Dear friends,
So there it is. In back and white. Irrefutable and indefensible. I'm sitting here stunned, gobsmacked, rendered almost incapable of making my fingers move to type these words.
Nothing about this makes me happy. I am not a partisan rooting for some cause. You know that. I am advocating for people, for us, for everyone. For you.
As you read this you may think I'm attacking you and your beliefs, but I am not trying to attack anyone. I'm telling you the hard truth. It may be painful, but it is real. Truth often is just that. It can be denied for quite some time, but in the end that reality will come calling at your door.
It just has, although you may not yet be quite ready acknowledge it.
The current President of the United States is a narcissist. He has been one his entire adult life. He is not just an average narcissist, of the kind we see way too often in politics, he is a stone-cold, grade-A, exemplary specific case of clinical narcissism.
You can't hide from this by invoking the "lying media". No one has to trust a single word from any media figure to see this fact, as plain as day. Just listen to the words from his own mouth. Read his Twitter feed. Pay attention to his career. Now look at the list of the criteria for clinical NPD - Narcissistic Personalty Disorder - and compare them.
If you can tell me with a straight face that this man is not a narcissist you might as well try telling me that the bear that's attacking my garbage can isn't a bear,or the mosquito that just bit my arm isn't a mosquito, or that the sun isn't shining at noon.
So what? There is a long answer but here's the short version. The essential point.
The narcissist has no empathy, cares for no one else except themselves, and projects and maintains a false image of themselves behind which they hide the reality of who they are; and will tell any lie or work any angle to keep people from seeing the real person. No one ever escapes from a relationship with a narcissist without suffering loss. Only the narcissist wins. You lose.
For a while you might think you are winning, because while you are being used the narcissist will tell you everything you want to hear, built you up, defend you, be in a strong, powerful team with you.
You fell for it. It's very, very seductive. How many us of haven't at some point in our lives? It's no shame.
The only shame is not seeing the truth when it's flat out staring you in the face.
And now it is. On February 7th, 2020, in his own words, recorded on tape with his permission, the President told Bob Woodward in exact detail that he knew then how dangerous and deadly the coronavirus was. The media isn't lying to you. His own words. You can listen to the tape, it's everywhere now. If you won't listen to that tape, you should ask yourself what you are hiding from.
Hiding, perhaps, from the truth that this man, the current President of the United Status, Donald John Trump, is not who he says he is.
That the carefully crafted and calibrated public image is not the real person. Of course it isn't. He's a narcissist. He is pretending. He is lying. He is pretending and lying to you, for himself.
Not some little white lie, not some average political lie that pols tell all the time in the dirty game of politics.
No, knowing full well and in detail that hundreds of thousands of lives were on the line, he chose to lie repeatedly, continuously, to the entire nation and everyone in it. He told you it was going to go away. He told you it was just like the flu. He told you unless you were old or sick you had nothing to worry about. He implied to you that masks were for sissies. He held rallies for his own supporters where every precaution against an airborne virus was ignored, when he knew full well that it was airborne. All for a better look, for pictures of adoring cheering crowds all packed together, their cheers full-throated, uninhibited by the masks he made everyone near him wear, obsessively, because he knew.
Why did he do this? Why would anyone put his own supporters in such risk, knowingly?
We know the answer, and he has confirmed it for us. He is a narcissist. He only cares about his supporters to the extent they (you, if you support him) are useful to him. His image, the photos, the carefully projected lies, are all that matter to him. They are there for one purpose: so he can win. Because narcissists are obsessed with winning. Because it validates their superiority.
So what? Maybe you don't like him, but you like what he's doing for America. Maybe he makes you feel safer by protecting you and the country you love from the “radical left”, by keeping your taxes low, by assuring you that he will defend the primacy of your religion, if you are a Christian. I get all that, I really do.
I get how hard it is to part with cherished illusions, ones that make you feel good, that make your heart sing as your narcissist ally deploys his talent for invective to attack your enemies.
It gives me no pleasure to tell you a truth that will hurt. But I must.
No one comes out of any relationship to a narcissist winning. The end result, after the thrill ride that felt so good when it started, will be nothing but pain and loss. And when the narcissist is in a relationship not just with you but with your entire nation, then that entire nation will lose, and the causes he is most closely allied with will lose, and that means the things closest to your heart will lose.
I have to tell you now, and it should be obvious, that if you still support this man, you are in that part of the relationship where the writing is on the wall but you still want to believe, need to believe, will yourself to believe, even when that tiny voice inside you is screaming that something isn't right here.
Listen to that voice. It's the real you, telling you what you need to hear. You don't have to tell anyone else if you don't want to. I know your friends might not like hearing that you no longer believe in the false image. They might attack you.
But trust me on this, you are not the only one.
I have told you the truth as I believe it, and I have no doubts at this point, not even a little one, that everything I have said is true.
I have told you this out of love and concern. It's a sad thing for me. I have held off writing this for a long time.
And like we said a little while ago, you have to make it. No choice is a choice.
But we all have to live with the consequences.