A few weeks ago I was feeling on top of the world. Well okay not the very top but close. I was going to be able to get the car fixed finally and could breathe a bit. Then the other shoe dropped. Seems like there is always another shoe with chronic pain. You can never get ahead. Between the pain and lack of sleep and gazillion doctor appointments plus in my case work it is a bit exhausting. Ok it’s very exhausting. Then hearing my wife tell me she wants to split because no one told her that her life would be over at 46 and she can’t handle all the bad crap going on with me. Maybe I could understand that if SHE was not the reason for a lot of the bad crap. No not my health issues. Those are mine 100% ! The money issues though are 100% her. She left her job 11 years ago saying it was just too much mentally. ( I agree it was tough but could have gotten better or she could have tried transferring within the company.) I supported her and said fine, look for something and leave. She left without another job lined up. That was basically the end of her employment history. She did work a few places for 2 or 3 months here and there but basically did not work at all for 11 years. After about 6 months she decided to go to school to improve her chances ( so she said.) Again I said great just do not go to the same school your sister is going to. She went to the same school. They took her for as much as they could and did jack to help her get a job after graduating with a coding degree. After a few more months it was time for her to go to school again , this time for transcription. She did get a job from that, at basically minimum wage. Meanwhile bills were piling up and we had not made a house payment in ages. In the middle of all this she decided to declare bankruptcy to “Save” the house. ( House is in her name only) Somehow she got the bankruptcy to go through with no job even though I had begged her to get a job before she filed. We made the payments ( through my income only) until just a little while ago when my income did not go far enough to cover the daily bills and the bankruptcy payment. ( Never mind the dang house payment.)
So now 11 years later she is complaining we have no money and do not do anything and don’t go on vacation or have a newer car. She also hates the fact that because of my back issues we don’t go out anymore. ( Of course the fact we have ZERO extra cash to go out does not enter into the facts, only my back issues.) She did finally find a way to have some money so she could have some fun. She took out multiple payday loans and so now they are yanking about $400.00 out of every paycheck leaving me to try and figure a way to keep feeding the furbabies and the bills paid. How the heck she got the loans with no income is beyond me. Now she is saying she will pay everything herself and wants me gone. The reality is she would need to make about 56K a year to do that. Not likely with zero job history for 11 years. Of course that is my fault also. Kind of a huge kick in the teeth if you ask me. Heck even her family is siding with me and flatout refuses to bail her out. So if you don’t hear much that is why.