A little nagging idea about Fundie Homophobes wants out of my head. Maybe it's useful for debate, maybe not. You decide. Brain dump starts here:
First a disclaimer: I am not now, nor have I ever been, a member of the homosexual party. When I was thirty or so I encountered one of theose self-hating gay proselytizers that claimed we all have gay fantasies. I checked with Mr. Happy about that assertion, and he assured me that he was in no way interested in such things. On the other hand, I am often ridiculed by swaggering crackers because I have no gaydar and will converse amicably with anybody (until they say something pro-Stupid.) Frankly, a person's sexual orientation is simply of no interest to me since I got married.
So anyway, the "reformed homosexuals" or "recovering queers" or "ex-gays" or whatever claptrap they are calling themselves lately have posited this literally queer hypothesis: Gay sex is addictive because the orgasms are so much more intense." (Note I do not say "theory." There is a difference between a hypothesis and a theory, and it's high time we stopped letting the creationists blur the distinction. See DarkSyde ad-nauseum.) This hypothesis goes hand in glove with the Falwell/Robertson "gay recruiting" trope. As if any straight male devotee of the female form could ever be enticed by a man's hairy lips, let alone the lower bits. (See disclaimer above.) Then there's the whole O'Riley/Savage conflation of homosexuality and pedophilia.
But then we keep finding out just how many of these moral crusaders are, in fact, gay, or pedophiles, or both. And a standard psychological term starts flashing neon in my head: PROJECTION. Pedophiles do, in fact, "recruit." Who would know that better than a pedophile? But it's the whole orgasm thing that's really revealing, IMHO.
After all, if you are gay, and trying to pretend you're not, probably the best sex you have ever had in your life was the times when you "strayed" over to your natural side of the fence. All the rest of the time you are sublimating your sex drive toward women, who you are not attracted to, like an inmate in some inside-out prison. And that would certainly seem like addiction to somebody who thinks it's destructive behavior. Cognitive dissonance, anyone? These people need major therapy. They are so far into denial they can't even tell they're on a river.
No poll question. I want detailed aswers as to why I'm right, wrong, or just confused because my gaydar is broken.