So today’s Mother’s day. Always a land mine in my house. 3 years ago I adopted a 13-yo, placed with me when she was 11. Victim of physical abuse, emotional abuse, and witness to worse.
I try hard, but I will never be 100% what she needs. She needed a mother who met her needs, not her own. She needed two stable parents, instead she got a raging lunatic and someone who abdicated total responsibility. It will be a good day today if I don’t become the victim of her still unresolved anger.
All is not lost however. I have an older adopted daughter, also placed with me as an older kid, and she’s come out the other side. Couldn’t have been more loving and appreciative in her Mother’s day message to me. Has blessed with me two of the most adorable grandkids a woman could ask for, with another on the way.
Please don’t see this as if I regret my actions. I don’t. It’s just that, for some kids, and adults, today is about loss…..