As I have written about before, I am Jewish and Bisexual. Other than the first 3 years of public school growing up in a majority gentile neighborhood, from 4th grade until graduation (Maybe this includes our formative years coming to a head when we figure out our attractions?) I grew up in a very mixed Jewish/non-Jewish community.
From a sexuality viewpoint I knew that I was Bisexual (though I would not use that term to describe myself or even come to terms with it for many years) when I was 9.
The earliest physical attractions that I had though, were to Jewish fellow students. More on the slender side, pale skin, black hair and brown eyes. In fact that describes my biggest puppy dog crush person to a T.
Although I would and did date people of all different types, from a purely physical attraction (Which I do not think is key for a successful relationship but it plays a role) was this stereotypical Jewish look.
As I went out of school down in the deep south for grad school and I was the only Bisexual/Jewish student combo on the campus, I did not date for the longest time. That was until I found a single gay Asian (Filipino) man. My mutual friend who fixed me up asked if I minded her fixing me up with a friend of hers who just happened to be Asian. I said I would not mind at all, and over time it occurred to me that many of the physical traits I found attractive before held true for some Asian male groups too.
Now I have no desire to date now, and no one who is sane would want to date me, an unattractive, sick guy who is in a nursing home, I still make note of men I find attractive and 9/10 they are of the same pale skin/slender/black hair/brown eyes type.
From a heterosexual standpoint it makes sense to me, from an evolutionary standpoint if we are pre-programmed to find similar others attractive. Maybe it is a hold-over from times when we lived together based on things such as tribes. But it sure seems silly to me that this attraction to others is passed down via genetics though it does make sense ex post facto if it was. But from a gay man having those saame traits? Now that is stretching the bounds that we were prewired/programed/prepared to find sexual attraction pre-programmed for Members of the Same sex where pregnancies' or continuation of the species has nothing on the line.
Maybe my brain is just wondering about things that have no answer… or maybe I just have too much time on my hands, but….what do you think? Where does sexual *attraction* come from?
BTW, if like me you think the photo of the man in my top of the diary is good looking check out Michael Moshonov.