I am not a perfect Mother but I feel a good one. I am terrible in emergency situations. I will panic very easily when my children are hurting or sick.
I am not afraid of any person or any adversary except illness (especially life threatning).
I think a good Mom will disicipline their children with love and be consistent and I was not always that way. I could be swayed in my youthful parenting. It is funny how the times and age will change a person's persepective.
A mama never gets used to that dreaded high fever or sick child. NEVER.
It doesn't matter if they are 40 or 4 months.
These are some of the things that goes through a Mother's head from birth on....
.The Mama that loves her kids will start pulling out everything to make them better. The thermometer is at hand. The constant checking in on and the no sleep is the battle gear for Mothers of sick children or even grown children. The watching of a small child rest will take over when that child is not well.
When they fall down..this Mama will worry the child to death..Where does it hurt, did you hit your head, where did you fall, what bit you, show me, show me the boo boo,
why are you crying, why the frown, and then it evolves. What kind of things did that person say to you? Why are you upset? Did someone get your upset? Brush your teeth....Take your bath....Don't look at me in that tone of voice? (lol) What do you mean you are getting serious? How far is that school? Please God don't let him miss this opportunity. Please God, don't let me rip out that bully's tongue. Oh ..you can't watch any TV till that homework is done... I want them to have that job and home so badly. Who do you think you are talking to? Look me in the eye and tell me this version again.. So many things and it is a labor of love and it doesn't matter if they are mishevious or not..You love them unconditionally.
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A true Mother's love will never waver even in disappointment. She can be upset but that love outweighs everything. IMO..Normally. I do not believe all Mothers are instinctevly good parents just because they gave birth. Some cats eat their kittens and some birth parents desert, abuse, or neglect their children. I am not a friend to my children...I am their parent. They can get a buddy somewhere but when they are in trouble or upset I want them to know a parent is there. I feel the same about Daddy's. I do want them to trust me out of love and maybe just a tinge of fear but know they can talk to me about anything but not in detail like their buddy would. Mothers do not want to know how much tongue Jeff gives while smooching but their buddy wants all the details.. Not Mothers. A Mom will see their child still as a child even if they are showing grey hair.
There is nothing too gross IMO for a parent to clean or wipe up. There is no pain,either physically or emotionally that a good Mama or Dad doesn't want to take on themselves and free the child from it.
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I can't sleep till that car pulls in the driveway. I want them to be happy. I will get the money up..somehow....
I didn't really want that piece of pie, let him/her have it. A good Mother will discipline but not beat her child or abuse it. Children are precious. They are precious of all ages and if that child goes to jail, that Mama will be there. She will visit when no one else will.
If that child goes to war , that Mama won't rest till she gets the next letter. If that Mama is a praying Mama, she won't stop praying till a crisis passes. This is what a Mama is. The need to sleep does not matter, the need to eat does not matter, there is not an ounce of room for selfhishness in a Mother's heart. She has to put up a sacrafice to put her needs second or last to that baby's needs and as they grow older , the sacrafice may be less but it will still be made..EVERY TIME.
Every child needs parents as role models. Every child needs a light to guide their path and they need a Mom or Mom figure to be that lighthouse. They need direction . They need many things but mostly they need love. They need that from Fathers but this is Mothers Day so it is directed toward's Mother's feeling.
I don't understand the partying Mama's who are too busy partying to read to their children to correct them, or yell constantly at them or never praise them or never participate in their activities. I don't understand it. I am glad I am the kind of Mother I am. The kind who will MAKE you go to bed at a certain time whether you sleep or not but will insist on it or find yourself in a corner.
I am the type of Mother who will quit hugging last. I am the kind who cheers the loudest and longest at a ballgame.
Clap the loudest at a concert and smile the biggest when amused and cry the longest in my privacy because the kid is upset or just got a divorce and hurting or lost a job.
Being a Mother is for life. A life long appointment. Every day I learn from my kids.
I hope I learn how to be a better person.
I learn humility from my kids because they can humble you with little pictures they draw for you and only you, that hang on the refrigerator with your pootiespics they drew. You are the one they look up to with love and glow with pride , so pics hang on the fridge like the work of art they are and you couldn't be prouder if they were Picasso.
They hug you and kiss you and run to you in your darkest hours . They fall asleep in your lap and they walk all over your feet and your heart but you love them and if you are lucky or blessed.. they love you back. Some of you including me no longer have their mama's with us but we still have the memories.
My little 7 year old got in trouble the first of the year when she was 6 for writing I love my Mommie all over her library book. Her reason " I missed you today Mama".
I said, " We can't write in library books but I will make sure you can write me notes on as much paper as I can find. We never run out of paper. She erased the love notes to me but without her knowledge I probably will go back and buy that library book.6 year olds do not erase that well.
Happy Mothers Day !
Happy Mothers Day