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The Mitt Romney bullying episode has been devastating for me.  I have tried to write about ten diaries but just couldn't get through the first few lines.  Somebody very close to me was bullied in much the same way that Romney bullied the victim.  It took him years to get over it.  Our family has still not fully recovered.  People don't realize that bullying has enormous damage beyond the immediate victim.  It was much the same scenario, an elite rich school where my family thought he was safe, and entitled rich boys who believed they could not be touched (and they were right).  To think that these cruel bullies of somebody I loved would not only completely get away with it, but actually have a wonderful life without giving the pain they caused a passing glance is overwhelming.  To think they they could actually run for president in a country I love is beyond my comprehension.  To think that people along the political spectrum would dismiss it as "boys will be boys" and "it was so long ago" even when they knew what happened and knew the bully didn't care - well let's just say I have broken down in tears over the last couple of days and I am not one to cry easily.

This morning I was watching Morning Joe.  I don't know why I do that, just the habit of having some news show on in the morning and I despise CNN.  Hey at least Rachel Maddow is on MSNBC.  And they got to the Mitt bullying episode and they dismissed it out of hand.  Even the supposed "progressive" Mika seemed annoyed saying, "How long ago was that."  And Joe Scar seemed to take the attitude "Hey bullies are people too!!!"  I turned the show off and will never turn it on again.  Good bye to you Morning Joe.  And I was literally hurt by their attitude, by their lack of caring, feeling as if I was dehumanized.  But here is the really important point.  Ten years ago that would have been all I had about this story, all I could get about how other people were viewing the story.  I would have been convinced that there was something wrong with me, that I was overreacting, that "hey, these things happen.  Get over it, we have an election to cover."  And I know I would have felt so damn alone.  But you come here to DailyKos and you read the heartfelt diaries of real people, who are angered, sickened, furious with what Romney did and who he is.  And I realize I am not alone, it is Morning Joe who is alone, only they are too self-unaware to realize it.  Thank you members of the DailyKos community.

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  •  peace (9+ / 0-)

    Hearing the Mitt stories made me despair again, but they came out in the same week that Obama evolved on marriage equality.

    And like the diary and advertisements say, it's getting better.  It's too late for Lauber to find justice.  It's too late for your friend to be defended.  But we can make a world where bullying is not tolerated in decent schools, and we can make a world where the consequences of long-ago bullying come back to bite this self-entitled prick in places where it hurts.

  •  My husband likes to tell me that (7+ / 0-)

    "only your people on Daily Kos think that way."  Usually he is implying that I am too optimistic about how America is changing and rejecting the right-wing b.s.  

    In this case, I think there will indeed be a big effort to just dismiss this as something that happened so long ago that it is irrelevant.  I don't think that it will be easily dismissed by most people, however, and not just by us Kossaks.  I think the bigger story--bigger than the actual incident--will be Mitt's claims that he "doesn't remember."  That will stick in people's minds and niggle there, uneasily.  It will be one more little piece of evidence to make them uncomfortable with Mitt.

    I mean, come on.  The reason this entire incident of teenage-bullying resonates so strongly in the first place is exactly because EVERYONE remembers their own experiences from their own youth.  Either you witnessed someone being bullied and feel bad that you didn't speak up (my case, sadly) or you were bullied and still bear the scars, or you were the bully and now feel shame about your actions.  Or perhaps, you were the bully and you still are defiantly proud of what you did.  

    In any case, you effing remember, in stark detail, what happened!  And you don't pretend you don't!

    THAT "selective amnesia" will be what most people in this country will take from this.  Perhaps the majority of non-Kossaks will be all-to-willing to dismiss the incident as "childhood pranks," but they won't swallow the amnesia.  THAT will be one more question mark; one more head-scratching, WTF characteristic about Mitt.  

    Who wants a leader that "can't remember" something that everyone else remembers with such clarity?    

    "When I give food to the poor they call me a saint. When I ask why the poor have no food, they call me a communist." Dom Helder Camara

    by koosah on Fri May 11, 2012 at 06:24:39 AM PDT

  •  Sorry about your loved one (2+ / 0-)
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    and the pain you all suffered. I hope many moments of joy expand through the years to soften that time.

    "The whole aim of practical politics is to keep the populace alarmed, and hence clamorous to be led to safety, by menacing it with an endless series of hobgoblins, all of them imaginary." H.L. Mencken, 1925

    by cv lurking gf on Fri May 11, 2012 at 07:34:18 AM PDT

  •  I can't tell you how many incidents from ... (1+ / 0-)
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    ... my own youth, I've been reliving these last 24 hours. I cannot conceive of doing such a thing to anyone. Even to Mitt Romney.  I thought I despised Mitt Romney before, but I feel nothing but purist contempt for him now.  I knew he was a liar, but I never would have conceived of him doing something this cruel. Some missionary, huh?

    "It does not require many words to speak the truth." -- Chief Joseph, native American leader (1840-1904)

    by highfive on Fri May 11, 2012 at 08:04:15 AM PDT

  •  dear wilbur, you are welcome. (0+ / 0-)

    And definitely not alone.

    Thanks for gracing us with your diary.

    There is no shame in tears here.

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