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Yeah, I'm frustrated.  Real frustrated.  Frustrated at myself.  Frustrated that I know what's wrong and yet I'm not doing anything about it.

You see, I've been trying to lose the same ten pounds since July.  I've been stuck between 290 and 300 pounds lost since July.

July.

And it's February.

And you may ask yourself "WTF, zen?  You've lost 300 pounds!  Be happy!"

Don't mistake me.  I am.

But I'm also not.

You see, my doctor wants me at 250.  I have 50 to 60 pounds (depending on the weigh in) left to go.  I'd personally like to get to 200, but that's for another diary.

And it's been that way throughout my journey.  I'd approach a "milestone"--100 lost, 150 lost, 200 lost, and so on--and then I would seem to stall.  Before, the longest I've gone without movement has been a month.  But the odometer would always turn, and I REALLY want to have the first number in my weight be a 2 instead of a 3.

Hence the "Aaarrrggghh".

To all who are on a similar journey, this is the hardest part of the whole process.  KNOWING what to do, but CHOOSING something else, or else developing bad habits around it.

I'll tell you what I mean.  I rehearse for a choir on Monday nights.  Because of the distance involved getting there, and the state of my car, I use my mother's.  She keeps chips in the car.  Lots of chips.  I am a believer in "to be early is to be on time; to be on time is to be late".  So often I have time to kill.  Guess what happens?  And this choice is starting to become a habit.  

Also, I use the website myfitnesspal.com as my food diary.  As all of us know, a food diary is used to keep track of what you eat--it's a motivational tool as well as a clinical tool.  But sometimes, I'm a bit "lax" in my reporting.  The odd bite of chocolate here, the odd chip there, often times never get reported.  And they add up.  I try to keep myself to around 1800-1900 calories a day, the website bot says 2160 is good for me, but even though I "meet" the goal, nothing seems to happen.

I think I've become a little lax in portion control--when it comes to non-meat products, I often "eyeball" it instead of measure and weigh.  Same goes for recipes.  Often times recipes will have the pertinent nutritional information, but I'll "fudge" on the portion size with regards to the recipe and I'll have eaten more than I report.

And as far as exercise goes, I've been told to try to do SOMETHING for at least 15 minutes a day.  Well, you can guess how well that's going.

And that's something I need to fix NOW.  I've just made a decision to enter the Grand Rapids Triathlon.  And I need to learn how to run a 5k.

So, I'm frustrated with myself.  Because my choices are leading to bad habits.  My LAZINESS is leading to bad habits.

And this is the Great Danger in changing your lifestyle to lose weight.  You must ALWAYS stay focused.  Even when things are going well, you must STAY FOCUSED.

Even now, my thoughts are running like this:  "I'll stay focused...starting tomorrow".

It NEVER goes away.

Thanks for listening to me vent.  

Originally posted to zenbassoon on Sat Feb 18, 2012 at 12:23 PM PST.

Also republished by Weight Loss Kos.

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  •  No one said this was going to be easy. (54+ / 0-)

    Then it was.

    And I thought that it would always be that easy.

    Time to go to work.

    "Nothing in all the world is more dangerous than sincere ignorance and conscientious stupidity." --M. L. King "You can't fix stupid" --Ron White -6.00, -5.18

    by zenbassoon on Sat Feb 18, 2012 at 12:23:17 PM PST

    •  zen - here's a simple tip to make a difference (14+ / 0-)

      without realizing that you're doing it.

      change the time of day you eat.

      and, eat 1/4 of what you normally eat.  if you get hungry later, eat 1//4 of what you normally would, but eat very GOOD food - fresh food.

      don't do any prepared stuff - the chemicals in them cause you to crave more food or to pack on weight.  it isn't designed to nourish you - it's designed as a sales tool to make you buy more!

      breakfast - ONE piece of delicious 9 grain toast with a light coating of butter (can't beat the taste) and ONE egg over light.  you can add asparagus or zuccini fresh steamed - and then, eat it slowly.  

      go do somehthing - get involved and away from food.

      eat lunch - GOOD stuff - like ONE delicious lobster tail pan cooked in a tiny bit of butter which you leave in the pan - no dipping - the flavor is there, you don't need more!

      and a bit of that fresh steamed veggie - with pepper- fresh ground.

      substitute potatoes for sweet potatoes thin sliced and lightly cooked in olive oil - with lean meat - for lunch.

      most importantly, don't eat in the evening or before bed - lightly have a bit of cheese with a glass of wine - and that's dinner - light - light - light - then go do something before retiring.  the last meal should be when the light is still out - and very very much like that light - lite!

      if you do this, you'll find you have different cravings for food - you'll look lovingly at broccoli, make moony faces at asparagus and find yourself lovingly carressing brussel sprouts - ALL cooked with freshly ground pepper!  i cover everything with my pepper chunks - and it adds such spark to the taste.  the lean meats i cook - pepper! (NO salt, JUST ground pepper!)

      try it - it changes your taste  buds - and then when you DO buy that sweet, it doesn't taste nearly as good as you remembered it (and your hand will sneak into the fridge for more pureed pumpkin and asparagus!

      good luck!

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      by edrie on Sat Feb 18, 2012 at 01:22:01 PM PST

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  •  "Give in to the dark side Luke" (8+ / 0-)

    On a serious note, its worth bearing in mind you likely do more damage yoyoing up and down than maintaining a steady weight with an extra 10 lbs. A few cycles also teach your metabolism to compensate so well, you wouldnt lose them if you spent a month locked up in a CIA black ops site.

  •  Are you doing any pilates? (8+ / 0-)

    Check About.com for beginner pilates information, and review my Pilates Series posts for exercises you might not have tried.

    We have one guy in our mat pilates class, for some reason guys don't usually do pilates.  But it's great, you might like it ;)

    Good luck, and congrats on all the good work so far!

  •  Can't beat yourself up over slippage. (11+ / 0-)

    Just have to move forward and do better in the future.

    You will.

    If Obama doesn't deserve credit for getting Bin Laden because he didn't pull the trigger, Bin Laden doesn't deserve the blame for 9-11 because he didn't fly the planes.

    by Bush Bites on Sat Feb 18, 2012 at 12:34:49 PM PST

  •  I don't have much advice but I can contribute (8+ / 0-)

    something to match your title ...

    You have exactly 10 seconds to change that look of disgusting pity into one of enormous respect!

    by Cartoon Peril on Sat Feb 18, 2012 at 12:35:13 PM PST

  •  Be gentle with yourself!! (9+ / 0-)

    Every day is a new day.  Nothing wrong with plateauing for a while, especially when you've already lost SO MUCH weight!!

    But it's okay to vent, too.  It's okay to be frustrated.

    It's all okay, frankly.  You've accomplished a ridiculously difficult feat.  

    I say stop trying to lose that 10 lbs for awhile.  Then go back to it.

    I blog about my daughter with autism at her website

    by coquiero on Sat Feb 18, 2012 at 12:43:43 PM PST

  •  I don't know anyone who (13+ / 0-)

    can't relate to this post.  Whether it's food, work, tobacco, or something else, keeping to a program requires high vigilance.  It is SO easy to get complacent - for instance, your portion control.  You can save a few seconds or some repeated motion by eying things up occasionally and it won't be a big deal.  If you keep that up over the long haul, it gets to be a bad habit that will mess up your program.

    I hope (and pray) that you regain your focus.  I want you to reach that next milepost.  Moving that 3 to a 2 will improve your attitude by miles!  From there you'll (hopefully) have a little smoother sailing until the next one.  :-)

    -7.62, -7.28 "Hold fast to dreams, for if dreams die, life is a broken winged bird that cannot fly." -Langston Hughes

    by luckylizard on Sat Feb 18, 2012 at 12:44:05 PM PST

  •  You need to treat yourself (11+ / 0-)

    ...to a month with a personal trainer. Three times a week should do it. It will get you over the hump and back on the fast track. All machines need a periodic professional tune up.


    "Facts do not cease to exist because they are ignored." - Aldous Huxley

    by Pluto on Sat Feb 18, 2012 at 12:44:41 PM PST

  •  Zen, it took me a year to lose 15 lbs. (12+ / 0-)

    I am 5'9" and was 180. That was when I cut  most all the whites and sugar: rice, flour, Entenmann's, potatoes, starchy veges, etc.
    I do old lady Yoga - lots of stretching and bending over. But I sat there at 165 for months.
    The white I "forgot" about was milk, skim.
    I guzzled from the gallon, ~1.5 cups at a time, it's such a good quencher for me. Plus I eat a yogurt or two per day and that's a lot of milk product.
    So I stopped guzzling milk and subbed icewater and learned to like staying hungry (a bit).
    I narrowed my food choices way down so I don't have to obsess: B'fast, a yogurt, abt 200 cal;
    Lunch: grilled quesadilla - a folded burrito-size tortilla with 3 pockets of a little shredded cheese and some salsa, abt 300 cal;
    Dinner: boiled chicken chunks over green salad. Or a sweet potato and a salad.
    Snack: 1/2 cup of honey oat clusters b'fast cereal, dry for a satisfying crunch.
    This sounds boring. It is. I turned un-food centered. This is just me, though. I think you're surrounding yourself with too many choices and those chips in the car, take them out, man!!
    I lost 20 more lbs. and now am 145 or so. The left knee is bad and I don't want to hurt the other one.
    Good luck on your journey to go lighter, zen.

    #OWS #Occupy: Exposing US police brutality to the entire world.

    by OleHippieChick on Sat Feb 18, 2012 at 12:56:09 PM PST

    •  You just gave me some hope. (8+ / 0-)

      I need to lose around 20 pounds and every time I lose three or four of them, BLAM!  They come back and "find" me!  I am soooooooooo tired of not being able to get past those few pounds!  However, you wrote something that really stuck with me from when I lost around 40 lbs. between 2006 - 2007 and that is:

      I turned un-food centered.
      When I get very conscious about food (I'll notice there's this little demon voice that runs some times non-stop in the back of my brain and it concentrates on FOOD and HUNGER!), then I over-eat.  When I get "un-food centered" I am much more successful with my weight loss efforts.  Sometimes it's really hard to silence that damn voice----but I'm going to be focusing on doing just that starting right now.

      Congrats on your successful weight loss!  If I can get 20 lbs. off, I know I'll feel a lot better.  

      We can have democracy in this country, or we can have great wealth concentrated in the hands of a few, but we can't have both. Louis D. Brandeis

      by 3goldens on Sat Feb 18, 2012 at 01:23:23 PM PST

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      •  Wow! Thanks 3gs! (6+ / 0-)

        Ungrammatical as it is. :-P

        Heh. I DROWN that little voice in ice water. I don't drink huge amounts of water, but not for nothing has drinking water been called the lazy girl's diet. Once you get in that habit, it flushes the fat away. I know it works but I fall out of it sometimes. You can get sick of water.

        Don't forget to deep breathe, too. Takes your mind off whatever you're fixating on. I used that to quit the smokes.
        Oh, best of luck, I know you can do it!!!

        #OWS #Occupy: Exposing US police brutality to the entire world.

        by OleHippieChick on Sat Feb 18, 2012 at 02:48:41 PM PST

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    •  just heard on doc oz that 2% actually causes (9+ / 0-)

      your blood sugar to fluxuate and that hinders in losing weight.

      and, as for water - add a slice of lemon - it is awesome - tastes great and refreshing.  

      the major trick is NOT to eat at night - no where NEAR bedtime - that is just a food/fat/factory type of behavior!

      and, just make the proportions a lot smaller than you THINK you need.  eat slowly - and the body takes care of the rest.

      as the food is absorbed, your brain gets the sugars converted shipped to the head where the levels of sugar vs insulin are worked out and when the balance is there you are not told by your brain that you are stil hungry.  eathing slow or eating fast the delivery of blood sugar is approx the same - so if you eat slower, you aren't adding in the extra boxcars of calories before you quit.

      slow down, you move to fast - got to make the moment last... as the song said!

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      by edrie on Sat Feb 18, 2012 at 01:27:35 PM PST

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      •  You are so right, edrie. (6+ / 0-)

        No late eating, eat small portions. You know those terrible food programs you can send away for? They work because of teeny portions, but they're all bad processed crap. Awful.

        Also, I eat with a small dessert fork. :-D

        #OWS #Occupy: Exposing US police brutality to the entire world.

        by OleHippieChick on Sat Feb 18, 2012 at 02:54:25 PM PST

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        •  heh - heh - i also switched to a smaller plate and (2+ / 0-)
          Recommended by:
          zenbassoon, OleHippieChick

          a smaller fork - and i eat to enjoy instead of eating to rush out the door!

          it's funny how a single lobster tail (on sale for $5) is better than that junk that costs $10 at the fast food outlet!

          i buy blueberries/ blackberries and more and then freeze them - make great smoothies or just plain icy snacks.  eating has actually become fun since i started cooking for tee - his diabetes has put ME on the road to good health!

          we are so used to being bombarded with "supersizing" - more is better - and the opposite is the truth.  when my "pony" was put on a diet at davis years ago, he was getting the tiniest amount of food - not enough to feed a horse, so i thought - 1/4 flake of GOOD hay and less than 3 qts of pellets a day - he's 16.2 and weighted over 1500 lbs.  it was the same as my eating a small salad twice a day with about three bowls of oatmeal - period.

          he lost weight - and looked great - and wasn't "starving".

          he later gained some back at our current barn because the pellets were high in carbs.  i've taken his diet back again (not quite as drastic) but he doesn't eat everything - he eats slowly and the more he gets fit and the more he loses, the less he "dives" into the food bucket.  he is starting to be an "efficient" machine - and as i eat less and better, the same thing is happening.  more energy - the weight is dissolving and i feel much better.

          good food - proper portions and exercise.  how we've forgotten.

          i don't buy ANY prepared food with the exception of certain foods made fresh at whole foods - that's it!

          we are a product of bad advertising and bad commercialization of foods.  now that there are few "gardens" to support the current generations, they don't know any better.  thank god for fresh markets and farmers markets, though - they are bringing us back to "real" food!

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          by edrie on Sat Feb 18, 2012 at 10:07:20 PM PST

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  •  Walk, zen, just keep walking (8+ / 0-)

    Get outside a few minutes a day.  Try for 30.  Smell the air.  Look around, there's always something interesting if you just keep your eyes open.  You will feel better and you will lose weight.  It's not hard, just go out the door.  You can do it. You are already an inspiration to others.

  •  you have to intentionally trick youself.. (6+ / 0-)

    ... choose to do something that "accidentally" helps instead.. for example - if taking a red hot bath will make you too tired to go downstairs for that late night snack.. then force a red hot bath into your routine.. tell yourself you need that bath to relax (not having anything to do with the real reason).. it is just by happenstance you ingest fewer calories..

    you have to find several "things" like this... create a routine you like for other reasons..

    just one little thing to start..

    you have come a long way - try to make some small incremental improvement from here..

    if you are going to do that triathlon you will need to get in shape - how about a 5 minute jog every day.. even less - how about a 3 minutes jog?? I am serious.. after a week of that you will go to 5 minutes..then after a month maybe 10....

  •  I going to assume that you had surgery (2+ / 0-)
    Recommended by:
    zenbassoon, Oh Mary Oh

    in order to lose 300 lbs in such a short time. Yes? If so, you haven't had much time to change your eating habits. It sounds like the old habits are overtaking the new habits. Try to refocus. Ask your mother to store her chips somewhere else. At some point, it won't matter, but apparently it's a problem now. So, ask. It's ok to ask for help. Another possibility is that you're craving salt. Find a healthier salty snack. If you really like chips, see if you can find Popchips or Guiltless Gourmet. Put individual portions into baggies so you won't be tempted to eat beyond your allowable calories. Once you have the food issues under control, you might ask yourself if there's some reason you're preventing yourself from reaching your goal. I'm not a psychologist, and I don't play one on TV, but I've heard this a lot from people seemingly trying so hard to lose weight. It's really none of my business, but I thought I'd throw it in. I hope you're not offended.

    Corporations aren't people; they're Republicans. Rev. Al Sharpton

    by HappyinNM on Sat Feb 18, 2012 at 01:09:12 PM PST

    •  No surgery at all. Strictly metabolic. (9+ / 0-)

      "Nothing in all the world is more dangerous than sincere ignorance and conscientious stupidity." --M. L. King "You can't fix stupid" --Ron White -6.00, -5.18

      by zenbassoon on Sat Feb 18, 2012 at 01:17:03 PM PST

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      •  Truly amazing! Congratulations! (6+ / 0-)

        I was diagnosed with Type 2 Diabetes 5 or 6 years ago. It was very frightening. I had no idea what to eat. I went through classes that taught me. I was very motivated, so it never mattered to me what I ate. I just ate what I was told. After awhile it just became the way I eat. As long as I'm not hungry, I'm happy. My situation is unique. I'm retired, so I can eat whenever I'm hungry. I live alone, so I don't bring things into the house that are bad for me. And I learned how to cook. Neither my daughter nor I can remember what we ate as she was growing up, but we must have eaten something. I only had a few things I knew how to cook. Now I have a bunch of recipe books with all kinds of fabulous recipes that are all things I can eat. I make 4 or 6 servings and freeze them in portion-size containers so they're ready when I'm hungry. Add a quick- to-make salad, a piece of fruit, and a meal is born. Mind you, it has taken several years to adjust to this. But it's worth it. I've never had to take any medication or insulin, and my blood sugar is under control. I love that part.

        Corporations aren't people; they're Republicans. Rev. Al Sharpton

        by HappyinNM on Sat Feb 18, 2012 at 01:38:00 PM PST

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  •  I joined Weight Watchers. (8+ / 0-)

    One of the best thing I ever did for myself was lose those extra pounds. The losing part was actually not so difficult for me.

    But it is really a struggle to maintain.  You are correct that portion size is key.  It is always tempting to cheat on amounts and/or not keep track of everything that goes in your mouth.  

    I can relate to your need to kick the exercise up.  I like to sit and read.  I am anxious for Spring.  I am hoping the warmer weather will motivate me to get outside and do some real walking.

    Peace will come when the Republicans will love America's children more than they love their money.

    by Naniboujou on Sat Feb 18, 2012 at 01:20:43 PM PST

    •  WW is awesome. (5+ / 0-)

      I joined too.
      Last year. Needed to lose the 20 lbs I put on when i quit smoking.
      The education I received from WW is astounding and amazing and incredible and all that.
      I took off 24, and that was almost the easy part.
      It's the maintenance.
      But I learned badzillions of tricks to keep it off.

      One - you HAVE To burn calories every single day at the gym or by walking or running around your house. Period.
      Not doing that results in no weight loss period.

      Two - Never eat snacks when hungry. You inhale them.  When i say inhale i mean INHALE them in no time at all.

      Three - Get full on free food. Make your stomach feel full so fattening foods lose some their crack like "eats me eats me eats me" commands.

      Four - Free food is carrots, all veggies, fruit. Any kind of fruit.  Fruit is very filling. On WW it's free. I get so full on strawberries and mango and kiwis it's not funny.  Yeah yeah....everyone goes but the sugar. It the kind of sugar that your body has NO problem burning off if you get a litte bit of exorcise.  I eat enough fruit a day to feed a family of five every single day. I am not kidding. And kept all my weight off.

      Five - I love cakes and cookies and and dessert and WILL NOT deprive myself or give those up. And I don't. I found awesome pastries that are low in fat, carbs and sugar. And equal only a few WW points.  I eat Trader Joe's fruite tarts every week.

      Six - the only cheese i buy is low fat. It made a difference. The only breads i buy (i will not give up bread ever) is low carb bagels and low carb WW breads available everywhere.

      Seven - I don't eat breakfast as soon as I get up, because I get too hungry before lunch. But I do eat breakfast every single day, after nine. NO cows milk, Almond milk.  No fattening unhealthy crap either. Steel cut oatmeal.

      Eight - move every hour - even if it'[s just a short walk. EVERY HOUR. You can't sit all day and think walking or running for 1/2 hour or hour will fix it. It won't.

      Nine - Did i mention strawberries are incredibly filling?

      Ten- Miso Soup. It's a freebie.

      Eleven - Dreamfields Pasta. Makes a huge difference for me.  

      Eleven - When i make a sandwhich? I load it up with grated carrots, sprouts, tomatoes, etc. It makes my sammich bigger, takes longer to eat,, fills me up.

      Twelve - when I stopped drinking water and got lazy? Two pounds immediately came back on. Like magic.

      I could go on. I won't. Blah blah blah.

      But you are AMAZING Zen. Holy crap you are amazing as all H!
      I can't believe your story!!!!!!!!
      You are an inspiration. Wow.  

      You are not an Environmentalist if you support the brutal, cruel, inhuman life and slaughter of animals in Factory Farms which produce 18 percent of greenhouse gas emissions worldwide.

      by Christin on Sat Feb 18, 2012 at 01:59:55 PM PST

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  •  Sometimes a good vent is a good thing. (7+ / 0-)

    I hear you about feeling frustrated.  But, you've done a great job up to this point!  WOW!  Maybe just write down a couple of things you need to change about your current habits and commit to doing those changes every day.  I'm struggling (and have been for two years) to get rid of excess weight, so I can sympathize.  Hope the next week will help you get back to what works.  Good luck and best wishes!

    We can have democracy in this country, or we can have great wealth concentrated in the hands of a few, but we can't have both. Louis D. Brandeis

    by 3goldens on Sat Feb 18, 2012 at 01:28:06 PM PST

  •  How recently did you lose the 300lbs? (6+ / 0-)

    It takes time for your body to adjust to a change that dramatic, even if it took place over years.  Our system is built on feedback loops, and you've wrecked (in a good way!) some of those loops, and your body takes time to adjust to the new ones.  You hear this a lot from people who lost a lot of weight and then stalled over a paltry two or three pounds that just wouldn't go away.

    Once you start training for that triathlon, the muscle you gain is going to (partially) offset your weight loss, too, so be sure to take that into account.

    Good luck!

    Saint, n. A dead sinner revised and edited. - Ambrose Bierce

    by pico on Sat Feb 18, 2012 at 01:48:11 PM PST

  •  Your metabolism is fighting you (11+ / 0-)

    Just keep at it and don't get too discouraged.  Having lost so much weight, your body is absolutely desperate to keep you from losing more, even though you would be healthier at 250.  Don't beat yourself up too much, just keep at it one day at a time, one healthy meal at a time. We're all pulling for you!

  •  A sugar rush without the sugar (4+ / 0-)

    You've lost so much weight already that I offer this advice with true admiration and humility.  

    Someone up thread mentioned eating slowly with engagement of the senses.  A wonderful idea!  With a name like "Zenbassoon" you are sure to know the practice of mindfulness.  

    May I suggest adding to the feast with nourishment for your soul.  Take time to allow your eyes to savor a flower or fine painting, or a child's face.  Eat with your ears by listening, really listening, to beautiful music.  For dessert, try inhaling the fragrance of lavendar, freshly cut pine, leather...

    There are a bazillion little and big ways to spoil yourself.  Discovering what floats your boat is half the fun!  

    I was a peripheral visionary. I could see the future, but only way off to the side. ~ Steven Wright

    by Bugsby on Sat Feb 18, 2012 at 02:40:36 PM PST

  •  What KIND of chips in the car? (4+ / 0-)

    Potato = not good.

    Organic corn...  better.

    Whole wheat crackers with no MSG or sugar?  Even better.

    Almonds & walnuts, unsalted, even better.

    Maybe you can alter that part of your environment, if not eliminate it...

    Good luck!

    Before elections have their consequences, Activism has consequences for elections.

    by Leftcandid on Sat Feb 18, 2012 at 02:41:48 PM PST

  •  Carbohydrate Addicts Diet (3+ / 0-)

    a truly magic diet.  

  •  I recently discovered shakshouka. (4+ / 0-)

    For those who don't already know, it's a chopped tomato stew with onion, garlic, bell pepper, cumin and chili powder - and you poach eggs in it when it's just about done.

    I have never much cared for poached eggs, but this stuff is really good!  And, for me, it's breakfast three days in a row when I make it.

    It was the excuse I needed to get the 12" stainless steel frying pan I've been lusting after for a couple of years.  I already had a pan the right size, but tomatoes don't get along well with cast iron, in my experience.

    Soup and soupy dishes are very filling, which is why I mention this.  Eat something like this before you go to choir practice and the chips in your mother's car will quite possibly be a lot less appealing.

    Strength and dignity are her clothing, she rejoices at the days to come; She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the law of kindness is on her tongue.

    by loggersbrat on Sat Feb 18, 2012 at 04:31:47 PM PST

  •  Grand Rapids Triathlon. (3+ / 0-)
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    Got a bike ?  Got a set of rollers ?
    Running is hard for me , riding isn't .

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    by indycam on Sat Feb 18, 2012 at 04:41:29 PM PST

  •  Are u doing any yoga? Try not 2 eat any (3+ / 0-)
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    processed food.

    Thinking good thoughts 4 u.

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    by a2nite on Sat Feb 18, 2012 at 04:46:25 PM PST

  •  I'm a pretty active guy (2+ / 0-)
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    and I find that having a home gym really helps. I run on my elliptical machine 4 days a week and lift weights at home 5 days a week. If I had to get out of the house and drive to the gym and back every time, I don't think I would be nearly as active.

    If you have the money and the space, maybe you could invest in an elliptical or treadmill, then you'd have it handy and it may be easier to schedule time to use it.

     It would still be up to you to summon the will power to do it, though. Good luck!

    Yeah, well, you know, that's just, like, your opinion, man.

    by NMDad on Sat Feb 18, 2012 at 04:51:49 PM PST

  •  I'm in week 4 on Atkins, my second try (3+ / 0-)
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    and this time it's going a lot better, probably because I was already on a lower carb lifestyle when I started this time. I've lost 5 pounds so far despite a 2-day business trip and dining out.

    I like to cook, but can't stand any sort of regimented diet, so I got rid of everything in my house that wasn't Atkins appropriate, then stocked the pantry and fridge with great stuff - veggies, cheese, eggs, a little meat, seafood, cooking oils, garlic, and spices. I always have the ingredients for some sort of nutritious meal on hand.

    I've made a different dinner every night, usually a veggie-heavy stir-fry. Tonight I concocted a calamari stir fry with zucchini, mushrooms, tomato, minced garlic and a couple of squid bodies cut up and sauteed in a garlic-infused olive oil. If was awesome, if I say so myself.

    One thing that helped this time: thinking of the wholesome foods as a luxury, not a burden. I live in Texas, and have access to fresh, organic foods of all sorts, so there's no excuse for a boring meal. It's a privilege to eat nourishing foods that look and taste great. As a result, I get by with much smaller portions.

    Today, I bought some lovely small plates to supplement my supply. Eating a small meal on a beautiful small plate delights me, and I'm saving enough by cutting out processed foods to enjoy a little splurge.

    I still crave the occasional bit of dark chocolate, and small slice of nutty, grainy bread , but my energy level, slow and steady weight loss, and rich and varied diet have enabled me to stay on track. Another huge factor: doing this with my husband. I can't imagine having to make "other" food for him.

    Zenbassoon, what you have achieved is phenomenal. I can't imagine how much tenacity you've needed. I hope that all the suggestions people have shared will help, but whatever you do next, know that you have a very admiring following here!!

    Some drink deeply from the river of knowledge. Others only gargle. -- Woody Allen

    by cassandracarolina on Sat Feb 18, 2012 at 05:31:39 PM PST

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