After reading Egberto Willies’ article on reaching out to Trump Voters, I turned to the comments hoping to learn about strategies that had worked for other folks. I was surprised to find that over half of the comments were angry, even vitriolic protests of the very idea of having to interact with these people. Some commentators mentioned that they had family members in the trump camp and many were concerned about being true to their values. I would like to offer two fictional stories as a way of rethinking what it means to engage with one of “them.”
Claude is a democrat. His uncle Clyde voted for Trump. When they see each other at the family business, Clyde starts spouting right wing talking points and crazy conspiracy theories. Claude notices some anger welling up inside him, but makes a decision to stay calm. After Clyde finishes, Claude might have said, “Hmm ... interesting.” or “Sorry you feel that way.” Either way, Clyde looks surprised, then disapointed. He is disappointed that he won’t have the pleasure of seeing Claude’s face turn red.
In this story, Claude has let go of the need to defend his cherished values from Clyde’s attack. Is this wise?
Here is the second story (a parable).
Once upon a time there was a little house in the suburbs. Living in the house were a family and their dog. Almost every afternoon a particular event occurred as described below.
Dog’s point of view: A letter carrier in a postal uniform approaches the house with the intent of entering the house and harming the family. As he approaches, the dog barks ferociously dissuading the letter carrier from entering the house. The letter carrier then turns around and walks away.
Humans’ point of view: A letter carrier approaches the house to deliver mail into the mailbox on the front porch. The dog barks wildly causing an unnecessary nuisance.
Let me reintroduce the characters in the second story. The house is a person (the “self”), the people living in the house are cherished values, the dog is the ego and the letter carrier is a trump voter. The ego (sometimes called the “false self”) believes that a verbal attack on the cherished values can cause them to loose status and become tarnished, and so the verbal attack must be confronted immediately and forcefully. But the cherished values (the human family in the house) do not feel threatened. They believe that their existence and intrinsic value are rooted outside of the immediate social context. (Exactly where they are rooted is the sort of question that religions seek to answer.) The ego (dog) doesn’t recognize intrinsic value, only social status.
Getting back to the suggestion of engaging Trump voters, I’m not suggesting that they should be ignored. But it may be helpful to keep in mind that you, the progressive Democrat, and your cherished values have intrinsic worth that is independent of what others think.
Some who commented on Willis’ article assumed that seeking to win over Trump voters would imply watering down the Democratic platform. I don’t think this is what Willies is advocating and I would certainly not support such a move. Helpfully another commenter pointed out that Trump voters are unconcerned and uniformed when it comes to matters of public policy, so there is no need to modify positions for them.
Here is a link to a delightful interview from 2016 where a labor organizer describes organizing in an overtly racist environment.