Very appropriate conversational line stolen from The New Super Power for Women: Trust Your Intuition, Predict Dangerous Situations, Defend Yourself From the Unthinkable, 2017, Steve Kardian with Clara Pistek, page 129, Verbal De-escalation.
There are numerous stories of passenger groping on public transportation, buses, trains, planes packed with people like sardines. “Did you just grope me?” can only (probably) be safely used in a crowd, loudly spoken to bring attention to the perpetrator.
These are trying times. These are Groping times, unfortunately due to our nation’s present ruler.
I’m going to endorse a trio of books, including the one mentioned above, to deal with our times, our culture, our attitudes.
The second book is Transforming a Rape Culture, 2005, edited by Emilie Buchwald, Pamela R. Fletcher, Martha Roth. This book observes on page 123, The Language of Rape by Helen Benedict, that in the English language, “… there are 220 words for a sexually promiscuous woman and only 20 for an equally promiscuous man.”
The third book is an outlier, a comic regency romance written by Marian Devon, An Uncivil Servant, 1993, which, however, deals seriously and from a feminist viewpoint with the issues of unsolicited touching, forced marriage and marital rape.
In the meantime, if you use public transportation, you might consider practicing saying loudly and clearly, “Did you just grope me?” It might also serve as a group catcall when a gathering is protesting offending public persons.