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Center block of triciawyse's quilt.  It is hard to see in the picture but the cat is wearing jewels.

Our friend, high uintas, is losing her last living relative, her dear sister, to dementia.  The heart ache and anguish this causes her is unbearably painful.  They have always been very close, these sisters,  but the day will soon come when high uintas' sister does not know her any more.  

From her diary:

I always knew that my sister would go before me barring some accident or terrible illness, she is ten years older after all. I just never thought she would leave this way. I never thought she would forget my husband's name or the word "cigarette" even though she wants one now. She has even forgotten how to write.

Memory is such a powerful thing, it is amazing what she does remember. She gets the little details right but she messes it up somehow. She remembers how I ended up getting my little dog Joey, but she believes that she was there when she wasn't. I chock it up to her incredible imagination, she visualizes everything so vividly that sometimes she imaginations herself into situations she knows about but had no part of.

Let us ease high uintas' pain with loving words and let her know that she has us.  We are here for her.

Dusty inspects triciawyse's quilt.  All the cats loved this one.  Wonder why?

What is a community quilt?  It is a quilt bearing messages of love and support from you, transcribed by me with archival ink on muslin.  My sister and I sew the messages into a colorful quilt that provides more than just bodily warmth, it radiates the warmth of love. The love never washes out, either...  This will be a supportive keepsake that high uintas can wrap in whenever she needs a hug.  

Unit Zero's quilt, showing the backing

It takes time and material to make community quilts -- and it is our small living.  If you can contribute toward high uintas' quilt as well as give a message, that would be so kind.  Here is a PayPal link -- or message me for an address should you prefer a check.  $15/message is suggested -- although some give more to cover for those who give messages but cannot afford to donate.  All messages are welcome -- they will be so healing for high uintas, believe me!

How to use a community quilt:  Unit Zero with his quilt -- read about it here

These people have given messages for high uintas so far:

1.    slksfca
2.    joedemocrat
3.    Susan from 29
4.    JaxDem
5.    triciawyse
6.    cfk in the Thumb of Michigan
7.    arizonablue
8.    mimi
9.    Otteray Scribe
10.    Dallasdoc
11.    Hulibow
12.    Caddis Fly
13.    nomandates
14.    One Pissed Off Liberal
15.    Ekaterin
16.    Kitsap River and Charles CurtisStanley
17.    Pam from Calif
18.    Old Sailor
19.    bfitzinAR
20.    enhydra lutris
21.    newpioneer
22.    BMScott
23.    kishik
24.    escapee
25.    Boise Blue
26.    commonmass
27.    KrazyKitten
28.    Kerflooey
29.    llbear
30.    Diana in NoVa
31.    Terre
32.    Louisiana 1976
33.    auapplemac
34.    Observerinvancouver

2thanks' quilt, showing the backing

Need inspiration?  Here are some of high uintas' messages:

For high uintas, To ease an aching heart.  Susan from 29

High u, dear heart, Seek the hidden treasures within this quilt
Love and comfort to ease the pain
Warm hugs for the sadness
Encouragement for the dark days
Positive energy from faithful friends who love you  JaxDem

hu, my love, always know that I am with you and thinking about you and love you dearly, sweetie. HUG and purrs and love, always! Trish  triciawyse

Memory may go, but love remains forever.  Dallasdoc

May love surround you.  Hulibow

Though this journey is so difficult
Your sister's heart will always sing with your love. As you wrap yourself in the magic of this quilt
Let its healing stitches soothe and comfort you, always.  All my love, Bobby (newpioneer)

The center block in 2thanks' quilt is called "Peace and Plenty".  Here, the block is used in a quilt we gave to the Detroit VA Hospital as part of the DK VA Hospital Support Project.

These are the community quilts completed to date:

1. othniel (cellulitis and ensuing complications, RIP)
2. exmearden (cancer of heart and lung, RIP)
3. MsSpentyouth (brain tumor)
4. Moe99 (lung cancer, RIP)
5. Michelle Caudle (ovarian cancer, RIP)
6. BFSkinner (lupus)
7. Kitsap River (long wait for kidney donor that ended 2/18/11)
8. Frederick Clarkson (blood clots)
9. Dreaming of Better Days (lymphoma)
10. one bite at a time (lost house and belongings to fire)
11. Timroff (cellulitis)
12. Sol Fed Joe (multiple cancers and health problems)
13. Brubs (AIDS, immune reconstitution syndrome)
14. rserven (gall bladder infection with dangerous complications)
15. grndrush (brain tumor, RIP)
16. ImpeachKingBushII (needs liver transplant)
17. andsarahtoo (lupus)
18. Frank Cocozzelli (muscular dystrophy)
19. luvsathoroughbred (breast cancer)
20. Predictor (stroke and HIV)
21. Austex54 (caretaker to othniel)
22. Theodore Olbermann, RIP
23. cskendrick (antibiotic resistant infection)
24. Keith Olbermann (caregiver to father)
25. Juan (cancer, RIP)
26. Ana (a young horse belonging to Juan, hit by truck)
27. MA Liberal’s mother (Alzheimer’s)
28. Charles CurtisStanley (caretaker to Kitsap River)
29. Lorikeet (cervical cancer)
30. Dr. Lori (metastatic cancer)
31. ulookarmless (cancer, heart condition, stroke, RIP)
32. riverlover (caregiver to husband suffering from liver failure, now widowed)
33. Melody Townsel (caregiver to dying father, now deceased)
34. dadanation (AIDS)
35. Dr. William F. Harrison (leukemia, RIP)
36. Larry Bailey (sudden loss of partner to heart attack)
37. ramara (adopted son with fetal alcohol syndrome)
38. Noor B (herniated disk from car accident)
39. Louisiana 1976 (fibromyalgia, severe arthritis, depression)
40. stumpy (MS, stroke, RIP)
41. bleeding heart's niece (cancer, RIP)
42. escapee (failure of corneal surgery)
43. SarahLee (lymphoma, Lyme Disease)
44. Bustergirl (ovarian cancer)
45. mimi's niece (cancer, RIP)
46. ZenTrainer (breast cancer)
47. Miss Blue (severe injury to shoulder, anxiety over coverage for surgery)
48. Granny Doc (bladder cancer, RIP)
49. mango (heart attack)
50. nudger (ovarian cancer, RIP)
51. DaNang65 (heart condition)
52. Lt. Choi (exhaustion)
53. Nurse Kelley (spinal stenosis)
54. Ben Masel (lung cancer, RIP)
55. Otterary Scribe (caregiver, grieving grandfather, grieving widower)
56. Aji (autoimmune diseases incl. fibromyalgia, inflammatory arthritis, & Chronic Epstein-Barr Virus Syndrome)
57. JaxDem (suddenly widowed)
58. DavidW (AIDS and other undiagnosed illness)
59. Jester the Marine (facing amputation of leg)
60. peregrine kate (endometrial cancer)
61. mimi (grief due to family illnesses)
62. alliedoc (endometrial cancer, RIP)
63. labwitchy (diffuse scleroderma)
64. Daily Kos (celebrating community)
65. belinda ridgewood (sudden loss of her mother)
66. princesspat (blood clots, deep vein thrombosis)
67. Scott Olsen (severe head injury)
68. SensibleShoes (caring for sister with brain cancer)
69. Joanna (cancer)
70. cany (grieving caretaker of mother with dementia)
71. Patriot Daily News Clearinghouse (breast cancer)
72. Scottie Thomaston (intense chronic pain from spine, kidney stones)
73. paradise50 (throat cancer)
74. woodtick (caregiver to mother with Alzheimer's)
75. BeninSC (mulitple fractures from bicycle accident)
76. Adrian (colon cancer)
77. Smoh (breast cancer, stroke, depression)
78. slksfca (sudden onset of arthritis requiring hip replacement)
79. arizonablue (grief and exhaustion)
80. Lorikeet (grieving widow - this quilt was a gift from the Rescue Rangers)
81. remembrance (breast cancer) and Glen the Plumber (her caregiver)
82. MassHarry (colon cancer, RIP)
83. Regina in a Sears Kit House (severe immune problems from Lyme Disease)
84. nannyboz (grief for father, crippling back pain requiring surgery)
85. raina (grief)
86. earicicle (breast cancer)
87. AntKat (cancers of the throat, RIP)
88. Alma (breast cancer)
89. DarkHawk98 (lung cancer)
90. llbear (brittle diabetic)
91. michelewin (grief and trauma)
92. Dave in Northridge (grieving widower)
93. racheltracks (complications from knee surgery)
94. Ebby (grief and stress)
95. Leaves on the Current (cancer)
96. Carol in San Antonio (cancer)
97. commonmass (grieving widower)
98. Clytemnestra (DES daughter, debilitating abdominal pain and bleeding)
99. Oke (survived life threatening pulmonary infection, COPD, depression)
100. shanikka (diverticulitis, intestinal abscess and life threatening infection)
101. Serpents Choice (grief)
102. smarx (caregiver to mother who has dementia)
103. FloridaSNMOM (COPD, chronic pain, anxiety over access to health care)
104. Timaeus (enormous hernia requiring major surgery)
105. paradox (cyclic vomiting syndrome, PTSD, depression)
106. UnaSpenser (Lyme Disease)
107. LoreleiHI (reversals of fortune, homelessness, hearing loss, PTSD)
108. Vetwife (caregiver to husband and other family members)
109. namvetkato (PTSD, Agent Orange related illnesses including heart disease, spinal stenosis, and intense chronic pain)
110. Annalize5 (lung cancer, diabetes and other chronic ailments)
111. The Packhorse (heart disease and diabetes) and irishwitch (caregiver)
112. Phil N DeBlanc (grieving widower)
113. hopeful (breast cancer)
114. 2thanks (caregiver to wife)
115. Unit Zero (throat cancer)
116. triciawyse (childhood abuse survivor, seizure disorder, sadness, reversal of fortunes)

See also these three posts about the community quilt project:

KosAbility: A Virtual Quilt for Sara and Ann, from Community Quilt recipients

We Have Something to Say to YOU, Sara R and winglion!

Community Quilt FlashMob Brightens up NN13

Community Quilt Testimonial Videos

Dave in Northridge

hopeful's quilt, showing the backing

These quilts are planned:

Edrie (broke ankle at NN14, requiring surgery)
TrueBlueMajority (abiding grief)
MA Liberal (caretaker to her mother who has dementia)
Ellinorianne (rheumatoid arthritis and fibromyalgia)
MsGrin (life long heart problems requiring multiple surgeries)

Goldie helps me pin hopeful's quilt


Boots says, "Thank you for supporting community quilts!"


Originally posted to Sara R on Tue Jul 29, 2014 at 05:18 PM PDT.

Also republished by Community Quilt Project, PWB Peeps, Kitchen Table Kibitzing, Positive Intention and Lovingkindness, DKOMA, Street Prophets , and DK Quilt Guild.

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