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I wouldn't let them go out after dark alone anymore. Not in this country and definitely not in Florida.  I am a parent and a grandparent now, I'm also White and I think I have lived long enough to feel that I know a little something about parenting teenagers and race relations in this country.

I keep playing in my head what Trayvon could possibly have done to get out of the situation he was in unharmed.  As a parent we try to think of all the possible scenarios that might put our kids in danger when they are old enough to go out into the world after dark without us. The burden of this is greater when your child is of a different race, ethnicity or sexual orientation living in a country that has a history of murdering individuals who are different. So what do you say?

If someone starts following you run away and call 911 or yell 911 or knock on doors. If Trayvon had started to run away I have no doubt that he would have been chased and shot anyway. And the verdict would have been the same because the defense would have argued that their client had to do something because there was a black male acting suspicious after dark in his neighborhood. Their client felt he was in danger and that the neighborhood was in danger, he was only trying to keep a crime from happening and protecting himself.  


If someone starts following you and coming after you then make a stand and defend yourself, be a man. It won't be the first time you will have to fight for yourself. After all, you have to start acting like a man, in the culture that has defined for you what manhood means, sometime. But wait what if your stalker has a gun?  Oh you didn't know he had a gun? Well you won't stand a chance. But I won't tell you that because I don't want you to be afraid to go out into the world and the thought of it kills me. You acted courageously kid. You died a man at the hands of a coward.

Now you deserve justice.

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  •  This case made me realize on a deep level (6+ / 0-)

    that if you are the parents of a black teenage boy, every time your child walks out the door there is a real chance that he will not live to come home.

    I can't imagine having to live like that.

    O great creator of being grant us one more hour to perform our art and perfect our lives. ::: Jim Morrison :::

    by Kevanlove on Sun Jul 14, 2013 at 11:56:52 AM PDT

  •  He Was On The Phone For Crying Out Loud (4+ / 0-)

    He turned around and Zimmerman was right behind him.  Nobody knows for sure if Zimmerman was pointing his gun at Martin or not.  But anyone that has a gun pointed at them will fight to protect themselves.  Anyone with a strange person following them around and accosting them would fight for their life.  Zimmerman had a choice to never get out of his car. Does anyone believe if Zimmerman after he got out of the car and went up to Martin and introduced himself that Martin would be dead now??  Obviously Zimmerman threatened Martin and a fight happened and Martin lost his life.

    "Don't Let Them Catch You With Your Eyes Closed"

    by rssrai on Sun Jul 14, 2013 at 12:02:57 PM PDT

  •  One of my nephews is gay (4+ / 0-)

    We've had "the talk" about how his life will always be different and he'll always be judged by different standards than his brothers.

    Telling a child to watch their back is a really gut-wrenching thing to do.

    And black parents have to tell their children that all the time.

    I can't even imagine the anxiety. I can't imagine the rage. I can't imagine the injustice.

    P.S. I am not a crackpot.

    by BoiseBlue on Sun Jul 14, 2013 at 12:06:27 PM PDT

  •  there have been a number of such attacks (0+ / 0-)

    and killings in Berkeley over the past ten years . . . one happened just a few blocks from where I live.  In every case the victim has been White and the assailant has been Black.

    Now what do you tell your kids . . .

    Fake Left, Drive Right . . . not my idea of a Democrat . . .

    by Deward Hastings on Sun Jul 14, 2013 at 12:15:54 PM PDT

  •  The irony is (0+ / 0-)

    if you have African American sons they have a much greater chance of being killed by another African American than by a racist neighborhood watch guy or any white man for that matter. A 2007 DOJ report showed that blacks constituted nearly half of all homicides in 2005 and 93 percent of their killers were also black. Why is no one taking to the streets about that?

    •  yes and fifty (0+ / 0-)

      percent of all homicides against women are committed by their romantic partner, but the issue in this case is related to racial profiling and shoot first gun laws. He was an unarmed kid walking around at night chatting on his cell phone with a friend. Be part of the solution not the problem.  

    •  Black people are talking about it and running (1+ / 0-)
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      Marina Asbury

      Intervention programs every day as u would know if you knew anything about our community....from gun buy backs to job fairs to gang intervention programs...but you choose to post a truly ignorant question rather than educating yourself.....

      "Fear is the Mind Killer"--Frank Herbert

      by vmm918 on Sun Jul 14, 2013 at 02:42:18 PM PDT

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  •  I would move. There are safer countries. (1+ / 0-)
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    Marina Asbury

    One of the most incredible privileges of being white is not having to sit your kids down and explain to them how to behave so they are less likely to be killed by a cop or some paranoid racist. But my white daughter has a crush on a black boy, and though I would never discourage her from entering a relationship with him, if that's what she wants, I know what it would mean. It would mean having to have that conversation with her. And maybe someday, telling her to take her son and move someplace safe. I can't imagine living with that fear for a member of my family. I have utmost respect for the parents who manage it, and such sorrow that it is necessary.

    "The Democrats are the lesser evil and that has to count for something. Good and evil aren't binary states. All of us are both good and evil. Being less evil is the trajectory of morality." --SC

    by tb92 on Sun Jul 14, 2013 at 04:35:59 PM PDT

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