I've had about all I can endure of "Godliness" in the last few weeks. I could so rant on, but I really want to focus. So I'll do it with, as my title promised, ONE QUESTION, for ALL, black, white, hispanic and asian. Here it is:
Can you look your beloved gay child in the face and tell him/her, that she/he just isn't quite up to snuff when it comes to marriage? Can you tell your gay child that he/she is, according to God, destined to be a second class citizen--- because of what? An "accident of birth?"
If you can't answer with a resounding NO! to this, regardless of your religion, well then, you trail fucking Dick Cheney in your ability to evolve. Think about THAT.
Follow me below the orange squiggle. I won't take much of your time, but be warned, I'm loaded for bear.
Tonight I watched yet ANOTHER black evangelical, on the Ed Show, tell me how her faith based agenda simply disallowed her to agree with the president. And in total fairness, there was a black guy answering to her with great grace and wisdom. Are there white democratic evangelicals who feel the same? I guess so, but we're not hearing from them. My guess is most white evangelicals are republicans.
Conversely, we're hearing from a whole lot of black evangelicals and preachers who are stirring the pot here with the same kind of bigotry they've come up against. And yes, it IS the same kind of bigotry, no matter how much they want to make the case that it's different.
I got involved in a conversation here, on a thread a week ago, where some democratic black evangelical was bemoaning she couldn't join in here anymore, because too many here did not understand that she thinks gays have no right to the idea of marriage, and in GOD's name yet.
For all here who might feel like jumping my bones right now, because somehow this is all so racist for me to say, spare me. I won't own it, because there's not a moment of my life's actions that supports that. AND I FULLY AGREE AND RECOGNIZE THAT THERE'S PLENTY OF WHITE DEMOCRATS WHO ARE EQUALLY BIGOTED WHEN IT COMES TO GAY MARRIAGE. I put that all in caps, so it couldn't be easily ignored.
But, fact is, when it comes to Democrats right now, it IS the black evangelicals who are coming to the fore with their objections. To try to deny this is spitting in the face of reality. And IMO, there's nothing I could do to be more condescending and racist, than to suggest a black evangelical gets a pass over a white evangelical. Just no.
So, I've saved my most prideful, loving, statement for last. I have a gay child. I have a gay child who came out to us with great pain, even though he knew how liberal his father and mother are. You know, on such a liberal site, it's interesting how rare my testimony is.
Want to know what he said? This:
"I was just so afraid I would disappoint you. That you would never be able to stand at my wedding. That I could never deliver grand children to you. But I want to do both. I want everything I was raised with. I want to have a solid marriage. I want to give all the love you gave me to my own kids."
Yep. My son dreams of a white picket fence, a solid marriage and a loving family. And so do MANY black gay folks living on the down low, because their community is amongst the last to accept them. SO FUCK ANYONE, black, white or purple, who tries to tell me they're to be excused from their bigotry because God said they could be excused from it. JUST FUCK THEM.
And I'm not sparing the sword for black evangelicals. Lord knows, I've taken out after white bigots of every stripe, and not afforded them any excuse.
You might say we must be "gentle" when it comes to people's religious beliefs. But I haven't heard that regarding white evangelical bigots here. The black evangelical community has a choice to make. Yeah, you can cling to your religious beliefs, and drive your gay children, friends, brothers and sisters under ground. Yeah, you can scream holy hell that your fight for civil rights was more important and more deserved and nothing like my son's.
But I'm NOT BUYING IT. And I dare anyone who thinks they can make that case, to look my sweet, loving, hopeful son in the face, and tell him why YOUR God just doesn't approve of him as a husband.