Shaun, I am Tri-racial woman. I am 61 years old and I have lived all over this country. My father died when I was 11 months old and I was an only child. During my childhood, I integrated several grade schools. So, you can imagine what a wartorn childhood that was.
Those experiences made me stronger and the person that I am today. When it comes down to it, it does not matter what your racial identity is. Of course you have curiosity but what's important is who YOU are, how YOU feel about yourself. Every morning when you step into your bathroom to brush your teeth, you will look yourself in the eyes and you will measure youself - your faults, your failures, your own accomplishments as a human being. That is the only judgment that matters because it is one that will most greatly impact how you are with your family and therefore their judgment of you as a husband, father, etc.
You have accomplished a lot and the attacks against you are proof of that fact. We have watched the attempted smears against African-Americans grow more and more outlandish year after year. We have watched people wilfully disregard the truth right before their eyes. We are watching this country do a national imitation of a child confronted with some thing it doesn't want to hear by sticking it's fingers in its ears and humming loudly.
But you are doing something vital by singing even louder and forcing people to confront truth. Please keep it up. Someone has to do it.
Meanwhile, don't let these haters rock you. Stand firm. Look them in the eye and tell them "This is ME. This is who I am! Like it or don't. I don't care. The people who matter love me. Now, back off."
Many people stand with you.