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So a friend of mine on Facebook all of sudden "liked" Romney and it comes blasting onto my "newsfeed" this evening. Hmmm... Shall I "defriend" them? Shall I block their stream? Shall I just ignore it? Kossacks, advice please. What is a friendly liberal to do?

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If a friend liked Romney on Facebook and it blasted onto your news feed, would you?

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  •  Tip Jar (2+ / 0-)

    A solar spill is just called a nice day

    by furpletron on Sat Oct 27, 2012 at 06:34:31 PM PDT

  •  Wait till after the election then unfriend them. (0+ / 0-)

    I give the Big Bird to those who say Obama lost the debate.

    by 88kathy on Sat Oct 27, 2012 at 06:38:44 PM PDT

  •  Maybe they just wanted to see what lame (4+ / 0-)

    crap he is spewing on FB

  •  Choice.... (14+ / 0-)

    I have friends and family that support Romney and while I disagree with them, I respect their rights and choice  as I ask them to respect mine.  I try to enlighten where I can and would not unfriend unless there was a true reason to do so.

    "The country we carry in our hearts is waiting" Bruce Springsteen. Let's fight for it.

    by Reason to believe on Sat Oct 27, 2012 at 06:40:05 PM PDT

  •  Half my friends on FB who like Romney (5+ / 0-)

    are Dems following his Facebook feed.  Hell, I get his emails to see what he's up to.  

    You can always hide individual sponsored stories when they pop into your News Feed.

    Defriending someone because they like Mitt Romney would be pretty lame.

  •  I have unfriended many this political cycle (13+ / 0-)

    not for their different political views but for the way they convey them.  I can tolerate educated discussions but when the content turns hateful they are gone.

  •  If you unfriend someone (3+ / 0-)
    Recommended by:
    madmojo, Anne Elk, JamieG from Md

    they are dead to you, you can't ever see their comments in your other friend's conversations.  I unfriended an uncle who loved Rick Perry, and now I regret it, because I enjoyed most of his other posts.  Just hide the comments unless you really dislike the person.

    We have nowhere else to go... this is all we have. (Margaret Mead)

    by bruised toes on Sat Oct 27, 2012 at 06:41:00 PM PDT

    •  Re-friend him. (0+ / 0-)

      Tell him some glitch seemed to have removed him from your fb friends.

      Being the single intellectual in a village of 1,100 souls ain't much fun, especially when 1,099 of those don't think you're all that smart.--Lucy Marsden

      by Miniaussiefan on Sun Oct 28, 2012 at 05:29:25 AM PDT

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  •  I'm going to thin out my "friends" on Facebook (8+ / 0-)

    when the election is over.  Right now I've blocked my conservative "friends'" streams.  I'm devious enough to want to see their collective freakout on 11/7 before I unfriend the ones who were never more than acquaintances in real life.

    •  "devious... to want to see their freakout" (1+ / 0-)
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      Miniaussiefan

      You are a sick puppy.

      Come to my house... I'll make some popcorn, grab some drinks, and we both can enjoy the freakout.

      I'm the same sort of sick pup.

      (Actually, on that day, win or lose, I have many races I'm following across the country, and I'll be tuning into news and video of their "moment".
      Most of all, I want to see/hear Tammy Duckworth..., "Reporting for duty, again!")

      What is this I hear of sorrow and weariness, Anger, discontent and drooping hopes... Life is too strong for you-- It takes life to love Life

      by Nebraska68847Dem on Sat Oct 27, 2012 at 07:10:35 PM PDT

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    •  I'm doing the exact same thing. (1+ / 0-)
      Recommended by:
      cosette

      I think I might be a bad person, but at least I know I'm not alone.  

      •  My house (2+ / 0-)
        Recommended by:
        lr85211, cosette

        Will be the one flying the American Flag.
        Hung it out today to mark start of "early voting" all across the fruited plain.

        No matter who wins, I'll keep it out until Wednesday evening.

        I'll break out the fancy TV trays!

        What is this I hear of sorrow and weariness, Anger, discontent and drooping hopes... Life is too strong for you-- It takes life to love Life

        by Nebraska68847Dem on Sat Oct 27, 2012 at 07:31:11 PM PDT

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        •  Remember the look on the Fox toads' faces in 2008 (0+ / 0-)

          when Brit Hume called Ohio and the election for Obama? That was sweet!  Hoping for a repeat!

          •  I Was watching MSNBC that night. (0+ / 0-)

            Keith was doing the play by play... some new girl named "Rachel" was chiming in.

            They came back from commercial break and Keith said,

            "It's 7pm on the west coast: NBC calls California, Washington, Oregon... for President-Elect Obama!"

            I don't remember much more for about an hour.

            As much as America needed him to win that election, we need him even more this time.

            Only he can wrestle Simpson-Bowles to the ground and hammer out an agreement.

            POTUS is ready to fix the debt.
            Congress is too.

            The hard part will be in getting the American people to accept the tough details required to keep America alive.

            What is this I hear of sorrow and weariness, Anger, discontent and drooping hopes... Life is too strong for you-- It takes life to love Life

            by Nebraska68847Dem on Sat Oct 27, 2012 at 09:02:18 PM PDT

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  •  We all make mistakes. (4+ / 0-)

    In 10 days, Romney will be gone... off the map, out of circulation.

    Let this go, for now.

    Start educating your "friend"... slowly.
    Ask questions...

    "Have you ever looked up administrations... and seen who actually runs the most expensive government?"

    "What is the largest cost in government?"

    Make him/her think.

    What is this I hear of sorrow and weariness, Anger, discontent and drooping hopes... Life is too strong for you-- It takes life to love Life

    by Nebraska68847Dem on Sat Oct 27, 2012 at 06:41:49 PM PDT

  •  a lot of those Romney likes (2+ / 0-)
    Recommended by:
    etatauri, congenitalefty

    are "sponsored links" and they pay for them to clog your news feed. Go to your friend's FB page and adjust your friendship settings--uncheck "subscribe to comments and likes."

  •  This happened to me today (1+ / 0-)
    Recommended by:
    furpletron

    too, only it was both of my brothers!  I did consider unfriending them, and then thought maybe I should deactivate my FB account, like I've threatening for months.

    Anyway, it's very depressing having this kind of dysfunction in my family.  I can't imagine how they can be such big idiots.   And my mother is actually questioning her parenting choices.  

    She's kidding, but just only just barely.

    On November 6 I'm voting for Citizenship and Arithmetic.

    by coffeeprocessingmachine on Sat Oct 27, 2012 at 06:48:24 PM PDT

    •  Stay cool (1+ / 0-)
      Recommended by:
      Sylv

      It is always possible for people to have an epiphany.  And it gives you the perfect opportunity to hit the share button and get the good Obama info out there.  Especially share with them the videos of Romney debating himself, that will kill them.

      Share the President's plan

      I like this one.

      Share all of the stuff on the Truth Team page

    •  They probably think the same of you. (0+ / 0-)

      Family is more important than which political Party you support.

      For if there is a sin against life, it consists perhaps not so much in despairing of life as in hoping for another life and in eluding the implacable grandeur of this life. - Albert Camus

      by Anne Elk on Sat Oct 27, 2012 at 10:06:22 PM PDT

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    •  My younger brother (0+ / 0-)

      "likes" Romney, occasionally posts political comments on fb (but nothing much), and we never, ever talk politics. Well, he would but I don't fall for it.

      No reason to unfriend your brothers or deactivate your account, unless that's really a separate issue for you: too much time on fb = a good reason to deactivate.

      Being the single intellectual in a village of 1,100 souls ain't much fun, especially when 1,099 of those don't think you're all that smart.--Lucy Marsden

      by Miniaussiefan on Sun Oct 28, 2012 at 05:32:26 AM PDT

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  •  So far, I just ignore.... (5+ / 0-)

    I don't really post a LOT of politics on FB, and some of my friends (mostly old college friends or particularly religious ones) post things that are either anti-Obama or pro-conservative.  

    I just hide their posts.  Just those posts that I find annoying, because sometimes they might post about something else that isn't political, and that's why I have them friended on  FB to begin with.  

    I do the same with the sappy religious posts that some of my friends post too.  Just hide 'em.  Just those posts that I find to be pious claptrap, so I don't have to look at them again.  

    I personally hate arguments, so I just have a "do not engage" policy...  I don't argue with their posts, and they seem to be willing to not argue on mine (whether they also hide my posts, I have no idea....).

    •  Have 1 Rep. friend (2+ / 0-)
      Recommended by:
      Sylv, Miniaussiefan

      who posted several kind of dopey pro-Romney comments.  I posted a very moving video of a Vietnam vet from Va. that went onto her newsfeed.  She hasn't posted since.

      We'll be friends after Nov. 6, but will avoid talking politics.

      •  my facebook page (0+ / 0-)

        scares folks

        andrew ongais on Facebook.

        It was fun and laughs until political season started.
        Then they ran away!

        What is this I hear of sorrow and weariness, Anger, discontent and drooping hopes... Life is too strong for you-- It takes life to love Life

        by Nebraska68847Dem on Sat Oct 27, 2012 at 07:17:55 PM PDT

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  •  I have many friends and family that "like" Romney (2+ / 0-)
    Recommended by:
    Anne was here, Miniaussiefan

    As long as they don't place Birther / Muslim Brotherhood statements on their wall, I do not unfriend them.  Even then, I don't want their statements to go unchallenged.  I place links to facts, so that even if I don't convince them, uneducated voters that see their posts are not  simply exposed to one side.  

    I live in Washington State, and one of my friends from high school is "born again."  He posts a lot of anti-Ref. 74 (marriage equality) crap on his timeline.  I eventually decided to stop correcting him, and put increasingly harsh rebuttals to his statements, just to see what exactly it will take to make him unfriend me.  It is getting difficult, although he seems concerned that I view him this way, he seems to gain some pleasure from being martyred for his Christian beliefs.  I will just continue until after the election, so that I might witness his pain, before unfriending him.

    I know that sounds cold and immature, but his statements have proven to me that he is no longer a decent person.  I feel that his words of hate, bring pain and suffering to LGBT people.

  •  No, don't unfriend (2+ / 0-)
    Recommended by:
    congenitalefty, Anne Elk

    Probably every kossack on Facebook has the same issue with family members, work friends, etc.  Look at it as an opportunity to have some fun.  It is a great opportunity!  You can make a difference by making sure they see information they probably never would.

    Share the stuff that will make them crazy.  There is a terrific video of a Navy vet former Republican now voting for Obama that will get them good.

    Don't overdue it, just a recommend of this type of video  here and there to push back.

  •  One negative Obama comment, and you're toast (0+ / 0-)

    on our Facebook Page and you get blacked for life.  Our Facebook Page is our little happy place, and no kind of democracy.  If someone doesn't like Obama, then they can post whatever on their own pages, where we do not have to see it.

    But then with 4500 friends and 2000 subscribers, we can afford to  be very choosy ;-)  

    We always welcome any new pro-Obama friends and subscribers who enjoy wildlife photography and promoting progressive issues!!

    Those who dwell among the beauty and mysteries of the earth are never alone or weary of life. ~Rachel Carson

    by Norwegian Chef on Sat Oct 27, 2012 at 07:18:47 PM PDT

  •  Don't you want to be able to passive-aggressive... (1+ / 0-)
    Recommended by:
    Miniaussiefan

    "like" his status after they call it for Obama?  If he skulks away, you just have like his most ironic pre-election comment.  Oh, timeline.

  •  I defriended over politics (2+ / 0-)
    Recommended by:
    Linda S, Miniaussiefan

    I've unfriended someone over politics, but not until they got personal. I have some Facebook friends who are GOP, but they don't post many things that are really offensive. I do keep them in mind when I post political things; I try not to post things that are actually hateful to the GOP. I post things that are more "Hey, what about this?" or "Funny how that works".

    The ones that post something offensive, I wait until our mutual friends attack, then see if they improve. Yes, I prefer to send in the shock troops first ;) The next time they post something offensive, I hide all their posts.

    When someone got personal (a personal attack on me because of my politics), they got unfriended. A friend whose friendship had been waning over years; a few relatives I really didn't know - they insulted me and they got unfriended.

    If the relationship is important to you, leave it and just see what happens. Just because they like Romney doesn't mean they're evil (just misguided). If they post something offensive to you, it's a different matter.

  •  oh for crying out loud...how would you handle it (3+ / 0-)
    Recommended by:
    grover, furpletron, Anne Elk

    in real life?   If your long-time friend had a Romney yard sign would you toilet paper their house and never speak to them again?

    The questions that show up here sometimes....

    •  No kidding. (2+ / 0-)
      Recommended by:
      bevenro, furpletron

      Many of my FB friends are conversative. About 20 or so "like" Romney, and about 10 like Ryan.

      So what? We talk about our families,  hobbies, pets, travels and day-to-day life; we share our victories and console each other during often extremely difficult times.

      We're friends and like and respect each other enough to give each other room to breathe and be who we are.

      I have one family member that constantly posts hateful political crap. But normally, he's a nice guy and he's married to a family member I adore. So I've hidden his feed until the inauguration  or so.

      Good gosh, as important as this stuff is, there IS more to life than politics.

      © grover


      So if you get hit by a bus tonight, would you be satisfied with how you spent today, your last day on earth? Live like tomorrow is never guaranteed, because it's not. -- Me.

      by grover on Sat Oct 27, 2012 at 08:24:37 PM PDT

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  •  Don't unfriend (2+ / 0-)
    Recommended by:
    furpletron, Miniaussiefan

    Because then they won't see your more sane, rational posts in favor of a more decent and humane candidate.

    You can hide their posts tho, without them knowing ;)

    Reality has a well-known liberal bias -- Stephen Colbert

    by ItsaMathJoke on Sat Oct 27, 2012 at 07:30:54 PM PDT

  •  I Was Being So Very Well-Behaved on FB Until... (0+ / 0-)

    a young man, who has been a FB friend for about 3 years because of one of the games I play, posted one too many really offensive Tea Party memes, and I called him out on it. We had a bit of a civil discussion before he went into territory in which we would have never been able to agree to disagree on a civil basis. At that point, I unfriended him and posted a Disclaimer stating that I had very strong opinions and respected every person's right to have their own, but would be deleting anything blatantly demeaning and offensive and actively calling out lies on any political posts that came across my page from that point on. I also said if they did not like my views they could unfriend me or stop subscribing to my news feed. lol

    Surprisingly only a couple of people disappeared. There are still a few who try my patience and post garbage, but I do as I promised and always post a comment with the correct information and documentation so it usually stops any confrontations from becoming ugly. Mind you, this has only been online gaming buddies to whom I have really had to apply any of this. My good friends are either apolitical (much to my chagrin,) see the world in much the same way, or have known me long enough to roll their eyes and ignore any differences of opinion.

    Like all dreamers, I mistook disenchantment for truth. - Jean Paul Sartre

    by ApatheticNoMore1966 on Sat Oct 27, 2012 at 07:33:18 PM PDT

  •  Are they politically active? (0+ / 0-)

    You could message them and ask about it. Maybe it was an accident. Maybe it's a chance to change their mind.

  •  I just post of steady stream of things that speak (0+ / 0-)

    ...for themselves - Jed's "Romney vs. Romney" clips, things like the Rand poll trending away from Romney, the techie article on the Romney rally photoshop.

    I post them all with minimal comment, intended to suggest inevitability and demoralize the assholes.

    If I defriend them, they won't get the stream of demoralization...

    Toto, I've a feeling we're not in Kansas anymore

    by Minerva on Sat Oct 27, 2012 at 07:58:11 PM PDT

  •  Too many milquetoast liberals... (0+ / 0-)

    ...seem to chime in with messages like "oh people shouldn't post politics on Facebook!!!"

    They don't seem to realize that this only deters liberal posts - the right-wingers don't even flinch, further helping their drive for the echo-chamber.

    That said, things that speak for themselves make the best posts (e.g., Romney vs. Romney).

    Toto, I've a feeling we're not in Kansas anymore

    by Minerva on Sat Oct 27, 2012 at 08:00:10 PM PDT

  •  I have a dear friend, (0+ / 0-)

    a compleat liberal who worked for John Kerry and is true blue through and through, who is being driving to distraction because someone has hacked her fb and she keeps showing up as having "liked" Romney or Ryan. I don't know if this is widespread (maybe her ultraconservative ex has something to do with it). So maybe with luck (good luck for you, bad for your friend) the same thing has happened here?

    "Life and death, dispensed on a dollar basis. How ridiculous and fatally stupid, in what is still the richest country on earth?" Exmearden

    by burana on Sat Oct 27, 2012 at 08:10:12 PM PDT

  •  Word of caution (1+ / 0-)
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    furpletron

    Both my son and my cousin mysteriously liked Romney on facebook and neither one of them know how that happened.  My son especially was upset about it.  I read about this happening with companies on facebook tricking people into likes by getting them to click on advertisements as  a way of increasing their traffic so I wouldn't be surprised if the Romney campaign was able to do the same.  

  •  People have rights. (0+ / 0-)

    You should defend those rights. I really hate this idea going around that people with different political views are bad people. I have friends who are Republicans, friends I like and trust. People are not evil because they like Mitt Romney. I think he is an awful candidate and not at all suited to lead the country. But that is my opinion. I think we really start failing this country when we start shutting the door in the faces of people, misguided perhaps, who hold different opinions. I urge you to remain engaged with your Facebook friend. Friendships should be able to accommodate political differences.

    For if there is a sin against life, it consists perhaps not so much in despairing of life as in hoping for another life and in eluding the implacable grandeur of this life. - Albert Camus

    by Anne Elk on Sat Oct 27, 2012 at 10:03:27 PM PDT

    •  I used to believe this. Then the Republicans went (0+ / 0-)

      completely insane and divorced themselves from reality. Frankly, if someone can't see blatant reality staring them in the face (that the Republicans are nuts), then I have to question either their goodwill or their sanity.

      I won't unfriend someone who merely "likes" Romney or Ryan on FB. But post one goddamn Republican lie as the truth and you're outta there. I've unfriended several people I used to know back in my hometown because it seems like my hometown suddenly turned into KKK headquarters after Obama was elected.

      The last time the Republicans were this radical, they were working to elect former slaves to Congress. What a difference a century and a half makes!

      by jayjaybear on Sat Oct 27, 2012 at 10:37:05 PM PDT

      [ Parent ]

      •  Someone asked Lincoln why was so friendly (0+ / 0-)

        to people he knew were his enemies, and Lincoln replied that if he made them his friends then they weren't his enemies any more. You cannot change the world by cutting off the people you need to change. You aren't going to change the course of rivers, or change the color of the sky. You change people. One person at a time. You don't need to change the people you agree with. It's the ones you disagree with most strongly with whom you have to engage. And it's not something done by confrontation. You have to come along side people and guide them. It's tough, I know. But how else are you going to see our ideas of tolerance and decency prevail?  

        For if there is a sin against life, it consists perhaps not so much in despairing of life as in hoping for another life and in eluding the implacable grandeur of this life. - Albert Camus

        by Anne Elk on Sat Oct 27, 2012 at 11:21:58 PM PDT

        [ Parent ]

  •  Just FYI, one of my cousins got rooked into (0+ / 0-)

    a "Like" for Romney. She liked a photo that someone shared, apparently from the Romney FB page, and it forced a "Like" on the FB page, as well. She didn't even realize it until a friend asked her if she was voting for Romney. She's a SOLID Dem. Loves Obama.

    I wouldn't put it past him that this is half the reason he went from 80,000 likes to over 10 million in just a couple weeks.

    "Mitt Romney looks like the CEO who fires you, then goes to the Country Club and laughs about it with his friends." ~ Thomas Roberts MSNBC

    by second gen on Sat Oct 27, 2012 at 11:08:23 PM PDT

  •  Romney likes have been bs! (0+ / 0-)

    I have a few friends that have shown up as liking Romney that I knew were Dems.  When I told them, they had no clue and were pissed!  They corrected the situation immediately.  I have also seen this issue discussed extensively on some of the fb pages I belong to, its a huge problem.  I guess you reek of desperation when the First Lady has way more likes than you do as a Presidential candidate...get a clue dude.

    I can tell you that I am signed up as a like for that tool Patrick McHenry because of the bullshit way he treated Elizabeth Warren. I wait for him/his minions to post some stupid shit on his fb page and then I and several hundred other people school him and his uninformed masses by pointing out his lies, what a liar he is..etc.

    And like many of you, I am waiting to do the massive unfriending till the day after the election.  Yes, I want to see them writhe around in pain and gnashing their teeth.  Evil yes...but I am really comfortable with myself...lol.  Besides, I figure the average iq of my fb friends will jump 20 points minimum after the cleaning.

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