“Imagine being the wife of one of these dudes who talks about how having a daughter finally
made him realize that women are people”.
I relayed a true story. Specifically, I said:
“At the women’s march in 2017, a male friend of mine, (feminist ally), carried a sign that said: “Women are human beings.” I thought everyone knew that but sadly that’s not the case.”
I thought this a rather innocuous comment and went about my evening. Long story short, my “bland” comment blew up. Endorsed as sad truth by 380 plus people, it also drew raging vitriol from 185 readers. The vast majority of the keyboard spittle brigade were male. Two or three self-loathing women chimed in too.
The angry responses can best be summarized as follows: A handful of men said it wasn’t true. That they themselves had never heard another guy say they didn’t understand women to be people until their daughter was born, so therefore it doesn’t happen. (If I had a dime for every time I heard a guy say it, I could retire tomorrow). Some called my male friend a simp, a cuck, a nerd. A considerable number, presumably Jordan Peterson fanboys, asked me to define a woman. Then there were a large number of comments calling me a slut, a baby killer, a whore who needed to make him a sandwich, a fascist for advocating for genocide of infants, a woman who needed to understand that the primary role of a woman is to be a mother, know your place, etc., etc., etc.
You get the picture.
I chose not to respond to any of the comments. I don’t take internet insults to heart and lost no sleep over this. BUT...a week later I am still scratching my head, genuinely flummoxed as to why 4 factual words, “Women are human beings” would provoke or enrage anyone! What concerns me is the misogyny. The dehumanization. The dehumanization is dangerous. I mean if women AREN’T perceived as human beings to these guys, what exactly do they perceive women to be?
Why is it so difficult for some to see a woman as a stand alone individual human being? Why is that so threatening? Why do some men only awaken to the fact that women are people when they have a daughter? Why do the forced birth folk consistently minimize the lives of women and amplify the importance of the life of a fetus? I think there is some damaging religious detritus going on here of antiquated notions of women as madonna/whore. Holy book nonsense of women as temptresses not allowed to enjoy their sexuality but shamed and blamed for the male response TO her sexuality.
Look, I have no issue whatsoever with porn or sex workers. But I have to ask a serious question about compartamentalized thinking here...when you go to a strip club, the women up there dancing for you? Or when you are watching your favorite porno? Those women. They are as human as your daughter or your wife or your sister or your boss. They are. Do you see them as any less human? If so, why?
Women are human beings. Individuals. We don’t have to be someone’s wife, daughter, niece, sister, mother in order to be validated as “someone”. Women are human beings.
I’d really love to hear your thoughts on this Dkos. There is no shortage of questions above. Thank you.
