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So now that marriage equality has been restored in California, and DOMA is dead, I asked my boyfriend / partner / roommate to get married!

He said, "We can't.  We live in Texas"

I told him that California does not have a residency requirement for marriage.

Residency Requirements:

You do not need to be a California resident to marry in California.
Application and ID Requirements:

To marry in California, the two parties may not be already married to each other or other individuals. Both parties must appear in person and bring valid picture identification to the County Clerk’s Office to apply for a marriage license in California. Valid picture identification is one that contains a photograph, date of birth, and an issue and expiration date, such as a state issued identification card, drivers license, passport, military identification, etc. Some counties may also require a copy of your birth certificate.

So he said "Meh. OK. Napa?"  (How romantic right?)

And based on Windsor, we can get married in California and get the 1100+ federal benefits, right?

Texas does not have income tax, so I don't have to worry about filing two tax returns.

While I know we will have some issues with other Texas laws, my federal tax penalty for being gay is going to end.

So I'm booking a venue for a nice fall wedding in Napa Valley.

and now... it's payback time...

To all my friends and family, even if we have not spoken in years, you're getting a invitation and you better be there.

And I'm expecting some fabulous presents.

I've been in many of your weddings.
I've been in some of your second weddings.
I've given you lots of very nice presents.
I've canceled vacations for your engagement parties.
I've flown to the other side of the world to be at your weddings.
I've attended your divorce parties.
I've given you baby showers.
I've attended 1st birthday parties through graduation, presents in hand.
I've organized bachelor parties with strippers (that I had no interest in seeing).
I've even performed a couple of your weddings.  (Yes, "teh gay" can perform wedding ceremonies in Texas and let me tell you, they are fabulous!)

Now it's my turn...

and I expect fabulous stuff...  (and no friggin toaster-ovens... I have way more than I know what to do with.)

Now it's my turn...  

and the stripper better look like Jake Gyllenhaal.  

12:58 PM PT: Thanks for the rec list...

Congratulations to all of us!  

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