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Well,
It is with much trepidation that I start to compose this post.
Some who read this will be upset and angry that I kept secrets.
Some who read this will be upset and angry that I don't follow bible teachings.
Some who read this will be upset and question why I didn't trust them enough to share my truth.
Some who read this will say:  "duh!"

Oddly in this society, it is a mandatory part of life for a gay man to "come out"....to declare his sexuality publicly..

So here goes... I'm gay.

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I have to admit, I have been dreading this call for a long time... Earlier this week, a good friend of ours, John called us.  

We had not spoken much since Skip's Husband and I got married in November.  At that time, John and his wife Phyllis called to congratulate us and to ask all about the wedding in NYC.

While we were on the phone after our wedding, I was so excited to tell them about our wonderful weekend and how special their phone call was to us... how their love for us does not matter if we're gay or married or whatever... they love us... and that means so much to both of us.

But in the back of my mind, I knew that our happy news might have an impact on our relationship with them...

I was so scared when I received a call from him this week...

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What tragedy has your gay marriage caused?

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During the 2012 Legislative Session Senate Substitute  for House Bill 2117 was passed  and signed into law. Section 40 of the Bill provides that as of January 1, 2013, the food sales tax refund statutes found in K.S.A. 79­3633 through 79­3639 are repealed.  As a result, effective for tax year 2013, food sales tax refunds are no longer allowed under these provisions.

The new food sales tax credit is to be applied against the taxpayer’s Kansas income tax liability after all the other credits allowed under the Kansas income tax act. The credit is not refundable, and cannot be carried forward.

Brownback has been so happy to remove business taxes in the hopes of driving up employment.  That didn't work.  So now he wants my mother to pay more taxes so the business don't have to pay more.    

Sad that Kansas forced the elderly to pay more taxes so that the Koch Brothers can enjoy their private jets and million dollar bottles of wine.

So what is the real impact?  Follow me below the orange tornado of taxation

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Sun Jan 19, 2014 at 03:15 PM PST

Dear Bachelor, Bull-caca

by skip945

Poor, misunderstood Juan Pablo.

there's this thing about gay people... it seems to me, and I don't know if I'm mistaken or not... but they're more 'pervert' in a sense. And to me the show would be too strong... too hard to watch."
Yes, it is much easier watching you chasing 24 women, kissing them all, half naked, leading them on, just to dump them on TV.  Yes, that is much more main-stream America dating and relationships... you know, traditional relationships.

As we all know, calling gay people "perverts in a sense" doesn't go over to well with teh gay... So lets see how he responds to people who might be offended by being called a pervert:

People,
I want to apologize to all the people I may have offended because of my comments on having a Gay or Bisexual Bachelor. The comment was taken out of context. If you listen to the entire interview, there's nothing but respect for Gay people and their families. I have many gay friends and one of my closest friends who's like a brother has been a constant in my life especially during the past 5 months. The word pervert was not what I meant to say and I am very sorry about it. Everyone knows English is my second language and my vocabulary is not as broad as it is in Spanish and, because of this, sometimes I use the wrong words to express myself. What I meant to say was that gay people are more affectionate and intense and for a segment of the TV audience this would be too racy to accept. The show is very racy as it is and I don't let my 5 year old daughter watch it. Once again, I'm sorry for how my words were taken. I would never disrespect anyone.

Sinceramente,
Juan Pablo Galavis.

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Right after the Supremes decided Windsor earlier this year, I asked my PBR (Partner, Boyfriend, Roommate) to get married. He said yes and I started planning our wedding.

I worried about the timing of the wedding and what the IRS would decide to do with our equality.
I worried when the shutdown dashed any hopes of a Washington DC wedding.
I worried about my credit card balances when we talked about a big wedding in Napa.
I worried about the vows, what we would say, what we would pledge.
I worried about what we would wear.
I worried about who would be invited... and who would actually come.

After the IRS ruled we could file jointly, we decided that we would be married this year come hell or high water.

And we picked our location and called four of our closest friends.

And then the fun began...

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I'm married now... who should kiss my ass first?

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Wed Oct 02, 2013 at 10:17 PM PDT

TX-10, Gov't Shutdown, and my wedding

by skip945

It feels like I'll never get married.

I finally reached a "grand bargain" with my boyfriend/partner/roommate to have a wedding this year.

He gets a really nice ring and I get a major tax reduction.

Our wedding in Washington D.C. would be great... one of our favorite spots and many beautiful options to hold the wedding among the national parks, museums, and monuments.

Well, we all know how this turns out...

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Did you send a letter to your congress critter?

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Exactly one month ago, the Supreme Court declared Section 3 of the Defense of Marriage Act unconstitutional.

Quickly, within hours, the impact was felt in several areas including immigration equality, federal benefits, and state and federal taxation for residents in Marriage Equality states.

First same-sex married couple to be approved for permanent resident visa
Immigration Equality
Benefits are granted to LGBT Federal Employees
Ohio recognizes a marriage from Maryland for a terminally ill man and his husband
PA AG won't defend state's marriage equality ban
PA issues first same-sex marriage license

And the IRS?   One month later... Crickets

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OMG! Where should we get married?

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Wed Jun 26, 2013 at 11:05 AM PDT

This Texas boy is getting married!

by skip945

So now that marriage equality has been restored in California, and DOMA is dead, I asked my boyfriend / partner / roommate to get married!

He said, "We can't.  We live in Texas"

I told him that California does not have a residency requirement for marriage.

Residency Requirements:

You do not need to be a California resident to marry in California.
Application and ID Requirements:

To marry in California, the two parties may not be already married to each other or other individuals. Both parties must appear in person and bring valid picture identification to the County Clerk’s Office to apply for a marriage license in California. Valid picture identification is one that contains a photograph, date of birth, and an issue and expiration date, such as a state issued identification card, drivers license, passport, military identification, etc. Some counties may also require a copy of your birth certificate.

So he said "Meh. OK. Napa?"  (How romantic right?)

And based on Windsor, we can get married in California and get the 1100+ federal benefits, right?

Texas does not have income tax, so I don't have to worry about filing two tax returns.

While I know we will have some issues with other Texas laws, my federal tax penalty for being gay is going to end.

So I'm booking a venue for a nice fall wedding in Napa Valley.

and now... it's payback time...

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I love living in Texas, except I have the dumb$h!+ brothers Cruz and Cornyn in the Senate representing me....

But today, John Cornyn figured out how we can make the sequester not seem like a scary boogie-man created by that Muslim, Communist, Socialist, Foreigner President of ours.
It's quite simple, actually.

And he shared his brilliant analysis with all of us who are so blessed to be living in Texas.

See his bright ideas right below the cheese kolache of Kos.

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What will you do to put the sequester in perspective?

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Thu Nov 08, 2012 at 07:27 PM PST

look behind you...

by skip945

when you feel alone...
when you feel that the people don't understand...
just know...
we've always been there...
we've always had your back...

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Mon Nov 05, 2012 at 09:28 PM PST

deja vu all over again

by skip945

Exactly 4 years ago, I sat at my computer...
confused... hopeful....  even in a different city.

My hopes and dreams for my equality and our country's future are tied up in President Obama this time... not Senator Obama.

I'm so excited to see the results of all of our work...  

NH... please help us bring our President back to finish what we started.  

Update:
Last year, the vote at this point was 32-16.     2 to 1.
Senator Obama crushed Senator McCain.

This time its 28-14.   2 to 1.
deja vu?

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Thu Oct 18, 2012 at 03:08 PM PDT

Happy Birthday to me!

by skip945

another birthday...
meh...
pretty much a non-event except now I get free coffee at McDonalds...
whatever...

but then it happened...
I got a surprise birthday present today...

More below the orange boudin kolache of equality.

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