Some time back in my life I recall having a friend in my life who gave me an education on saying the words I'm sorry. I must confess that I needed this educational moment and it has changed my verbiage as well as given me pause to think before I speak.
I use to say I was sorry for everything. I even said I was sorry for bumping into furniture and other objects. Now how sorry is that? According to my friend, I was one sorry ass!
I am beyond the point of trying to analyze why or how I became a sorry ass. I could blame it on my upbringing! After all, I was raised in a Republican pond and lived on a Republican lily pad at the time. Yet the reasons just take me down roads that really never benefited me. Hence, I landed on the left of the pond and jumped on another political bandwagon/lily pad.
With this in mind comes the lesson. My friend said to me that to not say I'm sorry. One should save the I'm sorry moments for when something horrible happens, like when George McGovern ran for office and I canvased my ass off for him while living in Maryland. I had to really give myself an I'm sorry talking to. If you physically hurt someone by accident or say very mean things (very very mean filled with slurs of the moment depending on where you live) type stuff. I'm sorry is for the times that encounters have a lasting after effect.
Then my friend shared his slant on the I'm sorry words. It reminded me of repentance in a strange way. He then said I should extend an apology verses the I'm sorry words. When something goes wrong or a misunderstanding occurs, just say I apologize for my words/actions and etc. This way you maintain your dignity. This way you are freeing yourself of unwarranted guilt.
This became one of my treasures in my toad life! More important at this juncture in time as my passion for equality and human rights and all the things that threaten the rights of women is in danger. Sometimes my zeal for spouting off my beliefs and what I think the Republican party is doing comes on too strong. In other words the croaking toad may border on being obnoxious!
Surely you would agree that the sound of a croaking toad can take one over the edge from peace and serenity to being overwhelmed with annoying! Will I say I'm sorry?
Hell no! I apologize if you think I am trying to convert you. Just a simple misunderstanding and a view from another lily pad. I will not be the singing Brenda Lee, "I'm sorry" toad.
I will keep in mind that discretion is important. I will not back down about women and their rights. I will not stop croaking for equality of individuals that I share life with. I will only apologize when I get full of this bullshit the "other guys" try to pass off in a cloak of religious sentiment as I begin croaking with a million pieces of crackers falling out of my mouth.
Pass the apology on and get off your sorry ass!
Ribbit- I'm done.