good morning, all.
i am reposting sara r's earlier diary today that is the community call for help for one of ours in time of crisis.
vetwife first published her diary here as a rant, but as kossacks do - our community has come together to give her and her husband (a viet nam vet) support and a hand as they have done for so many in their times of need.
here is the reprint of sara r's diary published with her permission and gratitude to this community. your responses have demonstrated why this place is special and unique: reaching out to help when someone is in crisis.
thank you all from me, too. it makes me proud to be a part of this place in times like this.
below the fold is sara r's diary in toto, along with the link from our hearts to vetwife and her family...
sara r's diary - keep it going!
Last week, Vetwife’s plate was piled to overflowing with troubles – any one of which
would have been enough to send a person around the bend. It’s a testament to her
strength that she is holding things together – but she really could use the help of friends
to lighten her load a bit and to let her know that people care. I am posting this so that her
DKos family can rally around her and lend her support.
It was a nightmare of a week – read her diary about it here. Here is
a nutshell recap of what happened:
As an apt, real life metaphor for all that happened, the sewer backed up and her basement
flooded, bringing a bunch of unexpected expense. Worse, working with bleach and
scrubbing has left her ill – Vetwife had walking pneumonia in August and, when all this
past week's misery began, her recovery from it was in no way complete. She did not
have a lot of resistance going into the misery that was to follow.
This past week, Vetwife's 20 year old daughter, who suffers from diabetes and bipolar
disorder, gave birth while ill with a fever. The fact that the new mother was ill led
to some complications and the baby was taken to a different hospital to be put on a
ventilator. The baby's hospital was many miles away, leaving the family to scramble for
gas money just to get there and then for motel money to keep the new mother near her
baby.
In the midst of all this stress and chaos at the hospitals, another blow fell by way of a
phone call. Vetwife’s husband’s son from his first marriage was going through a divorce
and had become very depressed. He shot and killed himself. Vetwife is waiting for the
full horror of this to hit her husband (it hasn’t yet) – he has PTSD (100% disability) from
his service in Viet Nam.
Vetwife’s church, which ought to have been her rock in this sea of troubles, was no
help to her at all. Only one fellow church member has come to visit. This, as much as
anything, has caused her a lot of pain.
This family is overextended financially right now. As you know, Vetwife runs a
nonprofit to serve veterans, United Veterans of America. It’s important work she does, especially in her red State of Georgia, where
social services are, well, to use a polite word, “insufficient”. Recently, she and her
husband overdrew their funds to help a veteran who was being turned out on the street.
This has put their own family in a terrible squeeze, especially given what happened after.
As her 5 year old daughter said, “Santa is broke.”
The whole week was a hell of a ride. After a week of incredible stress and very little
sleep, Vetwife is now on forced bed rest. She has a flu, a hacking cough, a fever, and
now a kidney infection. This heroic woman is plumb worn out. Is it any surprise?
Christmas is coming. Let us send Vetwife some cheer. Here’s how we can help.
First, if you can spare it (and ONLY if you can spare it – Vetwife would rather curl
up and die than receive from someone with needs of their own), some financial
help would be a great help. Here is a PayPal link. If you would
prefer to help with a check, email me and I will tell you how to do that.
Second, Vetwife could use some help raising money for her nonprofit. Veterans’ needs
are outstripping what she has been able to raise. The local Georgia community is really
not fertile ground for this right now – an internet outreach would be helpful. Please raise
your hand in the comments if you can help her with this. It is a great cause.
Lastly and most importantly, this dear woman could use a big hug -- and if you are a
praying person, your prayers. She’s tired, she’s stressed, she’s physically ill – and the
loving arms of her friends will be a great comfort to her. The care and concern of this
community is nothing less than a godsend to her and her family.
PAYPAL LINK TO HELP VETWIFE – THANK YOU
Namaste.
the paypal link goes to the pac that was started and is managed by vetwife - the funds are directed to the "vetwife fund".
please be sure and watch the moving tribute to her made by her husband jack in 2008 - you will be moved to tears. she is one who doesn't talk about what should be done, she DOES it!
thanks to vetwife and to namvet - for gracing our world with your presence!