I was getting some things out of my system by putting my feelings in writing. I did not actually send this message, but I was wondering if anyone thought it was feasible to actually think about sending it or if I am just ranting. Maybe you can see it as an analogy for dealing with this type of person in your life in general.
Dear Mom & Dad:
I used to think that you followed a life-destroying, hate-filled ideology because you were gullible and didn't know better. For many years, we tried to humor you and give you an example of what living an open-minded, love-filled life is like.
After spending a good deal of time with you over the past several years, I now realize that you believe in a morally repugnant philosophy not because you are gullible, or frightened, or ignorant, but because you are just not nice people.
It just comes down to the fact that you are able to accept the xenophobic, homophobic, misogynist brainwashing because it just appeals to your personality on a basic level.
So, if we are to continue to have a relationship, I need you to do one of two things: Please explain to me why you have rejected all the moral teachings and virtues that you encouraged me to take to heart as a child and stop pretending that you support American and Christian ideals in the original sense of the word; or please find it in your heart to make a change to start embracing the basic virtues of truth, love, and equality and express that change in your words and actions towards us, yourselves, and everyone else.
Yeah, I know this would probably not go over well. But would it possibly lead to better communication? Is open hostility a better pattern of communication than just trying to ignore the problem?