losing friends in the process.

It wasn't supposed to happen this way.  Why?

Sometimes you try so hard
To be just right.

To be kind and thoughtful
All of the time.

A gift that shows you have
Standards that value the tomorrow
While celebrating today.

But it's accepted begrudgingly
Like you had a selfish motive.

Or you plan an event all the way
Through with a team of players
Only to find you did it all wrong
And made enemies for life instead.

You wonder why, just what did you do
To gain such wrath from unselfish acts?

Did you overlook feelings or misread
The signs?

Did you get carried away with the result
And not value the path along the way?

Are you too sensitive?
Does this happen to all mothers
And activists who change the world?

When you stick out your neck
Does it get chopped off clean and straight?

Are you really an unfeeling grotesque
Mean daughter of a bitch (Sorry Mom!)

Or are you too dumb to see your foot
In your mouth leaving you deformed?

These should be moments of fulfillment,
Of joys galore.

But instead they are grueling scoldings
When all you meant to do was
To do the right thing.

I want to tell a good friend,
To cry on a shoulder so strong,
To have someone wipe my tears
And tell me all will be all right.

But instead I sit alone in my blog
And talk to the computer instead.

What did I do wrong?
Why did I do wrong
When I thought I did it all just right?


What do you do when your actions get misinterpretted?

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  •  Just a couple of suggestions, (4+ / 0-)

    after I say that I understand how it feels to be sad.  I have been there quite a bit in the past few years, and I hope that you know that I understand and hope that things get better for you, and soon.

    However, it helps to spell all of the words in your title correctly.  You would be surprised how much more attention that this will get you.

    Second, it would get more attention if you wrote a narrative about the situation before a poem about it for which no one has any context.  Without knowing about what you speak, it is difficult to say anything to help.

    Please be well, and I hope that you feel better soon!

    Warmest regards,


    "...and I get on my knees and pray we don't get fooled again!"

    by Translator on Sun Sep 25, 2011 at 08:19:04 PM PDT

  •  I knew this guy. (2+ / 0-)
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    notdarkyet, Translator

    He was talented and skilled and fairly successful in the larger world.

    In his regular life, he was proactive about things. We were close friends and he would talk freely about his intentions. His intention was to make things better. For individuals. For the community.

    He was self-starter and he would go ahead and "orchestrate" these ideas; make them happen. The whole time he was so charged about the goal. Innocent and pure in his intentions. Generous. Selfless. I knew that to be true.

    And people resented it to the extreme. They turned on him. Accused him of manipulating situations for his own gain. Of being a control freak. And so forth.

    I was fascinated by this. Everything and everyone he touched turned on him. Hate and rage, even. It was soooo strange -- and fascinating.

    That's when I realized that people bring their own karma to the world. It's like a cross they bear. In his case, misunderstanding and resentment when he tried to created or "improve" things.

    Like I said, he had some success in the larger world. You could say he had some fame. I wondered if people resented that and their jealousy drove them.

    But, in the end, I realized it was just his karma. The day would come when he stopped trying.

  •  Not knowing the circumstances, (1+ / 0-)
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    I can't answer your questions.  But I can ask some questions that might (or might not) illuminate matters for you:

    Does your gift require work on the part of the recipient(s)?

    Could your gift seem to be you trying to dictate what they do?

    Was your gift perhaps more about your own interests, passions, and needs, than about the interests and needs of the recipient(s)?

    Similar questions could be asked about the party.

    You recently wrote a diary about your daughter being in labor, and feeling badly both that you were not the chosen grandparent to mind the children, nor allowed in the delivery room.  These feelings are not in-valid or in any way "wrong".

    And yet, it seemed to me that you were making something that was really NOT about you -- about you.  

    And that's OK!  When you're diarying here at DKos.  People constantly take their perceptions of other people's lives as fodder for emotional and/or political exploration.  It's pretty standard.

    BUT... and I say this not to condemn or insult or further upset you... but because you did ask, and seem to sincerely want to know...

    IF that is how your actions seem to others in your life...

    or IF in your enthusiasm you overstep others' boundaries...

    or IF you are simply a different sort of interactor or have expectations of your role in given events than your friends and/or family members do...

    then that might be your answer.

  •  What do I do when my actions are misinterpreted? (1+ / 0-)
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    I no longer "set people straight" or "stand up for myself." People interpret that as weakness.

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