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As many of you probably already know, there was a breakthrough yesterday after decades of concern over the concept of homosexuality in the masculine atmosphere of the NFL:

Michael Sam made history Saturday afternoon, as the St. Louis Rams made him the 249th overall choice in the 2014 NFL draft.

The Missouri defensive end became the first openly gay player to be drafted in league history and seeks to be the first openly gay athlete ever to play in the NFL.

Video of Sam receiving the call from the Rams and coach Jeff Fisher revealed the player's emotion while surrounded by friends, family and his boyfriend.

This is, quite obviously, a welcome and promising sign of progress.

But what was included in that emotional response by a man brave enough to out himself to the press? A perhaps equally brave embrace and kiss with his partner during one of the most joyful moments of his life - in front of ESPN cameras.

You didn't hear the pops? Those weren't fireworks. They were bigoted brains exploding across America.

Follow me below for video of the special moment and a taste of the crazy, a brand only men kissing on ESPN can bring out of the woodwork.

The general response to the touching moment above on most on sports message boards? This:

Openly gay athletes playing pro? Eh, maybe its time. But gay athlete kissing his man on camera?

"THE SKY IS FALLING AND THE RAPTURE'S COMING - EW, ICKY, GROSS - Wait, why am I aroused? Oh God. It's that agenda again. Honey, the damn liberals are taking over our TV!!!"

There is a genuinely wide variety of stupid on this one. After all, sports brings together a group of Americans that vary widely on politics, level of education, and general sanity.

Here we have the common (and quite numerous) cave troll, who sticks to basic gut feelings:

Because, obviously, Sam's primary concern on one of the best days of his life should be the "I'm not against gays" guy from ESPN keeping down his fried rice.

You can also find the classic trolls wondering about, fuming over the horrible scene of love they just witnessed - wondering why they're oddly disgusted or aroused by it and desperately seeking to justify the feelings better than "OMMMGG it was icky!!!":

Got it? Its the G rating at issue. Heterosexual kisses on draft day are clearly ok - but not those nasty gays.

These next bigots use similar justification and are becoming more common in the wild, as excuses for ignorance grow thin. What's a hater to do? They say they're kinda ok with gay people - they just don't want their kids around them. Or seeing them kiss. These types can be found at home or in bunkers, huddled closely while watching old Disney movies and fearing the grand gay agenda. Shhh don't tell them Disney owns ESPN:

Oh, the children. What will they ever do with such brilliant, moral parents - who can't even explain a kiss?

Another classic character out in full force is the Christianist bigot. You know, the ones who claim Jesus while assuring us God wants us to to be hateful to everyone not like us:

Because nothing says love thy neighbor like hurling slurs and damning most of a country in the name of a peaceful God, all because a gay guy got a kiss on TV.

Often time, dramatic social events stir up rare hybrid trolls who emerge from the shadows:

"I'm all for gay people" but if I have to see them kiss it's satanic. Um, ok. Got it.

That guy might have been better off with this curious line of attack, albeit not by much:

Perfect logic - If you want to be judged by your professional merits, never kiss your significant other. No word from asexuals on how they feel being dragged into this.

And last but not least, the trolls who want us to fight racial discrimination while ignoring the historic plight of homosexuals - because screw everyone else, that's why:

Wait, wait. What troll patrol would be complete without also comparing gays to pedophiles?
Notice the guys name is "quote me please". While I obliged, my recommendations would have been "educate me please" or "don't judge me please, I'm struggling with my sexuality".

The only way I can keep my own head from exploding after reading these quotes is to make fun of them.

Well, one thing is indeed "unexpectable" and it is this guy being right about something: This is a progressive country - and the quicker we force these trolls back under the bridge, the quicker we can make this place work better for everyone involved.

Thank you NFL for finally showing some sign of openness and inclusion, however overdue. Thank you ESPN, not only for covering the story closely but for not shying away from showing two men kiss after countless shots of other couples kissing.

But most importantly, congratulations to Michael Sam and the gay community.

Don't sweat the trolls - we'll all take care of them. Just enjoy and embrace every victory in the long hard road towards progress. It's much overdue and you deserve it.  

Now, back to these ESPN boards - where was my popcorn??


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  •  What most homophobes will never understand (21+ / 0-)
    It's really none of your goddamned business.
    My mom USED to occasionally complain about gay marriage.

    I asked her how much time she spent thinking about HER mom having sex with granpa.

    Tumbleweeds and crickets.

    Some things are just none of our business and if you INSIST on making it your business it just will not end well.

    Have some boundaries, says the Gestalt Therapist....

    Legal means "good".
    [41984 | Feb 4, 2005]

    by xxdr zombiexx on Sun May 11, 2014 at 03:48:38 AM PDT

    •  Bingo (5+ / 0-)

      I can count on 0 hands the # of people it changes my opinion of or feelings towards. Orientation just doesn't impact character or sense of humor or anything I value in a person. At all. I've never gotten why that concept is so hard for people to grasp, especially christians directed specifically to judge not.

      I like your approach. I imagine asking that makes most homophobes think for a minute: "So just how much time do you think about other people's sex lives anyway?"

      "Words ought to be a little wild, for they are the assaults of thoughts on the unthinking." -Keynes

      by UntyingTheNot on Sun May 11, 2014 at 04:03:38 AM PDT

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  •  I'm happy he got drafted don't care about the kiss (5+ / 0-)

    I voted tuesday because it is my right, my responsibility and because my parents moved from Alabama to Ohio to vote. Unfortunately, the republicons want to turn Ohio into Alabama.

    by a2nite on Sun May 11, 2014 at 04:01:13 AM PDT

  •  "Unexpectable" - I am so using that from now on. (7+ / 0-)

    Thanks for the diary.

    Our government is not yet small enough to drown in a bathtub. That doesn't mean it can't be waterboarded.

    by furrfu on Sun May 11, 2014 at 04:06:57 AM PDT

  •  #6 Gee, why dont I ever meet any nice guys? n/t (2+ / 0-)
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    UntyingTheNot, sfbob
  •  First OPENLY gay pro football player... (7+ / 0-)

    I have no information otherwise, but I would be amazed if Mike Sam were the first gay NFL player ever...the others just never bothered to mention it.

    Boycott all republican owned businesses-see how they like THAT.

    by old mark on Sun May 11, 2014 at 04:23:43 AM PDT

  •  Boom God has entered the atmosphere (3+ / 0-)

    Oh wait, nope, my bad, there must be a disaster to blame this on somewhere....girls kidnapped in Nigeria...that'll do

    "I decided it is better to scream. Silence is the real crime against humanity." Nadezhda Mandelstam

    by LaFeminista on Sun May 11, 2014 at 04:33:25 AM PDT

  •  that damned bird -- here i am again: (3+ / 0-)
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    UntyingTheNot, a2nite, eyo

    still flappin my wings and leaving my message just about everywhere i can -- since i'm not Mitt, and John's being too quiet. maybe too too quiet.

    TRAILHEAD of accountability for Bush-2 Crimes? -- Addington's Perpwalk.

    by greenbird on Sun May 11, 2014 at 04:33:44 AM PDT

  •  Vaquero-Max Hamsburg Cohen's dramatic (4+ / 0-)
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    UntyingTheNot, gffish, Johnny Nucleo, eyo

    addition to the Rapture agenda is noteworthy, as he states that God will call his faithful up to Heaven while sinners are left behind "to be raped by Muslims and decapitated soon after."  

    That passage must be in the Bible somewhere, although so far I haven't bumped into it.  

    But hey, whoever publishes the Left Behind books probably smell some serious sequel action.  

    "How can we know the dancer from the dance?" (Yeats)

    by Remediator on Sun May 11, 2014 at 05:02:05 AM PDT

    •  Right?! (3+ / 0-)
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      Remediator, Johnny Nucleo, eyo

      These doomsday types have vivid imaginations and the Left Behind authors/publishers will take advantage of that as long as it pays the bills.

      If the Bible somehow not only foretold of Muhammad and Islam 500 years early but also suggested the group would rape and decapitate those "left behind", we'd be very familiar with the passages by now.

      I think we can safely say it isn't there. Not that that slowed Cohen down a bit.

      "Words ought to be a little wild, for they are the assaults of thoughts on the unthinking." -Keynes

      by UntyingTheNot on Sun May 11, 2014 at 05:26:43 AM PDT

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      •  Agree. Seems like one or two Biblical (1+ / 0-)
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        scholars would have stumbled upon that passage by now.  

        Billy Graham used to run -- may still run, for all I know -- a newspaper column called 'Ask Billy Graham,' in which The Faithful wrote to the good Reverend with questions about God and Jesus and the afterlife, etc.  

        "Dear Reverend Graham:  Is it true that people who don't believe in the same way I do about Jesus will be left behind in the Rapture, raped by Muslims, and decapitated soon after?"

        "How can we know the dancer from the dance?" (Yeats)

        by Remediator on Sun May 11, 2014 at 05:31:40 AM PDT

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        •  Dear raptured but not raped, (1+ / 0-)
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          Are you brown, gay, or foreign? If so, God doesn't care if you're raped or decapitated because that will be pleasant compared to burning in hell for eternity.

          But if you're a good little white Christian who has contributed to us, rest assured you'll sleep in beds of gold while those "other" people are running from the Muslims. Please be sure to continue contributing so you can have an even better place in heaven.


          Note that I consider Graham to be a decent man when compared to similar acts like Pat Robertson.

          "Words ought to be a little wild, for they are the assaults of thoughts on the unthinking." -Keynes

          by UntyingTheNot on Sun May 11, 2014 at 06:01:10 AM PDT

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    •  The joke's on them (2+ / 0-)
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      Remediator, UntyingTheNot

      The rapture was some years ago (like maybe 9/11/01?) and not many people qualified, so it went pretty much unnoticed.

      If I ran this circus, things would be DIFFERENT!

      by CwV on Sun May 11, 2014 at 05:36:25 AM PDT

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  •  Michael Galbraith was very concerned (5+ / 0-)
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    that his kids would see two men kissing on ESPN and asks if his kids needed to see that.  

    Yes, Mr. Galbraith, they do need to see it.  They need to see people kissing -- straight people, gay people, bi people, trans people, all kinds of people -- because it's an affirming and positive underscoring that relationships matter, that they are strengthened by affection and praise, that very good things can occur when two people decide together to navigate a complex world.  

    ESPN showed your kids a moment of triumph for a gifted athlete and a kiss from his partner celebrating that triumph.  

    Your kids can manage that just fine.

    "How can we know the dancer from the dance?" (Yeats)

    by Remediator on Sun May 11, 2014 at 05:44:44 AM PDT

    •  Thank you for this (2+ / 0-)
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      Remediator, eyo

      I'm a straight man and this is one of the best things I've ever read on DKos, said much better than I could.

      I want my kids to see that love and people come in many varieties, including those who are very different from them. Those differences are to be celebrated as diversity, not used to denigrate.

      "Words ought to be a little wild, for they are the assaults of thoughts on the unthinking." -Keynes

      by UntyingTheNot on Sun May 11, 2014 at 06:15:58 AM PDT

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      •  UntyingTheNot, I appreciate the diary (3+ / 0-)
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        very much because it puts us screen to screen with the multi-flavored bigots out there who are squawking about a same-sex smooch on ESPN.

        My god some of those people need to get lives.  

        Meanwhile, I'm still bummed that I missed the Rapture.  I try to keep current on events, but obviously, a few slip thru the cracks.  

        Thanks again.

        "How can we know the dancer from the dance?" (Yeats)

        by Remediator on Sun May 11, 2014 at 06:20:16 AM PDT

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        •  My pleasure (2+ / 0-)
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          I thought the community would enjoy seeing how threatened they're acting over something so simple. For bigots, playing the vistim isn't new - but they get very desperate when they start to realize they've lost. Seeing a black and white man kissing, on ESPN no less, is a pretty clear sign public opinion is against them.

          I had to enjoy their misery a little. Figured others would like some wing nut tears too.

          Thanks for all your comments. I'll drop you a note if I hear of a rapture 2.0 - Apparently the first try didn't turn out so great.

          "Words ought to be a little wild, for they are the assaults of thoughts on the unthinking." -Keynes

          by UntyingTheNot on Sun May 11, 2014 at 06:37:24 AM PDT

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  •  And in other news (5+ / 0-)

    the winner of Eurovision is a bearded drag queen, causing bigoted minds to explode all over he world

    If you stand for nothing you will fall for anything.

    by LieparDestin on Sun May 11, 2014 at 06:22:09 AM PDT

  •  LOL! Conchita Wurst won fair and (1+ / 0-)
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    square.  It wouldn't kill the Russians to afford a more gracious response, such as "Congratulations."  

    On the 'end of Europe' aspect, I'm going to go out on a limb here and predict that Europe will survive Conchita's victory without deterioration or collapse.  

    Time will tell.

    "How can we know the dancer from the dance?" (Yeats)

    by Remediator on Sun May 11, 2014 at 06:33:35 AM PDT

  •  If those were two ladies kissing... (1+ / 0-)
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    UntyingTheNot is fair to say the reaction from Wingnuttia would have been entirely different.

    "First they ignore you, then they laugh at you, then they fight you, then you win". Mohandas K. Gandhi

    by DaveinBremerton on Sun May 11, 2014 at 07:27:23 AM PDT

  •  Michael Sam jersey sales.... (3+ / 0-)
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    eyo, UntyingTheNot, julesrules39

    are getting "ridiculous" in numbers already...  Oh my....more stuff to make heads explode....  Nothing makes me more happy......

  •  Happy! More hugs and kisses please, (1+ / 0-)
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    earth needs more public displays of affection. Go out and have a PDA today! Do it for mother earth (raise fist)!  :-) . They make a nice couple, IMO.

    His crying made me kind of uncomfortable though, if it had gone longer I probably would have started balling too. Tears of joy, the relief was palpable.

    Thanks for the diary UntyingTheNot, would have skipped this news because my NFL is set to IGNORE for various reasons.

    •  Agreed 100%. Dang Sam bringing tears to my eyes (1+ / 0-)
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      And making us feel all uncomfortable. How dare he?! ;)

      Thanks eyo - public displays of love, all kinds, for the win.

      "Words ought to be a little wild, for they are the assaults of thoughts on the unthinking." -Keynes

      by UntyingTheNot on Sun May 11, 2014 at 04:57:52 PM PDT

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  •  Darrell Issa ... to investigate ESPN and the NFL (2+ / 0-)
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    UntyingTheNot, rustypatina

    In case you didn't hear it, Darrell Issa has just requested a Congressional investigation into ESPN and the NFL Network for discussing this topic all day on TV during the NFL Draft. The House of Representative will vote next week to remove the Draft from ESPN and the NFL Network and give it to the 700 club. Next year's draft will be moderated by Pat Robertson himself. In case they do not succeed, there are rumors that the NFL Draft will now be moved to the times of 10pm and later to ensure, children are sleeping ... just in case ... you know !!!

    Judge Scalia and Roberts have requested an emergency meeting of the Supreme Court to see what they can do to restore the first amendment rights of those, whose rights to disagree with ESPN were taken away on the various social networks. Apparently, Facebook and Twitter and other popular social networks were preventing Americans from expressing their opinion about this draft.

    The Koch Brother$ have already been pushing ads  to raise money off of the Michael Sam Draft...Apparently, many Americans who watched the draft on ESPN have now lost their insurance. And it is clearly the fault of President Obama.

    Fox News and the right wing media have now linked the NFL Draft on ESPN to Obamacare... Bill O'Reilly has asked real conservative Americans to boycott the draft in the future, as it does not represent the true American values anymore. The NFL Draft is indeed making lots of non-white, non-catholic, single men millionaire... This is simply unacceptable. The only people in this country who have the right to become millionaires are not being selected by the draft. We need an investigation about Beyonce and her husband representing some of these guys.  Oh ... I almost forgot ... Do you all know how many babies are born ... exactly 9 months after the NFL Drafts? That's another proof that the NFL Draft is not good for America as it is creating lots of single moms.

    And finally, Senator Rand Paul has said that anyone who saw the kiss won't be allowed to run for President. This was particularly addressed to the Clinton Family as both Hilary and Bill were watching the draft on TV ...

    This can't end without Benghazi ... and Sarah Palin ...
    In her speech to the NRA this week, Sarah Palin has now linked Benghazi to Michael Sam and President Obama ...
    Use you imagination here ... lol lol lol

    Although these are all jokes, I can bet that next week's right wing media watch won't be too far off ...

  •  There should be an option for didn't care (1+ / 0-)
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    Which from the perspective of a heterosexual male that doesn't care if you're gay or not, is the same reaction if give if I saw a heterosexual couple kiss.

    by DAISHI on Sun May 11, 2014 at 12:33:21 PM PDT

    •  Fair enough (0+ / 0-)

      But I'd also be excited and happy for the first openly heterosexual player acheiving a major milestone with his significant other by his side.

      "Words ought to be a little wild, for they are the assaults of thoughts on the unthinking." -Keynes

      by UntyingTheNot on Sun May 11, 2014 at 03:20:56 PM PDT

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      •  I mean yeah (1+ / 0-)
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        And I know it means a lot in the LGBT community and I get that. I'm not trying to downplay that reaction because it's a milestone for them.

        This is a function of my personality though. I either care or don't, and generally I just don't care (emotionally) about the LGBT movement unless I'm angry at bigots (I actively argue and defend their equal rights but it's largely intellectual, I have no strong emotional attachment to it).

         Otherwise it's just... I don't know it's life. Gay people are in my industry, they're the people around me. I literally didn't register a reaction to this until someone showed me all the bigot tweets.

        by DAISHI on Sun May 11, 2014 at 03:35:10 PM PDT

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        •  I can definitely understand (0+ / 0-)

          It is hard to get worked up about something that shouldn't really ever be a big deal, like a tearful reaction to good news that includes a kiss. As a football and sports fan hoping for more tolerance in sports, it just struck me as a moment to both celebrate very clear progress and point a finger at bigots who see something "satanic" in an act of love.

          But that doesn't mean everyone cares or should. I just hope most others who don't care do also recognize and work to rectofy the difficult circumstances gay folks often face, as you clearly do.

          Thanks for the comments and rock on.

          "Words ought to be a little wild, for they are the assaults of thoughts on the unthinking." -Keynes

          by UntyingTheNot on Sun May 11, 2014 at 04:48:13 PM PDT

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  •  I was hoping someone here could tell me how long (1+ / 0-)
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    it will take for the NFL or RAMS to have Michael Sam's real number.  Right now, they are selling jerseys with the number "10" because they don't know his number yet.  I want to make sure that mine arrives before Chicago PRIDE next month.

    BTW ... The jerseys with the wrong numbers for Michael Sam have already sold more than most players will ever sell (as I predicted).  I sure hope that this courageous, young man is getting a cut on merchandise sales ... :)

    Thanks for posting the video.  I couldn't be happier for him.  #LoveIsLove    

    •  I was curious about that too, jules (1+ / 0-)
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      I'm stoked the jerseys they do have are selling so well.

      My understanding is he has to try to make the team for the upcoming season. Not sure if he'll have a set # until he makes it and is officially on the NFL roster, although I'm not positive about that or the exact timeline. If he doesn't make the team, he could end up on the practice squad or another team.

      My guess would be he makes the team, based both on performance and the marketing potential we're talking about. As for his cut, I don't honestly know but the endorsement deal he recently signed (visa, iirc) and others forthcoming will certainly help him to benefit financially from his popularity.

      "Words ought to be a little wild, for they are the assaults of thoughts on the unthinking." -Keynes

      by UntyingTheNot on Sun May 11, 2014 at 05:09:43 PM PDT

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  •  You left off a possible answer for your poll (2+ / 0-)
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    and I know that because I had it: damn, that was hot and so sweet!  (FYI - heterosexual, middle-aged woman here).


    "These types can be found at home or in bunkers, huddled closely while watching old Disney movies and fearing the grand gay agenda. Shhh don't tell them Disney owns ESPN."

    Not to mention, most of those old Disney movie scores were written by, yes, gay men.  Oops!

  •  I've looked at this a few times (1+ / 0-)
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    (because it's so sweet) and all I can say is, there's only one kiss with a tiny amount of tongue.  In Europe, this would be considered heterosexual!

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