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Imagine that it is November 7, 2011, the night before a vote in Mississippi that would declare that life begins at the instant that sperm meets egg—which, as you know, happens before implantation. That life begins when sperm meets egg, which means if the zygote doesn’t make it to the uterus, but instead attaches to the Fallopian tube wall, imagine what that means if you wake up in Mississippi in 2012 and have an ectopic pregnancy.

Imagine that you are sitting, staring, at nothing in particular and everything in general. Imagine that you are trying to figure out why, why, this is happening. Now.

I wonder if you can imagine what it feels like to be told, again and again, what it means to be a girl. You're not really a full human being: you're a sexualized baby-making organism who, once we are post-menopausal and no longer attractive, there really is no use for.

Imagine the way this might tear at you. That you have two daughters, and that you love them with every fiber of your being, but you also know that there is so much more to you than your ability to ovulate, conceive, and deliver a child.

Imagine watching others of your gender participate in their own oppression and call you all sorts of names because you question whether there shouldn't be more to life than this for women. Or imagine being in another country, where not following the status quo can get you killed. (Ask my daughter, who traveled to India last year, about the woman she met whose face had been burnt off by acid.)

Imagine sitting at your computer, sick unto death of a fight that will not go away--seemingly will never go away--and trying--again--to find the words to call attention to the obvious: that women should not be asked to sacrifice their lives to bring another child into this world.

Imagine that you can anticipate some of the comments.

Imagine the trips you have taken through the local cemeteries, which bear testament to what happens when women cannot control their own fertility. Imagine the number of graves with the names of young women and newborn babies you would see. Imagine them, surrounding you. The cemetery on the hill, the one on the other hill, the one down the road, the two that are hidden and overgrown on trails where you frequently walk. Imagine that they all contain such graves.

Imagine that the state that wants to privilege the life of a zygote over that of a woman is also the state with an astronomical rate of infant mortality—one of the highest in the nation. One that increases every year. Imagine all the dead babies that will join this statistic.

Imagine that you have simply been stripped of language, because no matter how you try to parse it, analyze it, understand it, have compassion for it--what you know, is that for a huge portion of the world, including many who live in this country, women simply do not matter.  

Originally posted to lorraine on Tue Nov 08, 2011 at 04:17 AM PST.

Also republished by Abortion.

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  •  I have not posted (2+ / 0-)
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    Slatefish, Brown Thrasher

    on DKos for a long time, but this issue demanded I come here.

  •  since the gold standard for personhood is (3+ / 0-)

    a fertilized egg, this means where now pregnancy means a fertilized egg has implanted successfully in a woman's uterus.  Personhood laws move this time back to the minute of fertilization.  for some discussion of this
    to be fair here is a pro life MD who argues that life begins at conception and not when the egg is attached

    However, he ignores the fact that 30%-50% of eggs do not attach for a variety of reasons.  Some argue the rate is even higher.  So from his perspective, what "human" rights do those 30% possess?  Do they leave an estate or do they have the right to inherit? Does this mean a mother drinking a glass of wine is giving alcohol to a minor or is a mother who smokes guilty of child abuse?  If up to 50% of eggs do not attach, how do we determine which nonattachments to investigate as possible homicides?
    To take it a bit further, if 50% do not attach, then we next can consider the 25% or so that spontaneously miscarry due to a number of complications.  Of every 100 fertilizations, we may postulate 50 of those attach. Of those 50, we can assume 13 miscarry.  Even without abortion, we can assume a nonviability ratio of 63 nonbirths per 100 fertilized eggs.

  •  I love this (2+ / 0-)
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    nchristine, Brown Thrasher

    this also implies that the death rate in Mississippi is going to to thrgou the roof.  The average age of death is going to plummet.  Statistically, if you live in Mississippi, you should be dead by now!

    Minority rights should never be subject to majority vote.

    by lostboyjim on Tue Nov 08, 2011 at 08:38:27 AM PST

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