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I have usually hated clothes shopping, especially when I was overweight. What fit wasn't attractive, it was a horror to find anything that fit, and getting anything that had to fit multiple points on my body? Almost impossible.

Nowadays, I find shopping for clothes much more fun, but I still have difficulty figuring out what size I am. I can wear anything from a six in some things to a ten in others, with eight being my average, and have found that some attractive clothing is too big on me! How do you beat the clothes shopping blues while losing weight? Let's leap the orange vapor and hear about what I do.

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First of all, you may not need new clothes, depending on how much weight you're going to lose. If you are going for 10-20 pounds, just invest in a good smaller belt, or a customizable belt, and tighten it as needed. Also, baggy works for some things. No, really. I still have some attractive "huge size" clothes that, with a belt and the right accessories, look great on the new smaller Allergywoman.

If you do, however, keep in mind that mass-produced clothing designers are actually situated on Mars. They design clothing that must be mostly intended for aliens. Your mission, going into the stores, especially shopping for pants (and bras), is to find the few pieces of clothing they slipped up on and designed that will actually fit humans.(1) They are out there. They will slip up. And if you're kind of curvy like I still am after my weight loss, the Amanda line of jeans from Gloria Vanderbilt is a good bet to try.(2)

It isn't illegal to go into stores and try things on to figure out what size you are, either. Well, unless you do it in the middle of the aisles where everyone can see you. Nor is it illegal to measure yourself, then go into stores that have Halloween costumes and see, by measurements, what you could spook the kids with this year if you wanted to (and lost all sense of taste).

Also, remember that your self-worth isn't defined by what weight you are, or by whether you can fit into a pair of jeans designed to fit anorexic models. It's defined by the goodness you are in the world, and I have no doubt you are worthy. You're here, after all.

Hope everyone's having a fantastic day. I weighed in at 140 today, unexpectedly, so all good on my end. :) In the picture below, I'm wearing a shirt I wore before my weight loss. See? Sometimes it still works out fine.


Rachel at Lawrence Park by Windthin on deviantART

(1) No, this isn't CT. It's a new way of thinking about clothes shopping that can ward off the depressing thought, "I lost weight and I still can't find anything to wear?!"

(2) Not a paid endorsement. I fit well into their stuff.

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  •  Goodwill was my friend. (2+ / 0-)
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    allergywoman, greengemini

    When I lost over 50 lbs. 4+ years ago, I had to replace all my fat-boy pants, and I got a lot of my replacements at Goodwill.  I haven't replaced my shirts, although any new ones I have purchased have been in smaller sizes.  My XXL t-shirts & sweatshirts are too big & baggy on me now, but many of them have sentimental value, so it is hard to get rid of them.

    BTW, I ran into your husband last week at Culver's for the Oaken Acres fundraiser.  Not sure if he recognized me at first clean-shaven.   He expressed interest in seeing Arsenic and Old Lace; I know you said it wasn't in your budget, but just thought I would remind you that it's this weekend & next, just in case you can make it.

  •  To find clothes that fit, (3+ / 0-)
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    allergywoman, NancyK, chimene

    ignore the size tags once you get to the general area of what fits across your shoulders.  Or hips, if you're shopping for pants.

    Just try things on.

    Strength and dignity are her clothing, she rejoices at the days to come; She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the law of kindness is on her tongue.

    by loggersbrat on Fri Aug 15, 2014 at 09:59:06 AM PDT

  •  I'm a big believer in staying in clothes (1+ / 0-)
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    allergywoman

    that fit as much as possible (and as much as time, money and mental endurance allow!)  A big part of my getting started in the first place was summoning the will to go out and get a few sets of clothes that looked as good on me as I could possibly manage -- I'd been slumping around in sweatshirts and too-tight yoga pants for far too long.  That I managed to find them in XL and 14 instead of XXL and 16 is happy chance, but the goal was just to be realistic and look decent and look like I respected myself.  It actually worked, in that I never felt like a "fake", as some people do, in eating appropriately and exercising a lot while still significantly overweight.  It fit together with the clothes -- I had already changed inside, and so the way I acted and the way I dressed reflected that.  Some of those things I only wore a few times before they were too big, but it was still worth it.

    I then reached a point after losing 25 or so pounds where I'd "outgrown" (in the downward direction) everything I still had hanging around the house, and I found that all of a sudden my self-image plummeted.  I'd felt great at 170, thought I looked terrific and slim; why feel so bad now at 165?  It was just the clothes.  They were too big, and I looked sloppy and unkempt.  By 160 or so I broke down and went shopping, and again it made a world of difference.

    At this point, depending on the brand, the cut, and probably the phase of the moon, I will wear anything from S-M on top and 4-10 on the bottom.  After "trying" and failing for well over a decade to even get back into a 12, sometimes the sizes still feel unreal.  Almost 5'9" and 140+ pounds and I'm wearing size 4 shorts and a small T-shirt?  Really?  But whatever.  Like you said, it's just a number.

    The biggest surprise has been that "thin" me is decidedly small-boned.  At 44 years old and not much in the way of muscle tone you can be sure I'm not going for anything cut "skinny", but "relaxed" is even worse.  I look like I'm wearing clown pants, and that cut used to be my savior.

  •  shudder ... clothes shopping (1+ / 0-)
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    allergywoman

    I have ALWAYS hated to clothes-shop. I must have been not-over-weight SOMEtime, my baby pictures are only normally chubby...

    for years my mother suggested things and I agreed (she only made suggestions because I was SO disinterested I wouldn't even express opinions on what to try)

    these days my DH tries, on occasion... it was a real pain when I was working and had to have "management" appropriate outfits. I just got a week or two's worth and was "boring". Almost all of that has cycled to second-hand by now, I have no place to wear them!

    The only clothes I've ever felt attractive in were 11-12thC! 8-)

    Now I just go for what's practical (gardening, housework, construction) and comfortable. Never did see the attraction of "skin-tight", as so much "modern" clothing is.

    "real" work : a job where you wash your hands BEFORE you use the bathroom...

    by chimene on Fri Aug 15, 2014 at 02:57:27 PM PDT

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