Now that I have your attention...
I am bloody fed up with the purity police picking at the phrasing of words, or even the words themselves, of those who are putative allies. I know you've been disenfranchised and had the shit kicked out of you historically. But, I for one am not going to worry about the words I use or how I use them if people can't get past that point to look at intent.
There are 6 billion special cases on this planet! Most of them used to look up to the US as a model of how to govern, work, live, and behave towards others. That's been shot to hell after 10 years of Bushes, 8 of Reagan, and 6-7 of Nixon in the White House, and 10-15 of the GOP in charge of Congress with their mix of social and political authoritarianism which uses the religious dupes to empower the oligarchs and send the kids of the rest of us off to useless wars while limiting the rights of any 'other' they can find.
Holding yourselves off as special cases does no one any good. We ALL deserve equality and the same rights under our Constitution and should not go looking for special privileges in name but should be looking to enforce the idea of that ALL in the Constitution without having to name any one person or group.
If we, who are not part of special interest group XYZ, use words that you find offensive then you have the problem. We are seeking to enforce that privilege of ALL and refuse to be cowed by your hypersensitivities when you care not for the intent.
Now, let's get back together and put progressive and liberal attitudes at the fore for the purposes of moving us ALL forward towards more freedom and stop trying to twist my words into manufactured offense.
I am not the enemy, nor are they whom you have dubbed bigots, for not indulging your fears or hurts. The world is real and reality is hard. It takes maturity to deal with that real world and part of maturity is letting people say what they will. Following on that, maturity requires that you look at intent, intent, intent.
As I always tell motorists who get pissed that I am not running across the street when I have the right of way and they are in their cars turning right on red, honking at me, "You don't have to like it, you just have to live with it."
Now, let's get back to the issues that truly matter, especially as regards the purpose of this site.