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I've known my friend LS since I was in elementary school, and she still lives in the region of New York State where we grew up. When Casa Brillig was going through the adoption process, LS was supportive and very helpful, since she'd chosen to adopt as well after having a biological child. She is the reason why, as we filled out our "I-600A, Application for Advance Processing of Orphan Petition" form we carefully said we planned on adopting TWO children. Even though we were pretty sure we only planned to adopt one.

Why, you ask? Because when LS filled out that form she ignored the advice of her adoption counselor and put ONE, as she only was planning on adopting one child. She was eventually referred a beautiful Cambodian girl, and in 2002 traveled to bring her home. At the orphanage, LS met another girl, a little bit older and who had a disfiguring mark on her cheek (I don't know details other than that). LS wanted to help this girl, and decided to adopt her as well.

Slight problem. After LS had received her referral, allegations of corruption and infant trafficking led the United States in late 2001 to place a moratorium on adoptions from Cambodia. LS had been allowed to bring her daughter home because she'd already been approved via that I-600A form. Had she been approved for TWO children, it would have been possible - albeit with much red-tape and lawyering - to adopt this second child.

With no way to adopt her, LS did the next best thing and paid to have her brought here on a medical visa for surgery to fix her cheek. During that time, a loophole was found that allowed the girl to stay on a student visa. And so she's remained here, entering high school this year. She's around the same age as K1.

Over the years LS has tried to find a way to adopt the girl legally, to no avail. She'd had a glimmer of hope recently, and when I saw my caller ID flash her number I hoped it was in celebration. Alas, no. The lawyer she'd been working with, the one highly regarded in international adoption circles as a miracle worker, said that unless the situation changes, it's not happening. LS was in tears, finally coming to grips with the realization that when this child - who has lived with them as a daughter for 10 years, no longer speaks her first language, and who identifies in all ways as an American teenager - finishes school, she's ineligible to remain in the country.

I didn't know what to say, I don't think there ARE words. All I could say was "Remember come November to vote for politicians who support the DREAM Act, she might be eligible under that maybe."

What's that?

That THUNK you heard last week was my head hitting the kitchen wall, utterly shocked that the one person I know of for whom immigration reform is wholly relevant... had never heard of it.

In the intervening days I've been wondering just how many other people don't know about relevant legislation and action on issues that concern them directly. Who listen to their half hour of "news" on TV and think they're informed. Who vote for people without knowing what they believe in, stand for, promise to and will (or will never) do.

When I'm here, I always feel slightly behind the curve, always reading to learn and catch up. Y'all are smart activist people, aware of what's going on and thereby keeping ME informed.  But out there? We've got a lot of work to do educating folks on issues and making them see that their electoral choices DO affect their daily lives in a real, tangible, life or death manner.

Four weeks, people. Four weeks.  



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