OK., for everybody who got their panties in a bunch over Miley Cyrus performance at the VMA.
Look, I get it.
A lot of people watched her grow up on the Disney Channel as the relatively wholesome character of Hannah Montana. Just to begin with, Hannah Montana was a character written to be appealing to both parents and kids. The show began when Miley Cyrus was 12.
However, Miley Cyrus, the person, is 20, almost 21; she is not the character Hannah Montana, nor is she a cute, little girl.
She is a young woman and for some reason , in this country at least, wholesome and sexually active don't go together.
I have zero idea why that is. I mean, how do you suppose cute, little girls are made in the first place.
In other words, it seems that sex and the enjoyment of sex are something bad and especially women should be ashamed of themselves for enjoying sex.
"Well, sex is suppose to be for reproduction and not for enjoyment"; by the way these are the same people who abhor abortion and would like to do away with contraceptives.
I read a blog from, apparently, some woman who wants to use this performance to illustrate to her daughter how not to behave in public.
Well, what I got form her tirade was: sex is bad, good girls don't have sex and even if they do, they better not like it or else they must be some whore or slut.
She insisted that Miley Cyrus was a spoiled, rotten, little girl no one ever says "NO!" to.
She fantasized about: "If I saw my daughter grinding her pelvis on some guy, I would knock her on her butt and slap the guy." Or something to that effect.
She insisted, that someone should have told that little girl Miley: "You are not wearing this outfit on stage!"
She was outraged that this cute, little, wholesome girl Hannah Montana (this time as Miley Cyrus) was shaking her but and acting sexually suggestive.
The Horror!
God knows, we have never seen anything like that before.
We have never, ever seen women in sexually suggestive poses or dancing in a sexually suggestive way.
Seriously? Are you kidding me?
The first thing to pop into my head was, Madonna. I can remember all the outrage every time she had a new video and who can forget her book.
So, please, stop trying to insist that this is the first time in history that performers grind their hips or shake their butt.
As far as the "Whatever happened to the cute, little Hannah Montana" cries.
Hannah Montana was a character and Miley Cyrus grew up!
She is 20! Twenty; for all those challenged in recognizing numbers. Not twelve!
If this young woman is old enough to schlepp a machine gun through the mountains of Afghanistan, she is old enough for sex!
Not to mention, if you don't dress sexy at twenty, when are you suppose dress sexy?
At what age is it appropriate to look like a sexually attractive woman? I can tell you, I have often wished that some of the ladies of the various "Real housewives of where-ever", most of whom are in their late forties or fifties, would dress less provocative. And no; I am not some chauvinistic, male idiot. I am a woman in my late forties with enough functioning brain cells to dress appropriately for the age I am now and able to remember being twenty and enjoying turning heads.
Women have sex!
Hopefully the majority of women have enjoyable sex.
Yep, even wholesome, cute, little girls grow up to be sexually active women.
I know, it's uncomfortable, maybe even a little heartbreaking, to think of this or that cute, little girl doing "the nasty", but come on! This is 2013, not 1913!
Not to mention, having a sex drive is no more evil than being hungry. Mother nature made you want and enjoy having sex to ensure the continuation of the human race. Just as she arranged for you to get hungry and make you eat so you don't starve.
Quite frankly,if you are one of the people who were outraged and offended by her performance; the slut-shaming you engaged in says a lot about you. Just because you, apparently, don't enjoy your sex life doesn't mean the rest of us should be ashamed of the good, enjoyable sex we have.
If you didn't enjoy her performance, why didn't you change the channel? What makes you think that you are the arbitrator of what is appropriate dress and behavior for another adult person?
Miley Cyrus is an adult woman and not some child to be chastised and, if necessary, physically forced to dress and behave in, what they consider to be, appropriate ways.
The idea that a young, adult woman is slut-shamed for a performance that would have never even been talked about had it been any one other than Hannah Montana is more disturbing to me than any sexually suggestive performance could ever be.