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Gay male couples face increased pressure to fill cribs. So says the New York Times.

From the article:

But support for same-sex parents is growing steadily among Americans. A Pew Research Center survey conducted in July and released last week found for the first time that a majority of people surveyed — 52 percent — said that gay men and lesbians should be allowed to adopt children, up from 46 percent in 2008 and 38 percent in 1999.
Talk about a massive change in a short amount of time. More right-wing heads must be exploding. However, not every gay couple can adopt or has legal protection if they had children from a previous relationship.

LGBT adoption from wiki with a map and graph of legal status by states.

Television has played a role in 'mainstreaming' LGTB families:

Popular culture is helping rewrite that script. Gay men who have children, or are considering having children, are becoming increasingly visible on network television. In “Modern Family,” the nation’s most popular television show, the couple Mitchell and Cameron considered adopting a second child this past season. In “Scandal,” a new ABC series, a middle-aged White House staff member groused about his partner’s desire to adopt a baby from Ethiopia. And this fall, a new NBC sitcom called “The New Normal” will feature a gay couple and their surrogate.
Personally, at 40 I am well past the point where I want kids. Babysitting is fine for a small period of time, but that is it. My partner agrees. However, I have family members who keep asking when we are going to adopt a child. So I can relate to the pressure at some level. Do I think I'd make a good parent, actually I do. But I have no desire to be a parent and that is something that I think I'd need to make the commitment to a child.

It is very encouraging to see the vast change in society when it comes to LGTB families. Progress is being made everyday. I will be honest when I say I never thought I'd see this day.

Originally posted to The Mad Hatter on Fri Aug 10, 2012 at 09:30 AM PDT.

Also republished by LGBT Kos Community and Milk Men And Women.

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  •  Shortly after my wedding, my brother (5+ / 0-)

    (who was 22 at the time) asked when he'd become an uncle.  He wasn't joking.

    On the other hand, one of the issues my mother-in-law has with our marriage is that she'll never have grandkids.

    We both want kids.  In fact, if it was up to me, I'd be on the phone with surrogacy agencies today.  But he wants us to save a bit more so we're more financially secure before having them.

    One should no more deplore homosexuality than left-handedness. ~Towards a Quaker View of Sex, 1964 (Proud left-handed queer here!) SSP: wmlawman

    by AUBoy2007 on Fri Aug 10, 2012 at 09:45:25 AM PDT

  •  I've seen a remarkable shift in the last decade (4+ / 0-)

    I'm in my early thirties and one of the few lesbians in my gay social circle who does not have children.

    I've never wanted children and am glad I don't have to worry about an "oops" moment. My gf used to want them, but her ex had kids and after several years of raising those kids she realized it's just not for her. She loves them very much and always will, but being a parent just wasn't for her.

    Lately though, she's been wanting us to have a baby. I'm still in the "absolutely not" camp, but she's moving further and further away from where I stand on the issue. We've talked a lot about it. I hope that she doesn't come to see it as a deal breaker, or something that she'll let go but feel resentful about.

    But whenever she gets really sappy about kids, I have her nephew over or we go visit my nieces, all beautiful, delightful children, but children nonetheless, and when the visit is over she says she's so glad we don't have kids.

    So, there's that.

    P.S. I am not a crackpot.

    by BoiseBlue on Fri Aug 10, 2012 at 10:14:51 AM PDT

    •  Hey I can relate (1+ / 0-)
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      When I was 30 I would see some friends of mine with their sons and it was a pain to the heart. But I was single and this was even before Lawrence v Texas, so sodomy was still technically illegal.

      By the time I hit 36 I gave up the idea and I'll cool with it now. I have kids in the extended family I can spoil and that works.

      I can't believe what I wrote and how much has changed in a decade. wow.

      The Spice must Flow!

      by Texdude50 on Fri Aug 10, 2012 at 01:28:02 PM PDT

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  •  When I first read your title (2+ / 0-)
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    Dave in Northridge, Texdude50

    I thought you were going to discuss people naming their baby girls after our Olympic medalist, or maybe Gaby Giffords.

    But I totally understand.

    And I never thought I'd see the day, either !

    I must be dreaming...

    by murphy on Fri Aug 10, 2012 at 10:16:38 AM PDT

  •  This is remarkable (1+ / 0-)
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    Jim and I are from a generation (we met in 1971, after all) that presumed that if we had children it would be because one of his siblings and his/her spouse died, and that otherwise it was just not required. I can't help thinking that this will have even more force than individuals coming out as people get more familiar with seeing two mothers or two fathers with their children at the supermarket or J.C. Penney or the movies, etc., etc.

    -7.75, -8.10; All it takes is security in your own civil rights to make you complacent.

    by Dave in Northridge on Fri Aug 10, 2012 at 10:43:45 AM PDT

    •  Can't wait for the teen angst: (2+ / 0-)
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      Texdude50, Dave in Northridge

      "You just don't understand, Mom! Why couldn't I have been like Brittany with 2 DADS???"

      This diary makes a nice counter to the one about Pat Robertson's latest blatherings...if anyone should "shut up" it's him.

      "If we ever needed to vote we sure do need to vote now" -- Rev. William Barber, NAACP

      by Cali Scribe on Fri Aug 10, 2012 at 11:36:12 AM PDT

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    •  My partner and I always chuckle when we see kids (1+ / 0-)
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      Dave in Northridge

      with two dads or two moms. It's heartwarming to see them and it is such a normal blend in the landscape now. It is truly wonderful to behold.

      The Spice must Flow!

      by Texdude50 on Fri Aug 10, 2012 at 01:30:28 PM PDT

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