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Every now and then, I glean something useful from Facebook. (No, really!) Follow me below the dingledoodlesquiggliedividerthingie fold...
K2 was having a rough day afterschool today, and was... how to say... he was making poor choices. Not listening, doing stuff he knows he shouldn't do, and after each instance he said "I'm sorry." Those words are, to most kids and far too many adults, a get out of trouble free card. "I said I'm sorry, everything is now reset back to before, right?"
On the 17385th repetition of the magic words, I'd had enough. Then I thought of something... I must have read it a few days ago on someone's Facebook status, I don't remember. But the story stuck with me, and while it was a teachable moment about bullying, I spur of the moment adapted it for my own needs. In the interest of Fair Use and knowing Teh Google must have the original story somewhere, here's a link to the original, while the bit below is what I told K2:
I gave him a clean sheet of paper, and told him to crumple it, step on it, stomp on it, just don't rip it. He looked at me like I was nuts, and did it. I asked him to give it back to me.
This is the person you hurt either with your words, or your body, or by not listening to them. Apologize, say you're sorry. He did, and for good measure I had him repeat it with feeling.
OK, so you said you're sorry, so that means everything's ok and back to before, right? He said yes, and gave me the universal Are We Done Now look.
Everything's like it was before? Straighten out the paper like it was before.
He pressed it out with his hands a bit, then got a concerned look on his face. He told me quietly that it had some wrinkles on it that wouldn't come out. We then sat and talked about how saying I'm Sorry is important, but it does NOT make things the same as they were before. The crumples still remain.
I won't pretend that my little bit of maternal teachable moment will work magic. Nothing ever does :). But I saw the little synapses firing, and hopefully a connection was formed.
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From Dragon5616:
In Denise Oliver Velez's Sunday front page post Occupy the Hood: Communities of color and the Occupy movement, kos offered this clarification about criticism on Monday afternoon.
From raina:
This comment by kait illustrates why right and wrong is not as black and white as people may wish or think.
From Yours Truly, brillig:
I love sharing good news. OregonDrew has some regarding his Credit Union.
Mississippi's proposed Personhood Amendment is no laughing matter. But this thread begun by qannabbos did make me chuckle.
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Top Mojo for yesterday, 11/6/2011, minus first comments/tip jars. Thank you to mik for the mojo magic!
1) Sorry for not posting pictures of the family by The Troubadour — 256
2) As of 11-3: "650,000 have closed their bank... by kurious — 175
3) I'd like to have some numbers by Shaking the Tree — 132
4) Why don't you look at the actual by A Siegel — 111
5) Green energy will build an economic foundation by FishOutofWater — 104
6) A run on the banks is what by dkmich — 102
7) The Aforementioned Mr. Cain by JekyllnHyde — 96
8) However, over the long haul... by Major Tom — 92
9) Go and read "On Writing", where he writes by potatohead — 91
10) BofA may not "need" the money of small deposits, by ahumbleopinion — 80
11) Something about the idea of you by sherlyle — 78
12) The more people want to see pictures by doc2 — 78
13) And you think CBS News sat down to figure it out? by dance you monster — 76
14) The bank's customers aren't the depositors by pucklady — 74
15) Why banks REALLY need you by M E C — 74
16) Hmmm... by D Wreck — 74
17) Curse you... by ontheleftcoast — 73
18) OMFG! by Shaking the Tree — 71
19) It's called sending a message by xaxnar — 69
20) So sweet! - and you're an awesome role model by MartyM — 69
21) i was looking online at credit union web sites by marzook — 68
22) He's touched it with a needle by Dallasdoc — 68
23) Please consider moving your mortgage too by jguzman17 — 67
24) So ... CBS said it and it is true??? by A Siegel — 66
25) Wish I could move my money by frsbdg — 64
26) Keeping a sekrit is not always easy. by kerflooey — 63
27) I like the bit about by dalemac — 62
28) I've even seen local bank ads on billboards... by kurious — 61
29) On another note, a King 'book' disussion by LieparDestin — 59
30) Something Else Broken is the Concept of Free Press by Gooserock — 59
ps - A little bird told me today is smileycreek's birthday. Hippo Birdie Two Ewes!