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 Today I ran into this story online, and needless to say that I was utterly horrified by what she went though growing up.

  I think this story needs to be shared by everyone, so that we can bring awareness to how harmful fat-shaming, etc can be.


The violent side of fat-shaming and body acceptance

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  •  Shame, Guilt, Rejection From An Unloving Mother (2+ / 0-)
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    petral, Aurora Moon

    Don't just skim over that part because that's the root of the problem right there where her mother went to great lengths to reject and shame her daughter publicly.  It's a much more concise explanation of why she went through most of her life as an emotional shit magnet for abuse than to infer that she is merely a victim of society's prejudices.  So she goes through life hoping that some day she'll be pretty enough to get the love that her mother was never, ever, going to give her. But it seems almost glamorous to be a victim of society.  In comparison, being the victim of a rejecting parent seems kind of trite and maudlin.  

    Men are so necessarily mad, that not to be mad would amount to another form of madness. -Pascal

    by bernardpliers on Mon Dec 23, 2013 at 10:15:06 PM PST

    •  hmm. (1+ / 0-)
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      Penny GC

      I didn't see anything in my diary post that would infer that it was merely just society and not her family that engaged in fat-shaming, and other abusive practices.
       I didn't point to any one group of people in my post because from this woman's viewpoint it seemed that almost literally everyone she knew seemed to love abusing her emotionally and mentally.
        I was dismayed about this lady's life story because it seemed like she had the horrible luck to be raised around such horrible people. And just when it looked like she might be able to get away from that kind of thing... adult bullies pretty much zeroed in on her weaknesses for no reason other than to be total D-bags. Ugh.

      •  It's The Route Most Readers Would Go (0+ / 0-)

        Many people who would identify with this poor woman's problems would  have their own mommy/daddy issues with the usual struggle to deny that their parents really were sick people.  Freud described the classic types of denial but he probably never saw people who collectively blamed their most personal problems on society.  Not that this isn't possible, but usually the issue of the parents is obvious if you listen closely.

        Men are so necessarily mad, that not to be mad would amount to another form of madness. -Pascal

        by bernardpliers on Tue Dec 24, 2013 at 07:17:14 AM PST

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      •  And You Didn't Imply That Anyway (0+ / 0-)

        "Infer" means a conclusion drawn by the listener, "Imply" is when the speaker hints at something.  Thus blaming society would be an inference by the reader.

        Men are so necessarily mad, that not to be mad would amount to another form of madness. -Pascal

        by bernardpliers on Tue Dec 24, 2013 at 09:26:18 AM PST

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